Hi all,
I’ve been in a ldr (5hr drive) for 2 years. We knew eachother 20 yrs ago and reconnected over fb. He knew up front i cant move for at least 8 yrs until my kids are out of school. He made comments early on about moving here someday but recently that has changed. His kids are adults, but his 21 yr old daughter still lives with him and relies on him for everything even tho she’s fully capable if she would just grow up. He takes care of everything for her. Anyway he also has a great job and will get a full pension in 15 yrs at 60 yrs old. A few weeks ago we talked and he said he can’t move, he won’t leave his daughter anytime soon and he needs to retire from his job there. It was a huge blow and I have been broken since. If he had told me that up front I never would have pursued a relationship. We love each other very much, we talked about marriage, and neither of us wants to break up but it seems like he’s fine seeing eachother once or twice a month indefinitely but the 5 hr drive is getting old for me and now this will be my third winter of traveling too and the roads can get bad up here. I can’t imagine not being with him, I want him to move here and build a life together but not in 15 yrs. I can’t do this for 15yrs. I’m just so disappointed and I don’t know what to do.
I’ve been in a ldr (5hr drive) for 2 years. We knew eachother 20 yrs ago and reconnected over fb. He knew up front i cant move for at least 8 yrs until my kids are out of school. He made comments early on about moving here someday but recently that has changed. His kids are adults, but his 21 yr old daughter still lives with him and relies on him for everything even tho she’s fully capable if she would just grow up. He takes care of everything for her. Anyway he also has a great job and will get a full pension in 15 yrs at 60 yrs old. A few weeks ago we talked and he said he can’t move, he won’t leave his daughter anytime soon and he needs to retire from his job there. It was a huge blow and I have been broken since. If he had told me that up front I never would have pursued a relationship. We love each other very much, we talked about marriage, and neither of us wants to break up but it seems like he’s fine seeing eachother once or twice a month indefinitely but the 5 hr drive is getting old for me and now this will be my third winter of traveling too and the roads can get bad up here. I can’t imagine not being with him, I want him to move here and build a life together but not in 15 yrs. I can’t do this for 15yrs. I’m just so disappointed and I don’t know what to do.