For those who can not count until they will see their SO

[KiwiLove]

I am sorry to start a "Donw-treat" but I thought there are only treats for counting until you will see your SO again but no treat for those who havent an idea when it will be "next time".
Who else doesnt know when they are going to see their SOs again or wants to share their advices and ideas about how to stay positive if there isnt a date set??

[LadyMarchHare]

While I do have one at last set, I spent 9 months without a set date and it was driving me crazy. The thing that kept me going was knowing it wasn't going to be permanent, that eventually his job would ease up on him enough to allow us some time together. It also helps to live for the day and not worry too much about tomorrow, next week, etc. Looking too much into the future, which is always uncertain, can make you worry more than you need to. To me, the battle of uncertainty and waiting makes your love stronger because you're determined to stomp through grief in order to get to the sunshine and rainbow, if that makes any sense.

[agentholli]

i have no advice for you. I haven't met Mark yet, and I have no idea when that is going to happen. It sucks big time and it makes me super depressed. If you find something good that works out, please let me, I would love to know.

[Lexi]

I have no idea when I'm going to see my SO next and it's driving me crazy. I currently only make about 150 every two weeks, so me visiting him is just no in the cards right now. I'm working on getting a full time job making way more than that in one week, but still, it sucks for now. I've been kind of trying to guilt him into visiting me sometime in Jan or Feb, but I've given up on it for the most part. His mother is a BITCH and would pretty much kick him out if he missed one class or took off one day of work to come visit me. So... I'm just kind of stuck in limbo right now.

[Gurl]

Having been through this, I'd say that holding on to the fact that you WILL see each other again is a big thing. I'd also suggest making tentative plans, even if you can't put a date on them. Also..find time to be together virtually as often as possible. I didn't do any but the first, and that is a part of what has things between me and my love in limbo and strange....so it's a do as I say bit of advice. It's not from knowing it works but believing it would have helped had I done it...if that makes sense.

[LadyMarchHare]

Having been through this, I'd say that holding on to the fact that you WILL see each other again is a big thing. I'd also suggest making tentative plans, even if you can't put a date on them. Also..find time to be together virtually as often as possible. I didn't do any but the first, and that is a part of what has things between me and my love in limbo and strange....so it's a do as I say bit of advice. It's not from knowing it works but believing it would have helped had I done it...if that makes sense.

I have to agree with the 'being together virtually as much as possible'. Even if you're just texting, which is what my relationship's reduced to at the moment, it's better than no contact at all. You kinda have to make yourself see the glass as half full on this one in that at least you can talk, skype, whatever you guys do even if you can't be there in person right now.

[Rosebud]

I'm absolutely in the same boat. My one and only visit with my bf was back in October and while we had hoped for another visit this month that's clearly not happening. We are still hoping for sometime in the next couple months but I'm trying not to get my hopes up and staying realistic in that it may very well be not until sometime next summer when we'll be together again. It's really not easy for me since the whole uncertainty of the situation can be unbearable at times and I do begin to crack on really bad days. Even if I did have to wait until sometime next summer to him again, at least knowing 100% would take some of that pressure off, but nope, I get to flounder around in hopes that the stars will somehow aline and we can see each other once more.

[Èternity]

We don't have a next date either. You need to focus on your life and living it as best you can. Get into a routine with your SO for contact in whatever way suits you text email etc. Work on smaller goals like maybe doing some of the 90+ things LDR couples do which is on the main page. A journey happens a day at a time. Each day that goes by is still a day closer to him even though I don't have a date set.

[Anolinde]

Erik and I agreed to wait till the summer, since we're both going to be moving and neither of us have jobs yet. I couldn't count down the days because even then it's not a sure thing and I have no idea what may happen between now and then. It'll be a whole year since I've seen him at Christmas and it's hard but I'll get through it as we all will.

[uniquefem]

Last time i met my SO was on airport, i ask him to promise to meet each other again within 6 months.
I wish i could be with him on New Year eve. But thats not going to happen... i had to renew my passport in March one day i told him. Next thing i know he told me to renew it so i could visit him in German at May.
I live in tropical country for like rest of my life, where i got sunshine for almost every day and temp. as low as 28C degrees (82.4F) and average daily 30-31 degrees (around 86-87 F degrees). When we met in Macau it was 14-15C degrees, and i am shaking! its cold for me!
So he said its better if i visit him on summer, when its warmer!
But of course its just a plan... its still like 5 months a head and there's no guarantee my visa will approved *sigh*

It drive me nuts because i want to be with him, so much. I care less where.. just meet.. and spent sometimes with him.. sigh...

Just try to be positive... we chat almost every night so i hope everything goes well until May... (IF my visa approved!!)

[uniquefem]

Last time i met my SO was on airport, i ask him to promise to meet each other again within 6 months.
I wish i could be with him on New Year eve. But thats not going to happen... i had to renew my passport in March one day i told him. Next thing i know he told me to renew it so i could visit him in German at May.
I live in tropical country for like rest of my life, where i got sunshine for almost every day and temp. as low as 28C degrees (82.4F) and average daily 30-31 degrees (around 86-87 F degrees). When we met in Macau it was 14-15C degrees, and i am shaking! its cold for me!
So he said its better if i visit him on summer, when its warmer!
But of course its just a plan... its still like 5 months a head and there's no guarantee my visa will approved *sigh*

It drive me nuts because i want to be with him, so much. I care less where.. just meet.. and spent sometimes with him.. sigh...

Just try to be positive... we chat almost every night so i hope everything goes well until May... (IF my visa approved!!)

[tinkabelle]

I can definitely relate. The last time I was with my SO was in October. We planned to get together this past weekend but it snowed in Chicago so he wasn't able to make it. Fortunately, we talk & text daily but some days are harder than others. Hopefully, we'll be able to see each other before Spring but I may have to learn to be patient & just wait :-(

[regalia13]

I have no idea when I will see my SO again. He is currently in Navy A school and was supposed to come down for Christmas, but there's problems and he can't come down now. It's hard to stay positive, but we talk as much as possible. We're hoping to meet again in February for our anniversary.