Hey, this is a rant combined with some questions, combined with just wanting to talk to people who understand.
I'm from the UK, my SO is from the States. For various reasons he cant leave the states until next September at the earliest.
Plan was for me to move there. I am willing to do any form of work. I really don't care, I just want to be there and making an income and then work out what I want/can do next. But there is no way of it happening. My best shot was a J1 visa which can let you work for up to a year...nope its only for students or someone having just graduated.
I cant afford to be an international student. $20K+ a year is just not feasible!
There is basically no form of visa that allows me to go there to work even temporarily, let alone permanently. Even the K1 (Fiance) is a pretty big long shot and in any case we don't want to get married JUST so we can be in the same country.
So we want to look into him moving here. And its just as complicated and I'm going to need to hire a solicitor just to get advice because I earn too much to get free legal advice (but not enough to actually pay for a solicitor)
And some days it just all gets on top of me. Today being one of them. It hits at me just how hard this is. And its not that I wouldn't go through the processes, however hard and tiring they may be, its that I cant find any information anywhere about our best option especially given his circumstances and it just seems so hopeless that either of us are going be able to move to either country. And the thought of that just fills me with so much despair its unbearable.
I try so hard to be positive. To know that the long distance isn't permanent and that one day we'll be able to get through it. But there are times when however hard I try I just cant be positive about it because it seems all evidence to the contrary is screaming at me.
I'm a target and results based person. I'm willing to work my a** off as long as I know what I'm working towards. To have an aim and a purpose. But neither country seems like a likely option and I just don't know what to do about it.
So anyone with any suggestions about immigration/visas - please I'm so willing to hear them!
And anyone with any suggestions as to how to try and deal with it are muchly welcomed too.
Thanks for listening guys.
I'm from the UK, my SO is from the States. For various reasons he cant leave the states until next September at the earliest.
Plan was for me to move there. I am willing to do any form of work. I really don't care, I just want to be there and making an income and then work out what I want/can do next. But there is no way of it happening. My best shot was a J1 visa which can let you work for up to a year...nope its only for students or someone having just graduated.
I cant afford to be an international student. $20K+ a year is just not feasible!
There is basically no form of visa that allows me to go there to work even temporarily, let alone permanently. Even the K1 (Fiance) is a pretty big long shot and in any case we don't want to get married JUST so we can be in the same country.
So we want to look into him moving here. And its just as complicated and I'm going to need to hire a solicitor just to get advice because I earn too much to get free legal advice (but not enough to actually pay for a solicitor)
And some days it just all gets on top of me. Today being one of them. It hits at me just how hard this is. And its not that I wouldn't go through the processes, however hard and tiring they may be, its that I cant find any information anywhere about our best option especially given his circumstances and it just seems so hopeless that either of us are going be able to move to either country. And the thought of that just fills me with so much despair its unbearable.
I try so hard to be positive. To know that the long distance isn't permanent and that one day we'll be able to get through it. But there are times when however hard I try I just cant be positive about it because it seems all evidence to the contrary is screaming at me.
I'm a target and results based person. I'm willing to work my a** off as long as I know what I'm working towards. To have an aim and a purpose. But neither country seems like a likely option and I just don't know what to do about it.
So anyone with any suggestions about immigration/visas - please I'm so willing to hear them!
And anyone with any suggestions as to how to try and deal with it are muchly welcomed too.
Thanks for listening guys.
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