Hello everyone

[Yardbird75]

Hello everyone,
I'm brand new here and fairly new to a long distance relationship. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years. She recently had to relocate to Texas for work. She wanted me to go, and I would've, except I'm a single father and my youngest son wanted to finish school with his friends. She's been gone since September 1st. I've seen her twice since then. I'm just really struggling to trust her, even though she's never given me a reason not to. I'm struggling with the distance and feeling alone too. Any tips from some of you LDR veterans would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

[JonWhite]

My experience is quite a bit different. I've been in an LDR now for just 8 months or so. I live in the UK and she in the USA. We've never met. So, I fully understand your trust issues. Mine are perhaps worse given that I'm old enough to be her father but although I get really down at times, I really have no choice but to trust her particularly when she says stuff like "Every night is a battle in my mind between dreaming I’m with you and nightmares where I lose you. I miss you." as she did this morning. She touches my heart in so many ways but I keep asking myself why a gorgeous 32 year old widow would want a 68 year old man. She's either a "catfish" or I'm the luckiest man alive.

[Yardbird75]

Yeah that sounds pretty tough. I think my trust issues stem from my ex wife. We were married for 13 years and I did everything for her. She cheated on me and sadly I don't think I ever got over that. I have an extremely tough time trusting women. Especially with all the extra attention they get from social media etc. Hang in there bud. Hopefully you get to meet soon.

[JonWhite]

I have ex wife issues too. She walked out on me after about 10 years. I adored her. 28 years on and I'm still not over it, don't think I ever will be. I'm psychologically damaged.

[Yardbird75]

I have trust issues for sure from my ex so I'm damaged that way but I'm definitely over her. If she got hit by a bus tomorrow I'd celebrate.

[xxcazaxx]

This could be a bitter pill to swallow but I think you need to work inwardly on yourselves and your trust issues (and this is coming from someone who has also been cheated on in a closed distance relationship) otherwise it could be the breaking of the relationship. If you don't have trust in a relationship then what do you have? LDRs take commitment. If i'm honest I feel closer to my other half than I have with exes because you need to make the effort to actually communicate rather than being together and maybe not talking as much.

[IcebergPhat2]

Sounds tough, but It's been B*#ch trying to replace backpage, but another alternative is Facetime, if you guys are into that. A more extreme option is your babys momma or pornhub & some Jergens cherry almond lotion.

[morris rory]

As weird and desperate as this sounds, when my suspicions of my spouse became high, i had to contact a techie to help me gain access into my spouse's phone just to get me off my suspicions of her cheating, to cut long story short, the techie successfully gained access into my spouse's phone and the information i got gave me peace of mind. Feel free to text the techie if you're found in the same situation

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[Norman]

I also have an ex-girlfriend and I also have trust issues with her. Our relationship has been going on for 3 years but now my trust issues are increasing.