Have you told your SO about LFAD?

[Tanja]

How did they react? Is it ok with them that you share and discuss your problems on a forum?
Are you afraid your SO might see what you've written about her/him?
Has LFAD helped you with your relationship issues?

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[JoMarie]

Kevin does know about LFAD. He thinks it's fine that I have a place to go to get things off my chest. There are some things that he would rather I not share, and I don't or I stay vague about those things. I'm not worried about him reading what I write more so than I worry about not having a place that he isn't a part of. What I mean is LFAD is a place for ME. It's my support, it's where I rant, and it's nice to have a place to go without him.

[NaNi]

My SO told me about this forum. At first I didn't pay much attention to it, but when she mentioned it again I decided to finally sign up. I have been using this place ever since. I quite like it here.

[nicole]

Nope he doesn't, and I do like it that way. This is the only place I can talk to people/rant to people, and say exactly what I need to without the fear of upsetting anyone. If he was on here I would hold back. I NEED this forum for that, everyone is in a similar situation, everyone else KNOWS what its like. I get on here what I can't get from people I know. I really think LFAD keeps me sane sometimes!

I'm not worried if he reads what I write, I think I come on here to gather my thoughts sensibly and then talk to him, it's just I know I would definitely hold back. But thankfully, he doesn't use the internet that much, so even if he knew, I don't think he'd be on here much anyways.

[Casey]

Have you told your SO about LFAD? Yep, I told him to join too but he only has internet access when he's not busy at work. But he sucks for not doing it...
How did they react? He doesn't really care lol. He liked the keyring though
Is it ok with them that you share and discuss your problems on a forum? Hmmm I didn't tell him this but I don't really care if he doesn't like it lol
Are you afraid your SO might see what you've written about her/him? Nah cause he knows I'm pretty open and none of it is anything I wouldn't say to his face
Has LFAD helped you with your relationship issues? Yeah, it has made me know I'm not alone - in fact there are A LOT of people in much more difficult situations than I

[Caitlin2009]

she knows i go on it, and she knows i discuss some of our problems on here and she doesnt mind at all she even told me while she was here "its good to have a place like this because then your not alone with what your going through"

[xMesmerize124]

How did they react? Is it ok with them that you share and discuss your problems on a forum?
My bf definitely wasn't so crazy about the fact i come to the LFAD Site and discuss my problems on the forum. He as of now doesn't know i still come on this site, since he feels i don't need to be on here that if we have problems that we should talk about. I honestly think that is BS because theres just some things we can't work out by ourselves and we might need to outside advice.
Are you afraid your SO might see what you've written about her/him?
I actually am a little worried but not terribly afraid haha
Has LFAD helped you with your relationship issues?
This site definitely had helped me A LOT with my relationship issues, just coming on here and reading the forums is so helpful

[blankita719]

He knows I am on here, but probably not exactly how much
We talked about it before I joined, because a lot of the first posts I read were from people much younger than myself, and I wasn't sure I would find what I was looking for - happily it turned out much better than I expected. I don't worry about him seeing anything I post, because if I haven't already talked to him about it, I will be shortly.

[luna_banana]

We found this website a looooooong time ago, so long ago in fact that I don't remember which one of us originally discovered it. He doesn't come on here very often, so I doubt he'll want to look through all of my old posts, lol.

[paulawriteslove]

I've told Ryan about the forums and he makes fun of me for it but he is glad that I found a place where I can express myself

[Dauntedpoet]

Have you told your SO about LFAD? I told him I found a wonderful new place to hang out, and read and reply to posts. He knows I love it and that its drama free, non judgmental, and supportive.
How did they react? "sounds good, glad you found a place to hang out that you like"
Is it ok with them that you share and discuss your problems on a forum? He's known me for 12 years, he knows I am direct, open and honest. He knows I am comfortable opening up my life and letting people walk through it, especially if it will help them in some way.
Are you afraid your SO might see what you've written about her/him? He knows I talk about him all the time everywhere, and he likes being brought with me, so that when he meets people in person they know all about him.
Has LFAD helped you with your relationship issues? Yes, seeing other people going through and dealing with the same issues you are, some having it so much more difficult than we do, is inspiring. The advice and support is amazing, When I am having a bad day there is always someone who understands. I love you guys!

