Hi Guys
I want to share my LDR story with you. As the title might suggest my LD girl broke up with me back in August, but I really wnat her back. Maybe if I had found this website sooner this could have been avoided.
We met in July last year in Spain where she lives, I was on a weekend away with my friends. I live and work in London. We were in a bar and I saw the most amazing girl I have ever seen. I must confess I am always the quiet and shy type, but this girl was just so amazing I had to speak with her. It was a little difficult at first, as she is Colombian and spoke a little English and at that time my Spanish was non existent ( although I have since tried to rectify this). I really wanted to exchnage numbers with her, but she wanted to take my email ad. and said she would contact. I left wondering if she would contact me and about a week later she did, I was overjoyed. So I spent the next six months going to Spain about every other month for long weekends, we took daytrips together saw a lot of great sights had the best time.
At the start of this year I really wanted to get to know her much better and spend more time together. I proposed we went on a weeks holiday together. We chose to go to Mallorca, just a short flight from the city where she lives. We rented a fantastic rural villa with its own pool and everyhting. I was a little nervous about how we would get on being with each other for 7 days solid, but I was amazed at how we enjoyed each other's company. I must say it was the best holiday of my life. By this time her English started to get pretty good, often by just talking with me and I love to help her learn. At the end of the holiday she flew back to the mainland and I was due to return to London. However, this was during the volcanic ash cloud that grounded all the flights. I was stuck in Mallorca alone. To cut the story short I got a flight to her city and stayed there for a further week until I could get a flight to London. We had a few days by the beach and she even let me stay with her and her mother (who she lives with) for a few nights. We went out and I got intriduced to her friends etc., even going to one of her friends for lunch.
In June I had another trip to Spain, it was a belated birthday celebration for me. Again we had a fantastic time together and at the end of the trip I told her that I was in love with her. I could tell she was a little shocked by this. When I got back to the UK, whilst we still talked and emailed almost everyday I could see that the loving tone in her emails was decreasing - before she would refer to me as 'my love' or simialr in emails. I could see she was drifting from me a little, but I just thought it was one of the difficult times in an LDR when people don't see each other and you can drift a little.
In August she told me, out of the blue, that she didn't want to have a relationship with me 'at the moment' I asked her why but she wouldn't tell me and asked me to simply respect her decision. Boy was I devasted and still am.
Rightly or wrongly I started to follow one of the books you can buy to 'get your ex back'. This started with a period of not contacting her for 1 month, although she did contact me a little and I remained distant. After that there was a suggestion to get an informal meet with your ex. As it happened, before we split I had already booked flights to visit her in September for her birthday, which she knew about when we brokeup. I really couldn't decide whether to go on the trip, but then I thought well I will go and visit to another city I have always wanted to go to. That way I will enjoy the visit and if she agrees to see me that would be great and I can then drive over to see her. A few days before the trip she emailed me saying the I could message her whenever I want - at this point I had not mentioned anything further of the trip. I took this as a prompt for communicaiton. I called her up, I could tell she was so pleased to hear me and we had a chat and I said I was going to Valencia that weekend and after my visit there I could drive down the coast and meet her for a coffee. She agreed to this so I packed by bags for Valencia. Had an ok time there, but was on my own. On the saturday I rang her - it was her birthday and wished her Happy Birthday. Said I could drive to her city on Monday and see her, which she agreed to. So I drove the 2 hours down there and got a hotel. Had a bad nights sleep that night in preparation to meet her.
The next day I called her as agreed when she finished work and said she couldn't meet at that time and she would call me that night and we could go out. Needless to say she didn't call me and sent me a text apologising that she simply couldn't go through with seeing me! So there I was overseas on my own staying in a hotel a good 5 mins walk from her apartment. I was devastated.
So I spent the next couple of days there before my flight back just sitting in the sun and trying to enjoy the best I could. On my last day I went over to her apartment (whilst I knew she would still be working) to take a small gift and birthday card for her. A short while later I called her up and said I had left it at her place and that I was going to the airport in an hour and she could see me if she wanted. She made up excuses why she couldn't, so it was home to London for me - so near to see my girl but so far!
On return we have had short discussions on MSN but nothing major. Last week I was curious to see what her reaction would be to see me on webcam so during a discussion I started to send my cam to her, she accepted for about 5 seconds then simply logged off without saying anything and I havent heard nothing from her since.
Have any of you guys had similar situaitons with breaking up with you long distance boyf's and girlf's?
I sometimes feel that she has got a little scared because we got close and I think the whole concept of dating someone from overseas is a massive thing to get her head around. I also dont think, as she is a little younger then me, that she has had many relationships and is quite sheltered in her life to date. Originally she is from South America and whilst I find her a very dedicated, respecting, hard working person especially for her age I can see she hasn't been as lucky to have the benefit of the life I lead growing up and living in the UK. I find the situation so difficult as, despite having had several relationships with others (1 being 4 yrs) she is the only girl I have met who I think, long term, I could envisage being together and maybe getting married.
