Do I follow my head or my heart?

[sam]

Ok, so I'm.. well.. lost. I don't know what to do..

I live in England, Elina (my SO) in Finland blah blah.. Anyway.. I have little(to no :s) edication. I'm in college now doing something which, at the end of it all, I probably wont be doing in Finland anyway. For me to do anything in medicine in a language I'll start to properly learn in my 20's is.. hard, if not impossible, so my future "career" right now is well.. I have no idea.
I wouldnt want to go to uni anyway, really (which is the only thing finishing my course now would help me with when I get to Finland)

I can..

Leave my college now and move to Finland after christmas. I'd learn the language there, then pretty much start my education again doing courses for adults or in a vocational school.

Or..

Stay in college here studying human biology (which I wont be continuing when I move to Finland anyway) until next summer and then move to Finland and do the same as above, just with the "bonus" of another qualification to my name.



Should I leave college, my mum wouldnt be happy to say the least. I'm 95% sure she'd kick me out.. so I couldnt really leave college and stay here for a bit. It's leave college and move to Finland, or stay in college until I'm done with it.

What do I wanna do? I wanna move to Finland asap. I dont really see much point carrying on with something I wont be doing in later life but.. some views from people who dont have my (very bias ) way of thinking would be nice


Thanks

[Zephii]

Mmm

Well... Relationships can fail... What happens if in 7 years time you come home from work and Elina is dressed up as little red riding hood and some man you've never met is chasing her around your kitchen wearing nothing but wolf ears and a grin? (Note! I'm not saying she would, I'm saying bad things happen.)Then you return to England and regret not finishing that course. However - as you said, that course only prepares you for more study, it wont get you a job. So, what would you do as a back up plan? Or if Finnish immigration reject you, and you have to go home, what's your back-up plan if you leave college now?

But with that said, there's no time like the present. If you think you're wasting time and money on a course you'll never use, well bugger it! Go to Finland and take some big chances. We're only young once, right?

[Čternity]

I know how much you would dearly love to be in Finland asap. Still, my initial thoughts are to finish the course. It's six months in the rest of your life. Finish the qualification. Unfinished courses don't look so great on a cv. Even if it won't guarantee you a job in that field, it shows employers that you finish what you start. Things like this show more about you than you realise to potential employers in the future whichever career path you choose. All the best for your choice.

[Casey]

So I'm assuming your summer is mid way through next year? If so, please please please stay for the six months
The entire reason my partner and I went long distance is because he moved for work and I stayed to finish my degree.
I have never regreted it for a second. Even if you can't do the job you wish straight away, a degree is never wasted - it may get you a related job, or it may just show that you are intelligent and will be able to apply yourself well.
I know it must seem forever away, but six months go soooo quickly if you have a purpose and a rough plan!

[ioanna]

hey there Sam

wow, that's a pretty big decision you're about to take i totally understand the call for unbiased views on the matter. here's mine:

it seems like the whole question is wether to quit the course and move right now, or finish the course and move in 6 months.
Personally, i would finish the course. As Eternity so well said, it looks a lot better when your potential employers see that on your resume. Also, if that course ends in a degree or something (sorry, i'm not up to date with where you are in your studies) even if it doesn't open up doors for you in that same field, just having a degree or certification opens up different income possibilities for the same job. for instance, i used to give private lessons and do tutoring. as a person with 3+ and then 5+ years in university i made a lot more money than as a fresh student...
It can be very tempting to see that you have the possibility of ending the distance right away (i'd be going through the same dillema), but i think that you've come along this far down the road, you might as well finish it through...
Good luck

[garnet]

I would personally take the leap and move. But then, I live for today, don't save the "good china" or the "good jewelry" for a special time. All we are promised is death and taxes. Be happy!

[sam]

Thing is, it's not a degree..

Through bad choices on my part (and other things - but mostly my crap decisions hah) it's just a course that would mean I could go on to do a degree course/get a degree.

