Do you agree to disagree?

[stacyrose]

When you have an argument with your SO, and its something you won't budge on (could be something as simple as not liking the same movie, or something more serious like your views on gay marriage), do you agree to disagree? Are some of these issues deal breakers?

I have this issue with my SO sometimes and it's frustrating because if I don't agree with something its almost as if his way is the RIGHT way and he tries to convince me to be on his side, when I stick firmly with mine, and it causes tension. On rare occasions I pretend to agree with him to stop conflict when I am weary from life in general. I tend to blame it on our signs (I'm a Libra, he's a Capricorn) lol

Thoughts?

[TurboPrinzessin]

Hi! My man and I sometimes agree to disagree on stuff and I am glad we actually both think that way. Just an example, I have a lot of gay friends, now, while he doesn't have anything against them he is not a supporter of the gay community either. In that case we just agree to disagree because it simply does not make sense to fight. no one is right or wrong, we just have different opinions ;-) Have you ever talked to your boyfriend about "agree to disagree"?

[Trethsparr]

So far, my SO and I have been fortunate to not find anything crucial that we're complete polar opposites on, for the most part. Probably the closest we have come so far was when we first started dating and the topic came up of what we would do if our hypothetical kids wanted to go into the military after high school. We both diverged on how we would handle the situation quite significantly. (Mostly, this is based on our family history and upbringings.) It's good that we know about this now, because it could possibly come up again in the future; however, we also know that it's not worth getting our panties in a twist over something that may or may not ever happen. The child in question, more than likely, will have his or her own decisions to make in this as well, so it makes no sense to assume and get hard feelings this far out. We both agreed to revisit this at a later date if it proves to be necessary, and we are both going to try to remember each other's emotional attachment to our particular opinions as we talk about it.

About personal tastes, like television, music, food, etc... well, I don't see too much of a point at getting bent out of shape over that either. I have decided to respect his tastes wherever they may diverge from mine and to try to be open-minded. If I try something and don't like it (or visa versa), then we'll enjoy the interests on our own or with other like-minded friends. Nothing wrong with that.

[Elissa]

When my SO and I butt heads, there's no stopping until somebody cries. Bad, I know, but we are both reallly stubborn.

[stacyrose]

Whenever it gets heated I just stop it in its tracks and tell him "Babe...lets just agree to disagree. This is pointless" And if he continues, I just refuse to participate in it anymore. Eventually he gives up lol

[hxcbreakdance]

My SO and I do have disagreements and we don't always see things the same as the other but we respect each others opinions so it's not usually a problem for us.

[garnet]

We've had things we agree to disagree over. Our core values line up very well, but things here and there would pop up that we didn't see eye to eye on.

Now that we are discussing how to raise a baby, it has gotten more interesting, as we can't just let things go, we have to actually agree to agree somehow haha.

[Caitlin2009]

well when we argue we try to find level ground to make an agreement and end the arguement as soon as possible because your relationship is not worth having tension and on the verge of breaking up just because you wanna be right! just find a common ground and agree to something then move on

[milaya]

Before our even minor disagreements could turn into bigger arguments. To be honest, mostly because I'm stubborn as hell and often wouldn't let things go. Though lately I've become better at saying "okay, think this discussion ends here." (when I can feel I start to loose my patience) and he stops right away, no questions asked. So guess we (I mostly) are becoming better at "agree to disagree".

[leonsfangirl]

Thats something me and G have trouble with, we can debate a topic for hours and still end up where we started!
He's very politcally motivated, whereas i really dont pay attention to that kind of thing.
"If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything" is one of his favourite quotes
You just have to agree to disagree for any relationship to work out.

[Sano]

Recently theres been one issue we haven't agreed on but Im starting to realize thats is not that big of issue anyway. Im trying to focus on being with him and not trying to cause problems at all XD

[Silviar]

We disagree on some issues, and usually we agree to disagree after we explain our stances to one another fully so the other understands why. Ironically, bigger things we can explain more calmly, but little things we can occasionally blow up at each other, and we cool off pretty quickly and both apologize for lowing up, then talk about it.

I'm lucky that he's a pretty mature guy when it comes to communicating. :3

[lucybelle]

I think we've only come across one thing that we disagree on: global warming. One day he told me his view, and I told him mine. Then I saw I was already getting mad and said "wanna get pizza?" hahaha Just not worth it to argue. Gotta pick your battles, ya know?

[TknandLvnIt]

We are both really stubborn and have found that we HAVE to have a a middle ground or things will never get resolved. Sometimes we just agree to disagree if its not connected to us...if it is we try to come to an agreement.

[pytsip]

We've been fortunate to be able to work through every argument that we have. Usually it's about something stupid and it's usually just a miscommunication. We've never really had an issue where we have had to agree to disagree, I think that he and I are pretty similar in our thoughts. We're both people who need to talk it through when we're in a disagreement and I think that we both realize that usually it's just a miscommunication.