If you were in my situation? My SO just confessed that she hears voices and that they tell her I'm no good, I'm going to cheat, I don't love her, and other bullshit like that. I'm really hurt and freaked out. I love her with all of my heart, but there's just no way I can help her this way. I don't know what to do..she's...ugh...makes me wonder what else she's keeping from me..
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If she hears things that tell her that you're no good... Don't let that be true. Stay with her. Don't leave her. This is one of the times she probably just needs you by her side, knowing that no matter what happens, you love her. As long as she's willing to stay with you, try to stay with her The best you can do is support her.
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If she's hearing voices, there are bigger problems here than how she feels about you. She needs help and possibly medication. Get her to contact a doctor, and if she wont try speaking to her next of kin.Happily married to the little Canadian boy I never thought I'd meet in person
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Honestly, if Frank heard voices like this in his head about me, I'd be scared. I would be terrified of the possibility that the voices would drive him to hurt me.
As a nursing student I worked closely with a patient at a long term psychiatric hospital who heard voices. He would hear God telling him to do things as well as other voices (I had to do all my papers and homework with him as my case study). The voices he heard said horrible things and told him to hurt (even kill) other patients on the floor. He actually punched a patient once right before I had arrived on the unit. For some reason he liked me, and I wasn't scared of him, but he would tell me what the voices told him to do, and it was scary how delusional he was because of the things these voices told him.
As Zephii said, she does need help. Medication can help with the voices. But keep in mind there is no cure for schizophrenia/psychosis. The only thing you can do is manage the symptoms.
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I hear voices, it's called "auditory hallucinations." I've had it all my life and only recently started taking medication for it because they don't shut up, ever. Mine have said negative things about me, others, told me to kill people, and yes even said bad things about my SO. It's just a matter of who's stronger--the messed up brain or her. I do suggest she see a psychiatrist about it as it's nothing they'll toss her in the loony bin for (believe me, I tried) but you also need to reinforce that the voices aren't real and maybe see if she can drown them out with music, white noise in the room, etc.
Michelle: Not everyone who hears voices hears "kill x" ones. I only did once, but I was going through a rough time and it was stress-induced. Also, just because you hear voices doesn't make you schizo, nor does it if you SEE things. There are other underlying factors that require the diagnosis.
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Well I do not know about "hearing voices" part but if that is just how she feels overall.... can you move in with her? When are you two going to finally be together? May be if she had more security in that regard the "voices" would go away.
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I have to say for me, that would be a bad sign. That would be a we need to break up type of deal. Another deal breaker for me is "I would die without you." I don't like extremes like that. They make me nervous.
But, I don't know your situation. Recommend seeing a doctor of some sort and if she refuses, you might want to take a break until she can handle herself. Remember that before you get involved with someone else, you first have to be OK and in control of yourself. It's like dating someone with extremely low self-esteem. Until they're OK with themselves, they shouldn't be involved with someone else. That's my opinion anyways...=)
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I think it's important that first you encourage her to seek professional help to determine the cause and receive treatment. Then you can worry about the dynamics of your relationship. This might've been the only thing she was keeping from you, because it's serious and she was afraid you'd have a negative reaction. And you have to remember it's likely a medical condition saying these things about you, not her.
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Originally posted by lucybelle View PostBut, I don't know your situation. Recommend seeing a doctor of some sort and if she refuses, you might want to take a break until she can handle herself. Remember that before you get involved with someone else, you first have to be OK and in control of yourself. It's like dating someone with extremely low self-esteem. Until they're OK with themselves, they shouldn't be involved with someone else. That's my opinion anyways...=)
IMO, those are things you need to be willing to work on before you get into a serious relationship.
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