30+ Is it the end ?

[cecile02]

Hi everybody !

I think our story is ending...
Since december, everything becomes worser and worser. Loneliness is hard to bear for me.
He is always busy, doesn't have so much time for me. He has always something to do for job, for family...etc...
Somehow it's good that he has things to do, but I feel like I am not important in his life, that there is no place for me in his world...
Moreover, nobody knows about my existence around him. We are in LDR since august 2012...He doesn't speak about something like closing the distance.
He just says that he is afraid, scared, about sharing daily life...He is afraid about commitment.
I feel sad.
Hope to read you.

Cheers.

[Moon]

I'm sorry to hear that. Assuming you're close-ish in age, a man saying he's afraid of commitment at this point is to be believed, and he's probably not going to change, unfortunately. He definitely should have told everyone about you by now Maybe it would be better for you to find a man who's not afraid to be with you, and is proud to have you by his side, you deserve better than being hidden in the background. Good luck.

[cecile02]

Thanks Moon. Yes, I agree...

[Hollandia]

Thanks Moon. Yes, I agree...

Hugs for your pain.

[Kiyama]

I feel your pain My ex was afraid of commitment too and about the same age. I tried so hard but it was all in vein in the end. For your own sake, you should close this chapter and not look back, whatever he says.

[piratemama]

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I wish there were an easy answer...

[cecile02]

Thanks to each one...
I called him...asked him one last time what were his projects for us ? what was his aim with me? He answered that he didn't think about us except when he called me...then i told him, that there was no need to come to see me in march...he asked me why...
and then, asked me if I had something else to say...I said no, asked him if he has something else to say. He said no and that He hung up, he had to go.
End of the conversation...20 min...I was dreaming a love that didn't really exist...on his side...
I don't know if true love exists...but I wish it to everybody here.
Cheers dear friends.

[Hollandia]

Thanks to each one...
I called him...asked him one last time what were his projects for us ? what was his aim with me? He answered that he didn't think about us except when he called me...then i told him, that there was no need to come to see me in march...he asked me why...
and then, asked me if I had something else to say...I said no, asked him if he has something else to say. He said no and that He hung up, he had to go.
End of the conversation...20 min...I was dreaming a love that didn't really exist...on his side...
I don't know if true love exists...but I wish it to everybody here.
Cheers dear friends.

You deserve better.

[differentcountries]

That sounds harsh. It may be early to close the distance, but not to introduce you to friends and family, and even though some guys act (or are) tough, them not missing you is not exactly pleasant. In LDR 's, there has to be words of affection, or there is little between visits. I am sorry, but it seems it is time to let this relationship go.

[dglynn77]

Thanks to each one...
I called him...asked him one last time what were his projects for us ? what was his aim with me? He answered that he didn't think about us except when he called me...then i told him, that there was no need to come to see me in march...he asked me why...
and then, asked me if I had something else to say...I said no, asked him if he has something else to say. He said no and that He hung up, he had to go.
End of the conversation...20 min...I was dreaming a love that didn't really exist...on his side...
I don't know if true love exists...but I wish it to everybody here.
Cheers dear friends.

Sweetheart, it does exist. That just means you haven't found the right person yet

[Moon]

Thanks to each one...
I called him...asked him one last time what were his projects for us ? what was his aim with me? He answered that he didn't think about us except when he called me...then i told him, that there was no need to come to see me in march...he asked me why...
and then, asked me if I had something else to say...I said no, asked him if he has something else to say. He said no and that He hung up, he had to go.
End of the conversation...20 min...I was dreaming a love that didn't really exist...on his side...
I don't know if true love exists...but I wish it to everybody here.
Cheers dear friends.

It does, cecile. I was almost 39 before I found it, don't lose hope.

[Ramir]

Dear Cecile02,

Like dglynn says...love does exist. It's just that you haven't found it yet.
Now is the most important time to refocus on yourself...most of all to be loving and gentle with yourself. Give yourself time to heal.

[Sanja]

Sorry to hear that, but it's for the best not to stick around someone who is afraid of commitment. I see your SO is from Croatia and I am from there as well. Don't give up on true love. It does exist. He just wasn't the one. Best wishes!

[TaraMarie]

Cecile....you are just starting he BEST time of your life. You are at the age where women become comfortable on their own skin, and finally realize their self worth. Your Mr. Right is out there waiting. You will find him when you are meant to find him. I am glad you didn't settle for Mr. Wrong!