How did/ do you know...???

[TknandLvnIt]

How did you know that you were in love with your SO and you wanted to spend the rest of your life with them? What made them different from your past relationships?

[Obsydian]

There's this connection that I can't explain, as if we're mentally linked, or like a spark. I wish I knew how to explain it but I've never felt this way with ANYBODY.

[LadyMarchHare]

I've never been in a relationship before and basically did not believe in love due to witnessing several bad LDRs, my mother's own marriage ruined, and several other homes being broken because 'love' was no longer there. I had also given up on ever being IN a relationship because of the way I look (I'm overweight and tend to dress punk-ish/oddly) but when my SO, whom I've known for years, and I began to get closer even before we were dating, I felt a spark that, once we were dating, turned into a flame that fanned into a forest fire. I knew I loved him when he held my hand when no one else would, when he became the voice of reason in my chaotic life, when he wanted to stand up for me when no one else dared. I fell completely the night I got to return it all and knew that I would indeed kill without qualm for a man whom I'd never met in person, that I would protect him with my life and risk it all to see him happy. Kinda vague, but I feel like I've loved him a long time, it just took his initiative to bring it out into realization.

[sabby64]

Because of past relationships I was reluctant to let myself say I was in love with Brandon... I actually wasn't even looking for a boyfriend at the time, one night he just kissed me by surprise and I decided to give it a chance even though we didn't really know eachother. I knew I was leaving for school and I didn't want to get too attached and so I told myself that we'd just be friends over school and see what happens, but 2 days before I left I realized I didn't want to leave him- ever. It had been almost a month by that point, and neither of us had brought up the word 'love'... But at that moment, when we were lying curled up in my bed half asleep during a sleepover, I leaned over and whispered 'I love you', and he got really excited and cuddly and told me he'd wanted to say it ages ago but he didn't know if I would've loved him back. XD

And every time I talk to him or see his face, I still feel the same way. <3

[jerseygirl904]

It really did not take long for me. He'll tell you that I decided that first weekend we saw each other again after 20+ years. He's probably right (lol). But, there was just that special connection there...at the risk of sounding cliche...it was like "Sleepless In Seattle" - he took my hand and it was magic.

[Zephii]

I just knew. I spent too many years asking myself "What is it about him?" I knew because no matter how hard I tried or how long we went trying not to contact each other, we always came back. I knew because he was my best friend. Because I could tell him anything. Because there was no one I'd rather spent time with. Because when I was sad or anger, scared or hurt, he was the first person i wanted to turn to. I knew because when we made love we both thought we could touch each other's souls. I knew because an ocean wasn't big enough to keep us apart. And a hundred other reasons.

Knowing you love someone and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them is quite different to me though. That came much later. You can be in love and still not be a good match. And, it's a bit more complicated when it's international. There's a lot at stake.

It's different from my past relationship because love actually exists. Real love. And honesty. Because he treats me well and is part of my family rather than trying to take me from my family. We fit together.

[junnah]

among the millions of stars in the universe, you are one that shines" lol... he always said that to me.
you will meet a lots of woman/man in your life, you will never know... a person may come and go into your life for a reason, when the time come that you are inlove and you wanted to stay for the rest of your life with him/her... there is a feeling that is so hard to explain and to express, a spark, a true love chemistry. Love comes in unexpected ways. You will see.

[archangel]

Simply when you ask an extremely vague question and your SO gives you the question back reworded so it is very exact and answers it. Well, I guess it is a more of a one off occasion. I know my gal was the one when in the beginning when we were only talking by emails which we wrote to each other daily because we both were able to read each other through the words we typed. Also every time one of us brought something up, we found out we had more and more and more in common. Even now we are finding things in common... it is so hard to describe.

Also you know you are in love when your heart races and ALL you can think about is them. Gosh it is such a magical feeling, words are hard to describe it.... but its like bliss knowing they are just as madly in love with you as you with them.

[Caitlin2009]

i always knew, i was too afraid to fully admit it to myself until i almost lost her to something once i knew i had to tell her then, she was the last thing i thought about at night, and the first thing i thought about in the morning, still is

[nicole]

I guess it was very early on in our relationship... 4-5 months in, I knew I had 5 months left, which seems a long time, a lot can happen in 5 months. But I simply could not bare to think of a life without him. It made my heart ache. I always have walls up with everyone I meet, it's only friends I have known for years who I let in and even then, I still block out certain aspects; the real deep stuff. With my SO, there was never a wall, everything came gushing out and he accepted it all. I've never felt the inclination to want to spend all my time with one person, and not get irritated and retreat to my room or something. With him, I can spend a very long period of time with him around and feel nothing but contentment. He's just amazing, the connection we have is amazing, now I know what it's like to meet and find and love my soul mate, I could never let that go!

[Petersgirl]

This is a beautiful thread

After about two days and nights together he told me he loved me and I knew I felt the same. From the first moment we kissed it was as if we'd always been together.

It was almost as if we'd been together for years and lost our memories of it. It was so completely right and normal to be with him, like there was no real other option.

It is unlike anything I've ever felt before. For both of us. Things we've never felt or experienced before, that I don't need to go into, or I'd be here all day!

But love is not something to understand or make sense of, and all I really know is that being together is right, and not being together is wrong. How do you know?... You just know.

[Karringtyn]

I finally became complete in me the year after I left my husband. When I met Dan he was the one because he added to me, he didn't try to control me or change me.. I didn't NEED him....but having him in my life I am now so very blessed.

[SeattleLove]

That's a tough question. Well, I would say, it kind of developed into it, since my SO and I were CD for 9 months, and in that time we simply grew closer and closer everyday and by the time I had to leave we both knew for sure that there is nothing else to do but living in a LDR The decision to be with him forever was made after we were in a LDR for a while, because I realised that I can't live my life without him anymore and I want to be part of his, every day

[Tabitha]

I just knew. I had been in a lot of relationships before, and I don't fall in love easily. I'm 29, and I've only been in love twice since I started dating at 14... or at least thought I was in love. With my SO, it's different. I knew two months after we got together, and so did he, that we were perfect for each other. That we loved one another very much at that point. We only fall more in love each day. He's the first guy that I've ever been able to spend practically three entire weeks with and not want some time to myself. He's the only guy that I've ever fallen for so quickly. He's the only guy that I've ever had such deep feeling for. That's how I knew.

[Elissa]

I knew I loved her when she wanted all of me and no less, and I felt the same way.