Oh God...

[Moon]

Rusty, I'm so glad you've confirmed your dates. There used to be a girl who posted here, who's boyfriend was terminally ill. They were quite young if I remember correctly, and were never able to meet before he passed away. For some reason, to me, that felt like the biggest tragedy, as they seemed very much in love. I'm sure your girl will fight through this and be fine, especially with the joy of having you in her life and having a future to fight for. Wish her the best from all of us, and stay strong.

[H87]

I'm so sorry I know how hard it is to deal with a loved one who is suffering from cancer. There is hope. Right now she needs the ones she loves and the ones who love her the most. She may be scared and may try to push you away, but she needs the support. Support her and fight this battle with her!

[Karringtyn]

I am SOO glad you are booking the flight to go see her!!! My thoughts and prayers are with you both...

[Veronica]

As everyone else i am also really happy that you agreed on visiting! She is gonna need you there, and you need to be there for her too. Be strong for the up and downs, im sure everything is going to turn out fine. Best wishes for both of you, and a lot of love.

[H87]

I'm so happy you are going to fly out to see her!!! It will be amazing!!

[kraut]

I'm so sorry that is horrible. Though I would say, still go to see her. Even if the disease does prove fatal (and lets pray it doesn't) I believe you would regret not seeing her and being with her. I know this is a shock to you, but remember it is difficult for her too. If anything, go to give her your support and love.

[Rusty]

I know this is a shock to you, but remember it is difficult for her too. If anything, go to give her your support and love.

Ah, well that's just the thing, isn't it - it's worse for her. Of course it is, immensely. It was utterly horrible to see her say straightforwardly "I might die", but I can't imagine how much worse it must be to have to say that.

The best approach I can figure out is a pragmatic one - wait until her latest test results come through, be sure to stay positive (or failing that try to give the impression of staying positive), and carry on as before. So yeah, that's booking tickets, continuing to talk and do things together, I'll be telling my family within the next couple of days (eek)... we've arranged another movie date for this week, which is always fun. Just carry on. Like last night, we barely actually talked about the cancer, we just carried on as we usually do, and arranged the visit (which, now that it's all confirmed, has left me really excited and slightly terrified). All good things.

One really positive thing that's come out of it, for me, is quite how much it shows she trusts me. You see, she's doesn't ever like 'burdening' other people with her problems - she hates asking for favours, or borrowing money, or 'moaning' about her problems (as she sees it), or anything like that. Last time this happened, she only told one person outside her family. This time she's done the same, and that person is me. The fact that she's done that... it means so much.

But, yeah, that's it really, isn't it? Keep Calm and Carry On.

[Kirschlein]

Well, first of all i wish your SO much much luck. She shouldn't give up neither should you! My mother has lung cancer which is on the way to her heart and even in that the doctors found a way to make it better again. The medical treatment is further than it was and if she is fighting, then the chance is higher that nothing worse will happen. In the end, its much about the mental part of the person too.

I feel so sorry for you two....but atleast you gonna visit her!

[mllebamako]

One really positive thing that's come out of it, for me, is quite how much it shows she trusts me. You see, she's doesn't ever like 'burdening' other people with her problems - she hates asking for favours, or borrowing money, or 'moaning' about her problems (as she sees it), or anything like that. Last time this happened, she only told one person outside her family. This time she's done the same, and that person is me. The fact that she's done that... it means so much.

But, yeah, that's it really, isn't it? Keep Calm and Carry On.

That is great that you are looking for the positive side of things, there usually is one. My thoughts go out to you and your SO. Like you said, the best thing is to carry on living life and loving one another. It's obvious that you will be an incredible support through her during these times..so she'll have that much more strength with you by her side!

[Andy]

Wow, I'm so sorry you're both going through this. Sure as hell puts my problems into perspective. It's quite inspiring how you're dealing with this. It's great that you've confirmed your dates - are the tickets booked yet? Stay strong for her and please keep us updated, we're all thinking of you.

[Zephii]

I'm so happy you've booked your tickets.

I'd like to let you know that you don't always have to stay strong. You're allowed to be upset and cry. Many people get so caught up in hiding their pain from their loved one, they fail to take care of themselves.

I'd like to suggest that there is another member here who has recently gone through exactly what you are facing, and perhaps you would be able to comfort each other? Her name is Mandy, and she hangs out in the chat more than the forums, from what I can see. It's always nice to have other people who are in your boat, so to speak.

I hope some miracle happens and your SO pulls through. Don't give up hope
Hugs & Carrots xx