30+ Anyone else worried about their biological clock?

[Petals]

Hi all,

Just feeling a bit bothered by the fact that I don't have a child and worried that maybe I have waited too long and maybe I will have difficulty conceiving and all that maybe stuff lol. I know that I have done the right thing by waiting but geez sometimes I read something negative about the risks of having a child after 35 and the fears surface.


I'm pretty good with dealing with these worries, but today I just want to release a bit of my anxiety here.

Thanks for listening

[TwoThree]

Definitely. I have always wanted to have children at a young age but life doesn't really care what you want. I'm turning 32 soon, which in itself isn't a big deal, but I've been diagnosed with PCOS earlier this year and that will make conception very difficult. I'm at a point in my life in which I'll be very happy if I have one child. If not, well, such is life. I'll probably be miserable about it for the rest of my life, though.

[Petals]

Definitely. I have always wanted to have children at a young age but life doesn't really care what you want. I'm turning 32 soon, which in itself isn't a big deal, but I've been diagnosed with PCOS earlier this year and that will make conception very difficult. I'm at a point in my life in which I'll be very happy if I have one child. If not, well, such is life. I'll probably be miserable about it for the rest of my life, though.

Ah, I'm sorry about the diagnosis, though that doesn't mean that you will never have a child; it just might take a little longer. A friend of mine who is 33 was told by her doctor that she should have a child within the next yr as the possibility exists that she will never conceive thereafter. She has been struggling to deal with the news because she is not in a relationship at the moment. It is tough to cope with that possibility when you have always wanted to have children.

[Mims27]

I have been thinking about it a lot more lately, being 31 and all but I feel younger so I guess that's good. I'm in better shape than I've ever been too. I would love to have children and bear at least one but if I can't, my SO can, she's younger. lol

[Petals]

I have been thinking about it a lot more lately, being 31 and all but I feel younger so I guess that's good. I'm in better shape than I've ever been too. I would love to have children and bear at least one but if I can't, my SO can, she's younger. lol

Ah, what a great advantage of the dynamics of your relationship lol. You have a few years to work with... I turn 35 in 4 months

[p_b82]

While I don't have a biological clock of my own, I think that modern diets and ways of lifes have pushed the 'window' back a few years from what is the accepted norm from our parent's generation, and therefore where and what a lot of the literature states.

My friend and sister have each had a child in their mid 30's, my brother in law is 41, so parenting can and does happen later on. But ignoring that ticking clock apparently does get quite a challenge for some - my sister wasn't ever planning on having kids, then the clock started to tick and well she did a U turn!

[Petals]

While I don't have a biological clock of my own, I think that modern diets and ways of lifes have pushed the 'window' back a few years from what is the accepted norm from our parent's generation, and therefore where and what a lot of the literature states.

My friend and sister have each had a child in their mid 30's, my brother in law is 41, so parenting can and does happen later on. But ignoring that ticking clock apparently does get quite a challenge for some - my sister wasn't ever planning on having kids, then the clock started to tick and well she did a U turn!

Stories like this one gives me hope. Also, I'm the product of older parents so I know that there's a big chance that I will conceive at some point. I live an active and healthy lifestyle in the hope that my chance of conceiving won't be diminished too much as I hit the 35 yr mark.

I will be ovulating during my next visit to SO, so hopefully we'll get lucky . After our last visit, he told me to stop taking birth control so that we can start trying .

[FloridaLovesChicago]

I'm right there with you. I'm 31...and I do have a child but my bf does not - however he's voiced that he does want children one day. I keep jokingly telling him that he better hurry and wife me because my eggs are getting old but in all honesty, they are! Everyone knows that the numbers reduce after the age of 30 and I'd love to have another baby...but i'll be 32 in a few months and I'm terrified it won't happen if we wait a few years! Sending good ju-ju your way...throw some back at me if you can

[differentcountries]

Yes, I think a lot about it. I am turning 35 this year and we can't even start trying. I hardly support myself as it is, and there is no space for a baby. Me and my husband is looking to buy a bigger and more practical flat before Christmas. It is really hard when my friends are all having babies. But I just started to get well, and actually got a job after being sick (no small feat in intself) and I want to finish my studies to get my old career back... Anyway, my husband wants kids with me as long as we are healthy and not in too much debt, SO said he doesn't know what he wants, and we have only been togther a littble bit more than a year so far. The kid thing is like dangerous terretory for me, it is something I want but also so scary. There are lots of questions to cover before establishing having kids - SO have not even visited my country yet, we have steps to cover before even thinking in that direction. My mother gave birth to 4 kids when she was 31-38, I hope I am as fertile as her.

[Petals]

I'm right there with you. I'm 31...and I do have a child but my bf does not - however he's voiced that he does want children one day. I keep jokingly telling him that he better hurry and wife me because my eggs are getting old but in all honesty, they are! Everyone knows that the numbers reduce after the age of 30 and I'd love to have another baby...but i'll be 32 in a few months and I'm terrified it won't happen if we wait a few years! Sending good ju-ju your way...throw some back at me if you can

Thanks for the good ju- ju lol ...Throwing some back at you .

[Petals]

Yes, I think a lot about it. I am turning 35 this year and we can't even start trying. I hardly support myself as it is, and there is no space for a baby. Me and my husband is looking to buy a bigger and more practical flat before Christmas. It is really hard when my friends are all having babies. But I just started to get well, and actually got a job after being sick (no small feat in intself) and I want to finish my studies to get my old career back... Anyway, my husband wants kids with me as long as we are healthy and not in too much debt, SO said he doesn't know what he wants, and we have only been togther a littble bit more than a year so far. The kid thing is like dangerous terretory for me, it is something I want but also so scary. There are lots of questions to cover before establishing having kids - SO have not even visited my country yet, we have steps to cover before even thinking in that direction. My mother gave birth to 4 kids when she was 31-38, I hope I am as fertile as her.

It's good that your health has improved! The perfect timing for a child is rare, so don't wait to have all your ducks in a row. Once you have the basics covered- go for it.

[AWC5182]

I don't really worry about my biological clock. At this point I don't really want children. I'm not saying that I dislike that or wouldn't be open to them, but I have been a firm believe that if the Lord has it in his plans for me to have one, it will happen when it will be. If it's not part of his plans for me, I need to he happy with that, as he knows what is the best path for me. I know my SO wants kids someday but it's too early in our relationship at this point to really be talking about that kind of thing. I did tell him my stance on kids, if they happen great, if they don't, also great, and he didn't seem to be bothered by it.

[Miss Cruella]

I'm 35 and will be 36 in 2015. I wasn't into children too much, although I love the kids of my friends and family. My fiancé'ld like to start a family, and I know he'ld be a great Dad, so I hope we'll have one one day... (Yes, I changed my mind ;-).
We had the chance of being together for a while in Summer but I wasn't pregnant. We don't know when we'll see eachother again and as we all know, the timing for the baby should be right so it ain't that easy... ;-)
So, to answer your question: YES, it scares me.
However, I try not to get overwhelmed by fear and/or stress, there are plenty of other things to worry about. We should take life as it is and be grateful for (the little) we have.

[Tomlovesher]

My aunt(30+) finally got a child after having a miscarriage for over 5 times. She found out she was pregnant just a few days before her birthday 1 month ago.

I think you'll be good until you're 40+, then you should start worrying.

[Petals]

My aunt(30+) finally got a child after having a miscarriage for over 5 times. She found out she was pregnant just a few days before her birthday 1 month ago.

I think you'll be good until you're 40+, then you should start worrying.

5 miscarriages! One miscarriage is hard enough - wow!

I'm really happy for her!. I hope this time she will have a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby