what do u think is harder ??

[Maru]

well i think that there's different kinds of LDR!, i mean!... you can met your SO first and be together for a long time and then he/she has to go to another country for some reason.. and also you can start your relationship knowing that it's gonna be a LDR...

so here's the question... what do u think is harder?? to be in a LDR since the beginning or have been in a "normal" relationship for a while that suddenly has to be a LDR??

i started my relationship knowing it was going to be a LDR! and yeah it's difficult!, but since the beginning i new that i had no choice i love him!! and is better to have him in the other side of the world, than not having him at all!

ps. sorry if my english is not so good, i'm from mexico haha

[Butterfly-x]

Well i started off my relationship knowing it was going to be LDR. Like you said, it's hard but i think i prefer it this way. Would be so sad being in an LDR when you were previously CD, i presume.

[true_survivor_586]

well i have known my SO since i was 8 but when we decided to become official he had already joined the army and was about to be deployed, so i knew what i was getting into, i think it is much easier this way because i know him so well i have no worries about him cheating or anything like that, and i KNEW what i was signing up for, but i cant stop loving him, so in my eyes my situation is easier cause i have less worries, BUT i do have to worry about the whole war thing EWW

[Caitlin2009]

well being in a LDR is pretty hard for me but i would say being CD and then LDR would be harder

[faith5x5nomore]

I have known my So since we were kids but we didn't start dating until last year. It was only a few days short of our 1 yr annv when he said he was moving ( did not see it coming). He had only 3 weeks which flew by because of packing and stuff. I can't say it's harder then anyone elses situations but I truly hate this long distance thing. I miss him like crazy and just want to be back in his arms already...

[Andy]

If I had to choose I'd have it this way round again. I met her online and got to know her over 13 months before we met in person and that's what made this relationship, and made it so special.

I think it would be a lot harder to go from seeing your SO daily to only seeing them every now and then.

[Maru]

yeahh i think maybe it's harder who already have been together for a while, because you were used to be together all the time and do certain things... and when you are in a LDR since the beginning you know you're not gonna be able to do that so often.. but anyways.. both are hard!!! at the end every LDR is hard! :/ that's why we have this site to give us support

[mllebamako]

Both are obviously incredibly difficult.
But I think that starting out CD can make it harder. My SO and I started out CD and even had our own apartment together for about 6 months before I had to move away. It's hard now because we were so used to being with each other every minute. It takes a lot of adjustment to go LD whereas the people that start LD don't have to do that adjusting!

[squiddie]

I'm another one here who started out CD and then went to LD. It is ridiculously difficult to handle, especially as the summer before he left the first time, we were essentially living together. And then I thought I had him back for good this past summer..and he left again.

Hopefully this upcoming summer there will be no more of this. I get used to him being around, and then he's gone again. It breaks my heart every time.

Though at least I had the privilege of having him close by for almost a year at the beginning of our relationship...I'm not sure I could do what many here have done, and enter a relationship sight unseen.

[Dauntedpoet]

I do think it would be MUCH harder to go from CD TO LDR, because of the daily routines, at least during a visit you can take a 'vacation' from your daily routines alone, and then go back to them when the visit is over. My hat's off to all of you that are doing it.

[Trethsparr]

I'll probably just be adding my voice to the general consensus thus far. I started out CD, went to LDR six months into our relationship. When we were CD, we were both living on the same college campus, which meant we could spend every spare moment we weren't in class or at work together and have every meal of the day in the cafeteria. When I moved two states away after graduation, it was INCREDIBLY tough because I basically had to find an entirely new rhythm to my day. Worse still, I knew what my life was like spending every day with him close by. I definitely feel the lack.

[Trethsparr]

Of course, either way, it's a difficult thing to spend your without the one you love close at hand, so I'm not belittling the struggle those who start out in LDRs experience. (:

[LadyMarchHare]

Personally I believe they're both equal in difficulty because everyone's circumstances beyond the general "met on internet" or "met in person" is different and we all deal with the distance in different ways. I could say those who start off CD have it worse because they know what they're missing, but there are days I've seen those who have never met struggle far more than the person who got to be with their SO and now isn't. It's an individual case thing.

[Trethsparr]

...there are days I've seen those who have never met struggle far more than the person who got to be with their SO and now isn't. It's an individual case thing.

SO TRUE.

[5000miles]

Personally I believe they're both equal in difficulty because everyone's circumstances beyond the general "met on internet" or "met in person" is different and we all deal with the distance in different ways. I could say those who start off CD have it worse because they know what they're missing, but there are days I've seen those who have never met struggle far more than the person who got to be with their SO and now isn't. It's an individual case thing.

I'm going to have to agree with this. I have yet to meet my SO, and while some days I'm grateful when I compare to people that started CD because I don't know what I'm missing yet, some days it's makes me feel terribly envious because you have the memories to get you through the day. Some days I would give anything just to know what it felt like to have him hold me.