having a hard time with his anger issues

[amandamayaaa]

eric doesn't have the best temper lets just say, and many things that he gets upset over, he ends up getting overly pissed off, not like to the extreme or anything, but he gets pissed at things that he shouldn't have

so currently he says he's having a problem with missing me, and it's really hitting him right now.. which is perfectly ok, because we all know how hard LDRs are, but instead of being sad or talking to me about it, he just is getting pissed, and taking it out on me and giving me attitude for things he shouldn't

and as many of you know who follow us, he has a huge issue with my guy best friend who's my neighbor, who i've had a sexual past with.. anyways.. whenever i hang out with him he changes how he acts towards me, i know he doesn't like him, and thats ok he doesn't have to.. but it's not fair that he takes it out on me when i'm not doing anything wrong.. just hanging out with my friend.. and it's not fair

[LadyMarchHare]

Anger management and counseling. That's the best thing he can do, it will help him learn to curb the anger and channel it in healthier ways so it's not being taken out on you or anyone else. It also sounds like there's insecurity there, but that's what the counseling can help.

[Caitlin2009]

usually when Denise gets like that she needs to cry and i know it so i tell her "your only pissed off because you miss me and instead of giving into your real feelings your getting angry" and within a few minutes of convincing her its ok to cry and miss me she gives into those feelings and then shes fine afterwords

[Zephii]

Does reminding him that he's being a dick help? Does he stop if you point out what he's doing, or does that just make it worse?
Remember that sometimes we lash out at the people we care about most because we know they'll be strong for us/ wont leave. That doesn't make it in any way ok, but understanding helps. If telling him flat out to stop his shit doesn't help, then yeah, perhaps counseling.

The male best friend thing is very tricky. It's a natural instinct for humans (and prolly other things too) to protect their relationships/chosen breeding partner. At a very basic level, Eric senses a threat from this other guy. His response is pretty normal, and he's a pretty decent bloke for putting up with it as well as he does (which admittedly isn't very well.) It also doesn't help that he doesn't like the other guy's personality at all - it makes everything else harder to overcome. But you's are going to have to figure something out on this because an issue like this could fester and cause serious troubles down the track... or you might not get down the track.

[sabby64]

I know how that is, except more from his point of view. Unfortunately I wasn't able to curb it before my relationship ended, but I sort of know where he's coming from. I'd suggest ignoring it and waiting until he's calmed down, and then explaining that it's hurting you and your relationship. My ex decided to ignore it and let it get worse, and it never ended up getting resolved, but I changed alot about myself afterwards. You have to deal with this issue ASAP in order to prevent it from tearing your relationship apart. Maybe if you tell him how you really feel he'll understand.

[mynameiseric]

i've always had a problem with my anger....and it makes me feel bad when I take it out on amanda, but sometimes I cant control it. its really hard..and I always feel bad.

and with the whole guy friend thing....its like a trigger. I see him, hear his voice, or even hear her talking about him, and I feel my heart beat faster and my palms start to sweat from getting so pissed. I hate it