I'm not happy in my life right now. I'm not happy here. I'm not happy in England. Not just because Elina is there, I've never really liked this country (again for reasons I wont go into). I'm sick of my work and the people there. I've been there for near 2 years - working in the pub. Due to being stuck in Finland pretty much every time I've been, all the crap (though mainly joking) I get from the other workers is kinda getting too much/grating.
I'm not really enjoying college.. I just wanna get out.

I finish the course and I can go do a degree in medicine or nursing or whatever..

..in England. All the language used in that profession and whatnot would make it really hard for me to do it in another country, so I'd have to pretty much restart my education again even if I move in the 6/7/8 months anyway.. and not before I learned the language for a year or whatever.

How I feel is that staying here doing the course is just sorta.. delaying my life *shrug*

Once I've learned the language (which is the first thing I'd do once moved there), if me and Elina ever did split up, I'd still wanna stay in Finland. Yeah, I dislike this country that much I also love Finland though..


Iiiii dunno.. gah
Frustrating


EDIT: I just read that back, and a couple of the sentences dont make much sense Sorry, it's 1:35am and time for bed x)

[kymccloud]

In the end its up to you, but I say do what will make you happy. If you aren't happy now then make a change.

[Casey]

Hmmm..if you DEFINITELY cannot utilise that course EVER in Finland, I would say to move now
But if there is anyway you can, I would probably stay.
But thats just me, but I think you should research and make sure there is no possible way you can use it in Finland

[Stephanieeee]

Mmm

Well... Relationships can fail... What happens if in 7 years time you come home from work and Elina is dressed up as little red riding hood and some man you've never met is chasing her around your kitchen wearing nothing but wolf ears and a grin?

hahahahhahhhaha, that was weird and hilarious. but I think that you should most certainly stay in college. Why waste all of the time you have already had to spend without her. You have been apart this long, you'll make it

[Zephii]

Well... in the case that you'd stay in Finland, or any place where you'd be likely to have to re-train, yeah, you're just delaying life. If you're ready and she's ready, go.

Garnet - I loved the death and taxes thing. I'd so give you rep for that if I was able

[Karringtyn]

I have read and reread what you wrote. Sam your mind is already made up. You have already decided that you aren't happy and you are wasting your time. No matter what you hear from us...your mind is made up.

Now with that said...you asked for my two cents.

Don't burn any bridges. What you said about your Mom concerns me. How will she be if you move? Are you close to your family?

Follow that heart of yours...but also think responsibly and know that we are all here to support you.

[Miramaid]

Can she move to England instead? Or is she in college too? At the end BOTH of you want to live where: in England or in Finland? Because I would say stay in college in case you EVER (BOTH OF YOU) come back to England to live. IT will be easier for you to find a job there having any kind of college degree compare to not having one. And even in Finland it is still better to have at least something than not to have anything at all. Education still counts when smb looks at your resume, even if that education may not be very useful just the fact that a person went to college tells something about that person.
May be she could move to England while you are finishing college? Or if not, then stay as you are (I know it is hard) and finish college and move there next summer (UNLESS you really do not think it it worth it) What does your GF say about it? How often do you visit each other?

[Dauntedpoet]

Okay Sam, I would just go, life is very short, way to short to be miserable! BUT you need to sit down with your mother and have a serious heart to heart talk with her (even if she won't listen, you have to try) tell her how miserable you are, that you are certain your future is in Finland, that even if you get bounced back to the UK on the first try, you would still not regret stopping the course as it isn't where you want to be. Your future will be a lot sweeter if you have your mother's acceptance, if not her understanding. Good Luck SAM! FINGERS CROSSED FOR YOU!

[agentholli]

You know what?! I would just go. It sounds like to me that your mind is made up and that you really deep down feel like you are wasting your time. In your heart and head you know that these classes you are taking now will not benefit you in the future, you are not just wasting time, but money also.

LIVE for TODAY!