She has to work everyday :/

[Caitlin2009]

Like i said yesturday Denise finally found a job and im happy she found one and is gonna pay good money however.....With this job she actually has to work every day..... :/ minus the weekends, i am not that happy about that mainly because she got her small heart condition(its mainly anxiety thing) from working everyday with the last job she had which was cleaning a store, but she also had another job working in Pizza hut, was doing University at the same time and with anxiety heart condition is that if she gets too worked up over tired, really upset, ect her heart races and she passes out for a few seconds to a minute. when she first got it, it was for few minutes, and she was having episodes every day! She only gets them now a few times a month and they dont bother me as much because i can talk her through it when she's having one but her working every day is bothering me! I know shes been looking for a year and half now, i know this will help us in the future but i cant help but worry that this is gonna affect her health. I dunno maybe im over worrying as usual. And maybe im being selfish as well but what the hell does this mean for us??? how the hell is this gonna help us in the future if she has to work everyday!!!! if theres a reason or light at the end of the tunnel for this IM NOT SEEING IT AT THE MOMENT!!! meh......

[DarkSolitary]

Hmm, Well I think your worrying is normal. Your love has a medical condition that could potentially be life threatening and it's scary to think about these things while in a Long Distance Relationship.

Her employer is probably aware of her heart condition and will hopefully accommodate her properly. The best you can do is just support her. Ask her if her employer knows about her condition and ask her if her employer will accommodate her within reasonable means. At least with that you can get some peace of mind.

[Caitlin2009]

knowing her she probably wont say anything to her, because its not that bad its mainly anxiety related but still im worried

[DarkSolitary]

Well, just talk to her about it And she should still let her employer know of any current medical conditions even if it's minor like anxiety. It's up to her though if she will do that but it would be a good idea to let her employer know.

[Zephii]

Every body works. It's a fact of life, and these days a 40 hour working week is standard. It's hard at first, but perfectly do-able. She'll be fine, just like the rest of us.

Anxiety can be debilitating, yes, but it's also very manageable. If she eats right, gets enough sleep and has things she enjoys and looks forward to in life, working every day seems like a much smaller thing. And who knows, in time when you're financially stable, perhaps she could drop down to part time. You worrying too much will affect her anxiety though. I know how empathic connections work, and I also know what kind of pressure one partner's fears can put on another even without that kind of link. So you need to chill - for both your sakes.

Being greedy for time? Well I'm guilty of that too. I hate how much Obi works (Nine and a half hour work days with a total of three hours commute on top of that) and get worried occasionally, but we all have to do what we must to survive. I also know you've got a time difference to work around. But, she does have weekends, and you're experienced LDRers... I'm sure you'll be just fine.

[NikkiP]

Be there for her
Be there for her
Be there for her

That is so important. I have a VERY high stress job and I take my job personally and often get worked up about issues that I can't control. Ryan is great about being there for me, calming me down and telling me how awesome I am at my job etc.

You'll definitely be able to make this work

*HUGS*

[Karringtyn]

Everyone else has said it all.

Be there for her, support her, and encourage her. Her working is a GREAT thing!!! You learn to make the best of the small amounts of time!!

[__ms.jaye]

Be there for her
Be there for her
Be there for her

That is so important. I have a VERY high stress job and I take my job personally and often get worked up about issues that I can't control. Ryan is great about being there for me, calming me down and telling me how awesome I am at my job etc.

You'll definitely be able to make this work

*HUGS*

I second that, I too am a worry wart and the best medicine is someone telling me it's going to be okay.

[Caitlin2009]

i know i know.....we even had an argument yesturday over this *smacks forhead* which i still feel like a complete bitch about because i even thought with all the work hours she was gonna forget about me...i tried to hide that thought from her but she picked it up *Sighs* and i ended up hurting her feelings which is something i didnt mean to do and hell i dont even know why i thought it! we um heh made love afterwords and were fine now and i'll be happier when i call her on the phone when i get out of work myself, but bleh i dont like having fights like that because while your having them you litterly feel yourselves pulling apart from each other, but then after awhile you get pulled together again that part is nice its just the other part i dont like so much. And i did tell her i was so gonna walk her to and from work, then spoil her alot when she gets back from work like give her full body massages, make her dinner, ect

[sam]

Isnt that the normal thing to do..? Work 5 days I'd understand if it was all 7 days but..

[MadMolly]

So is she working every day or just a working week, I got confused by your thing saying minus the weekends...

[Caitlin2009]

Isnt that the normal thing to do..? Work 5 days I'd understand if it was all 7 days but..

i dunno is it? the only time i worked everyday was when i just started working at a job and then ive only had part time since then *shrugs*

So is she working every day or just a working week, I got confused by your thing saying minus the weekends...

well its everyday except the weekends

[MadMolly]

I think she'll be fine coz that's just a regular week, unless she is doing 10+ hour days it's not actually hard working full time! I hope her anxiety doesn't flare up, don't stress too much though coz you might pass on the stress.

[BoogleBee]

When I think about a full time working week I think of 5 days a week. So in terms of a full time job it is reasonable. When I get a proper job after I graduate I would want 5 days a week. I'm sure she will do fine, and you will both be great and work out time to talk around it

[Karringtyn]

I deal with anxiety myself and also have a heart condition. I have NO choice but to work full time. I have realized my limits and I have learned how to take care of me. Just support her and encourage her. Working is part of life...I actually LOVE my job....