[Rosebud]

Yup, he knows about this place

At first I sort of kept it private since I liked having a place I could retreat to and talk about relationships with among other people who knww exactly what kind of situation I'm in. But after awhile after seeing a few couples on here I brought it up to him in a sort of roundabout way, mostly when I wanted to use his photo for my avatar and wanted to make sure he was okay with me having it up on a forum. I have sort of poked him a little bit in hinting that I'd like him to join, but I just don't think a relationship forum is his kinda place so I'm fine with it just staying a place for me.

I've never mentioned that I've discussed some of our problems and whatnot but I'm fairly certain he knows that I do. For the most part I try not to delve into our personal lives anyway (mostly his) as I don't feel it's my place to say such things and when I do it's mostly centered around my own feelings/family/etc. The only thing I wouldn't want him reading is when I post anonymously since even when I do I know he would be able to tell it's me xD otherwise I don't think he has much of a problem with this place though he has told me once or twice to stop since it makes me upset, but he wears the bracelet I ordered from here which couldn't make me any happier

[Caidsys]

Reese doesn't know I post here at LFAD. I've been wanting to see if he'd like to join, but I always forget to mention it. I don't think he would mind and I never say anything here I don't tell him first or that he doesn't already know. I'm a part of so many forums though I'd never thought too much about telling about this one. Though I suppose it's a good idea since I'm sure I drive him crazy sometimes. :P And I know he has trouble with the distance too.

This site has helped me a great deal with dealing with the distance and having a place to go to vent so when I'm overly upset I can post here calm down and then bring it up with Reese so things don't end up like the other night when I just snapped and I just about ended up losing him because I couldn't control my temper because instead of waiting to talk about what was bothering me when I was calmer I just blew up at him. Which wasn't cool of me at all and was our first serious argument, but thankfully he knows me MUCH better then anyone else. He told me he was switching computers (He was on someone else's at the time.) and that while he was gone I should take a few deep breaths calm down and figure out if I still wanted to leave or if I was just angry because of other reasons unrelated to us. I did that and by the time he got back I felt like a total prick because I realized I was only so angry because I'd had the spend the day before that at my mom's place. (Long story, but in short me and my mom's side of the family are on rather bad terms.] I apologized repeatedly and told him that I would make sure to never lose my temper like that again and that I loved him and didn't want to lose him. He told me he forgave me and not to worry about it he'd figured it was something like that.

It's also been useful seeing other people close the distance or get to go visit each other because it makes me realize it's more then possible for us to be able to see one another one day and even eventually close the distance completely.

[MissShortie]

Have you told your SO about LFAD? How did they react?
I have told Clay about this site, he hasn't said much about it other than...
Clay: What are you doing?
Me: I'm on the LFAD forms
Clay: Of course you are :P

Is it ok with them that you share and discuss your problems on a forum?
I don't think he has a problem with me talking about us, he knows I do talk about us here but hasn't said it bothers him, and I have a feeling that if I were to ask him if it bothers him he would be like "nah"

Are you afraid your SO might see what you've written about her/him?
I don't worry about him seeing what I said 1) because I know he will never come here, forms aren't his thing. 2) I haven't said anything that he wouldn't like--I haven't bad mouthed him here (not that I need/want to lol)

Has LFAD helped you with your relationship issues?
YES! everyone here is wonderful and has great advice!

[Pixie]

I haven't told him about it. It's my secret little support group The majority of problems I discuss on this site are my own (insecurity and all that), not anything bad to do with him. I don't mention names or post pictures anyway.