Hmmm...What if you could??

[TknandLvnIt]

I have been thinking a lot lately about my SO. He just came for a visit and it was soooo hard to end our time together. We joked about learning how to teleport but knowing that even though it was hard that it was worth it. We have known each other almost three years but have only been official three months but LD dating since Jan...I am so in love with him and I know that I am every time I look into his eyes, hear his voice or see him smile and know that I am reason for it....Anyway I was just wondering if it is ever too soon to tell your SO you love them? Is there an amount of time you should wait?

Ps. How did you tell your SO you loved them for the first time? Is there anything that you want to tell your SO?

[KiwiLove]

When we spent our time together we went out for several times..
I knew hes something special and that my feelings for him are so strong like I never had them before...
I made a bad experience with a guy (my first bf) in the past so I was quite confused if I should tell my SO about how much he means to me or not.
I decided to wait since I dindnt want to rush and he told me anytime we saw each other he really does like me a lot and I said it back but I got the urge to say "I love you" for the very first time in my life...

Then one day, he kissed me very gentle and said: S....I love you
After that I started to cry because it was the wonderfulst thing what someone said to me at this time so far :-) hmmmm...... I really really do miss him so bad at the moment ♥

[nicole]

I know me and my SO waited a long time- him because he put up these stupid walls and me because those walls were messing with my head and I didn't know he felt the same way. It came to a head when I was emotionally exhausted from it all ("A great moment" he had called me gaaaaah")- I was contimplating breaking up with him because I didn't see the point of spending a further 3 months falling for him even more, when it seemed he wanted to end it once I left, but breaking up is so hard, and I couldn't bare the thought of doing it.... so I cried for hours and hours and he just held me. Then we were sat opposite each other on the bed and he asked me if I loved him, I nodded (still crying ) and he said he loved me too. Not the most romantic first I love you, but it got it out there!

I'm not sure about a timescale, so long as you're both on the same page, it doesn't really matter how long you've been together. After all the heartache and emotional torture I went through, in my opinion, I would just tell him what you feel, because keeping something like that in is horrible believe me!

[Sano]

I didnt wait very long. I wasn't even expecting to hear it from him for awhile longer but it might've been less than a month and he just sprang it on me. I kind of hesitated but then I figured what was the point of waiting any longer, I knew how I felt but it still felt like it happened really fast. On the bright side, the more I know about him the more I love him for the most part XD

[LadyMarchHare]

I think we lasted all of a month before he fumbled it out one evening.

Personally, if you know what you're feeling is genuine then you should say it. It's the hardest thing saying it the first time. I know my SO didn't even say it, I just said "I know" and he was so relieved. The thing about it is people feel pressured to say it back and they may not be ready to say it or they may not even feel it yet. I wouldn't wait, but I'd add on the whole 'you don't have to say it back' line to ease any tension. I know some people admit they love their SOs but want to wait to say it in person. Me, I tell him every dadgum day I love him and that he better not forget it. I'd rather do that than wait however long to grab his face and scream it at him.

[Rugger]

We were together 6 months when I said it and almost 9 when he finally said it. When I said it to him he goes "I think I do" and I told him to wait until he was sure.

I didn't want him saying ti just because I was, but at the same time, it hurt because he wasn't sure.

[8983MilesofLove]

We'd been friends for about a year before we started dating (he was mine and my brothers sailing coach :P), and we started dating only 3 months before I moved back to England, so at first we didnt want anything serious...but as time went by we realized we were falling fast and hard. I felt feelings for him i had never felt for any other guy, and a couple of weeks before i moved we were on the beach under the stars when he told me he loved me i asked him what love was, and he described how he felt about me, and what he described was exactly how i felt about him, so clearly i knew that was love and i told him. He then told me he'd been in love with me for a while but was too scared to tell me
i'll never forget that moment *sigh*. 2 weeks later we were at the airport saying goodbye, and starting our long distance relationship

[Heather]

I think its important to tell someone you love them if you really do.. dont hold back your feelings. you just know when the right time to say it is.

[britt0851]

He told me on my 19th birthday We had been dating around 4 months and I kinda got the feeling that he wanted to say it, just by how he would write me or certain things he would say on the phone. I was out with my family celebrating and he texted me and told me and I knew I loved him, so of course I said it back. He called me the next day and I got to ask him, how long have you wanted to tell me that? He said, "for quite some time, but I was saving it for your birthday cuz I thought you'd enjoy that birthday gift" He was right. Since then, we don't just celebrate my birthday, we also celebrate that it's the anniversary of our first 'I love you's.'

[britt0851]

I think its important to tell someone you love them if you really do.. dont hold back your feelings. you just know when the right time to say it is.

I completely agree

[mllebamako]

I think its important to tell someone you love them if you really do.. dont hold back your feelings. you just know when the right time to say it is.

Agree. If you love him, then tell him. I would just let him no that it's something you feel but don't put pressure on him to say it back until he's ready.

My SO told me he loved me a month or so before I felt ready to say it

[Micah]

I told my SO I loved him after we were together for 3 months. I know we loved each other before that because I just felt it, but I was actually waiting for him to say it first. Unfortunately I am sort of a rules girl and I have been told that women should never say it first, but I could NOT wait any longer. When I told him I loved him, he said, "you do?!? well, I love you too!" And ever since then we say it all the time. I don't think there is any right time to tell someone you love them - whenever the time is right. I told my SO because the feeling was bursting through my body... I couldn't resist saying it. I knew without a doubt.

[Karringtyn]

I KNEW I loved my SO long before I told him. I was stubborn. He told me first and I held back...till suddenly one night it just came out.

FOLLOW the heart. It doesn't lie.

[sabby64]

I told him after 3 weeks, which was a huge deal at the time. Besides, we were already saying I really really really really really really really like you, so it was pretty much time XD He said he was nervous to tell me since he wasn't sure if I felt the same, but he was super glad I did.

[stacyrose]

For me it was really fast...we had met when he came down to Cali for a missions trip for a very short time, and after he left we became "pen pals" or internet buddies as you could say, before I decided to visit him that summer. I spent two weeks that summer with him, and I remember the day before i left we sat in his car and I looked him in the eyes and told him, "I really want to tell you something...but I don't want to scare you away." And he told me "It's okay, you can say it." And that's when I said I love you for the first time. And he said it back =]

Two weeks was all it took for me...and it's still as marvelous as it was back then =]