We closed the distance on Tues and we have had 2 huge fights since I got here. Over the same subbject, his asshole friends. I told him before i even moved here that I dont want anything to do with them but he has been pushing them on me. They are horrible people and I cant stomach being around them. I tried talking to him but I don't know what else I can do. I know right now our relationship will not survive with them in our lives. I plan on buying a ticket for home for thursday so he has until then to convience me other wise... I really dont think its going to happen. He had lots of friends back home and I got along with almost all of them but these people are the rudest, self centered ppl.
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I am sorry to hear this.
What does he say when you talk about it hon? Does he listen??
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If your man isnt doing the things they do then I don't see the problem really... I mean, they are his friends and you just need to make some of your own and you two need to find an easy medium... Tell him flat out that you do not want anything to do with them and that he needs to respect that and not bring them around you. Make friends of your own there and hopefully you two can find some friends you agree on...
Don't give up on something you've worked so hard on already just because his friends are pricks.
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awwwe thats terrible! expecially if his friends r bad:/ im sorry hunny! nd it deff doesnt make sence for him to push his friends on you. expecially since u dont like them.Be surcharged with peace and joy, And scatter them wherever you are And wherever you go. Be a blazing fire of truth, Be a beauteous blossom of love And be a soothing balm of peace...sigpicComment
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I agree with tiffinnie, tell him that he can spend all the time he wants with them but it isn't fair that he forces you to do it. They're HIS friends, not yours and surely they don't wanna spend time with you either if they know how you feel about them? Is there any place where you could make friends of your own you could hang out with while he's with his friends?
Suggest that he sees them somewhere else than in your house so you don't have to deal with them. Guys often choose their friends over their gf's sadly enough so giving him an ultimatum might not be the best option... If you don't have to see them would you be able to accept the fact that he hangs out with them?
Even if they are self centered and rude YOU can be the bigger person and ignore their faults. Compromising always takes more than 1 person. Hang in there ♥
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yes, I would suggest he hang out with them when you're not around. If you try to get him to cut them out completely, he probably won't do it, or he will hold it against you.
Compromise is the key here, he doesn't want to stop seeing his friends, which is fair. But it's not fair of him to be pushing them on you- certain people just don't get on, and I think that is the case here. I would tell him to either hang out with them at another location where you don't have to deal with them, or hang out with them when you aren't home.
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Is there any way you can compromise? He shouldn't be pushing them on you, but at the same time, you can't control his friends, no matter how rotten they are. Sometimes we as people have to discover things ourselves, and that includes realizing our friends suck.
I wouldn't run just yet. Stay away from the friends, and make your boundary clear, but give him a chance. If he's acting like the awful friends, well... that's a different story altogether.
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basically tell him if he wants to hang out with his friends thats fine and dandy, however tell him you dont like them and your not gonna hang out with them. end of storyComment
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I agree what others has said.
Think a compromise is needed. I don't think it's fully fair to ask him to give up his friends for good, no matter how much you may dislike them, but then it would be better if he was willing to only be around them other places than your home. So you don't have to be with people you don't like. That shouldn't be too much to ask. A relationship is all about compromises.
And I also agree to what nicole said, that if he did give them up, he could hold it against you later on.Comment
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