So, I have been in a relationship for almost 3 months. We*ve met through his family and started talking on IM, and after that on the phone. I feel we have nice conversations and by talking to him I ”sensed” him to be calm, respectful, intelligent, smart and hard working. We have the same hometown (where I still live and where his family lives). He asked me 2 times to come to visit him (last invitation being made last week - but I told him it was too early to visit him and he understood telling me to announce him when I was ready, plus he has some work to do at his house and and we are planning to see each other in SEPTEMBER when he comes home with his work vacation) and he says we have interesting conversations and he talks so nicely and respectful to me.
The thing is that I feel we don*t communicate enough - he doesn*t send me texts on his own - I mean like a short text in the morning, telling me to have a nice day - it*s always me who sends them and he always responds back nicely. The phone talking is like 3-5 times a week (but I would want more, because I enjoy our conversations!!!) for like 10 -20 minutes and I feel like he*s not so much of a phone talker. He calls me every 2-3 days if I don*t call him in the mean time. He always tells me if he goes out on weekends with his friends (to a club, to the pool, to a barbecue and I tell him to have a good time with all my heart, but to tell you I am a little jealous of his friends, but I never showed him that). He has a stressful job, spending often extra hours there and most of the time, after work, he goes to the gym, because he*s an active guy, and he says this makes him relax and that*s mostly his week day!!!! And when he gets home he is tired of a long day. He also lives on his own and he has housing to do and when evening comes he gets tired and falls asleep easily. He only remembers me every 2-4 days and no, it*s not because he has somebody, it*s just him being like that.... I think that if you start to care for a person (as I am starting to ) you just make time for him, and all the tiredness that you have, caused by long work days is melted away by hearing the voice of your beloved. I could spend hours talking to him (although sometimes we run out of things to say, but that can happen to everybody). But I guess that*s just me who thinks that!
I MEAN THIS GUY IS SENDING ME MIXED SIGNALS and I don*t know what to think!!!! On one hand he is inviting me to come to visit him, tells me we have interesting conversations and tells me about his life - friends, family, his way of life AND on the other hand I feel like he*s forgetting about me for not texting me on his own(I mean one short message just to see that he thinks about me!!! - is that to much effort for him in his busy life???? it would take him 1 minute to write it!), and the phone calls are rare (1 phone at every 2-3 days, for only 10-15 minutes), but again if I call him and he can*t answer me at that moment, he sees the missed call and ALWAYS calls me back. I stopped sending him texts (just 5-10 texts/ week) and of course he DOESN*T send me texts on his own. Am I being paranoid here???? I need some opinions from you, because I feel this is driving me crazy! I mean I feel like that*s his way of being, but just seeing him acting like that I am just afraid to go to visit him, because maybe he won*t give me the attention that I deserve.
I don*t know what to make of his attitude. To me he seems like a child - imature, independent and kind of foolish. Sometimes, when he calls me I feel he calls because he HAS TO. But again, I am thinking that*s just me, and that maybe he*s not a romantic man, and men are a lot different from women ... What*s your opinion on this???? I would really appreciate an objective opinion!!!!
The thing is that I feel we don*t communicate enough - he doesn*t send me texts on his own - I mean like a short text in the morning, telling me to have a nice day - it*s always me who sends them and he always responds back nicely. The phone talking is like 3-5 times a week (but I would want more, because I enjoy our conversations!!!) for like 10 -20 minutes and I feel like he*s not so much of a phone talker. He calls me every 2-3 days if I don*t call him in the mean time. He always tells me if he goes out on weekends with his friends (to a club, to the pool, to a barbecue and I tell him to have a good time with all my heart, but to tell you I am a little jealous of his friends, but I never showed him that). He has a stressful job, spending often extra hours there and most of the time, after work, he goes to the gym, because he*s an active guy, and he says this makes him relax and that*s mostly his week day!!!! And when he gets home he is tired of a long day. He also lives on his own and he has housing to do and when evening comes he gets tired and falls asleep easily. He only remembers me every 2-4 days and no, it*s not because he has somebody, it*s just him being like that.... I think that if you start to care for a person (as I am starting to ) you just make time for him, and all the tiredness that you have, caused by long work days is melted away by hearing the voice of your beloved. I could spend hours talking to him (although sometimes we run out of things to say, but that can happen to everybody). But I guess that*s just me who thinks that!
I MEAN THIS GUY IS SENDING ME MIXED SIGNALS and I don*t know what to think!!!! On one hand he is inviting me to come to visit him, tells me we have interesting conversations and tells me about his life - friends, family, his way of life AND on the other hand I feel like he*s forgetting about me for not texting me on his own(I mean one short message just to see that he thinks about me!!! - is that to much effort for him in his busy life???? it would take him 1 minute to write it!), and the phone calls are rare (1 phone at every 2-3 days, for only 10-15 minutes), but again if I call him and he can*t answer me at that moment, he sees the missed call and ALWAYS calls me back. I stopped sending him texts (just 5-10 texts/ week) and of course he DOESN*T send me texts on his own. Am I being paranoid here???? I need some opinions from you, because I feel this is driving me crazy! I mean I feel like that*s his way of being, but just seeing him acting like that I am just afraid to go to visit him, because maybe he won*t give me the attention that I deserve.
I don*t know what to make of his attitude. To me he seems like a child - imature, independent and kind of foolish. Sometimes, when he calls me I feel he calls because he HAS TO. But again, I am thinking that*s just me, and that maybe he*s not a romantic man, and men are a lot different from women ... What*s your opinion on this???? I would really appreciate an objective opinion!!!!
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