If anyone has any suggetions how I might get things back on track with her it would be welcomed
I want to share my LDR story with you. As the title might suggest my LD girl broke up with me back in August, but I really wnat her back. Maybe if I had found this website sooner this could have been avoided.
We met in July last year in Spain where she lives, I was on a weekend away with my friends. I live and work in London. We were in a bar and I saw the most amazing girl I have ever seen. I must confess I am always the quiet and shy type, but this girl was just so amazing I had to speak with her. It was a little difficult at first, as she is Colombian and spoke a little English and at that time my Spanish was non existent ( although I have since tried to rectify this). I really wanted to exchnage numbers with her, but she wanted to take my email ad. and said she would contact. I left wondering if she would contact me and about a week later she did, I was overjoyed. So I spent the next six months going to Spain about every other month for long weekends, we took daytrips together saw a lot of great sights had the best time.
At the start of this year I really wanted to get to know her much better and spend more time together. I proposed we went on a weeks holiday together. We chose to go to Mallorca, just a short flight from the city where she lives. We rented a fantastic rural villa with its own pool and everyhting. I was a little nervous about how we would get on being with each other for 7 days solid, but I was amazed at how we enjoyed each other's company. I must say it was the best holiday of my life. By this time her English started to get pretty good, often by just talking with me and I love to help her learn. At the end of the holiday she flew back to the mainland and I was due to return to London. However, this was during the volcanic ash cloud that grounded all the flights. I was stuck in Mallorca alone. To cut the story short I got a flight to her city and stayed there for a further week until I could get a flight to London. We had a few days by the beach and she even let me stay with her and her mother (who she lives with) for a few nights. We went out and I got intriduced to her friends etc., even going to one of her friends for lunch.
In June I had another trip to Spain, it was a belated birthday celebration for me. Again we had a fantastic time together and at the end of the trip I told her that I was in love with her. I could tell she was a little shocked by this. When I got back to the UK, whilst we still talked and emailed almost everyday I could see that the loving tone in her emails was decreasing - before she would refer to me as 'my love' or simialr in emails. I could see she was drifting from me a little, but I just thought it was one of the difficult times in an LDR when people don't see each other and you can drift a little.
In August she told me, out of the blue, that she didn't want to have a relationship with me 'at the moment' I asked her why but she wouldn't tell me and asked me to simply respect her decision. Boy was I devasted and still am.
Rightly or wrongly I started to follow one of the books you can buy to 'get your ex back'. This started with a period of not contacting her for 1 month, although she did contact me a little and I remained distant. After that there was a suggestion to get an informal meet with your ex. As it happened, before we split I had already booked flights to visit her in September for her birthday, which she knew about when we brokeup. I really couldn't decide whether to go on the trip, but then I thought well I will go and visit to another city I have always wanted to go to. That way I will enjoy the visit and if she agrees to see me that would be great and I can then drive over to see her. A few days before the trip she emailed me saying the I could message her whenever I want - at this point I had not mentioned anything further of the trip. I took this as a prompt for communicaiton. I called her up, I could tell she was so pleased to hear me and we had a chat and I said I was going to Valencia that weekend and after my visit there I could drive down the coast and meet her for a coffee. She agreed to this so I packed by bags for Valencia. Had an ok time there, but was on my own. On the saturday I rang her - it was her birthday and wished her Happy Birthday. Said I could drive to her city on Monday and see her, which she agreed to. So I drove the 2 hours down there and got a hotel. Had a bad nights sleep that night in preparation to meet her.
The next day I called her as agreed when she finished work and said she couldn't meet at that time and she would call me that night and we could go out. Needless to say she didn't call me and sent me a text apologising that she simply couldn't go through with seeing me! So there I was overseas on my own staying in a hotel a good 5 mins walk from her apartment. I was devastated.
So I spent the next couple of days there before my flight back just sitting in the sun and trying to enjoy the best I could. On my last day I went over to her apartment (whilst I knew she would still be working) to take a small gift and birthday card for her. A short while later I called her up and said I had left it at her place and that I was going to the airport in an hour and she could see me if she wanted. She made up excuses why she couldn't, so it was home to London for me - so near to see my girl but so far!
On return we have had short discussions on MSN but nothing major. Last week I was curious to see what her reaction would be to see me on webcam so during a discussion I started to send my cam to her, she accepted for about 5 seconds then simply logged off without saying anything and I havent heard nothing from her since.
Have any of you guys had similar situaitons with breaking up with you long distance boyf's and girlf's?
I sometimes feel that she has got a little scared because we got close and I think the whole concept of dating someone from overseas is a massive thing to get her head around. I also dont think, as she is a little younger then me, that she has had many relationships and is quite sheltered in her life to date. Originally she is from South America and whilst I find her a very dedicated, respecting, hard working person especially for her age I can see she hasn't been as lucky to have the benefit of the life I lead growing up and living in the UK. I find the situation so difficult as, despite having had several relationships with others (1 being 4 yrs) she is the only girl I have met who I think, long term, I could envisage being together and maybe getting married.
If anyone has any suggetions how I might get things back on track with her it would be welcomed