Good news for once. =]

[Veiled_Dreamer]

I bet some of you guys still remember my situation (me wanting more commitment than my SO) and how I confronted him about it last week. He "kind of" went with it is the best way to describe it I think, and we all agreed that only time would tell if he actually meant he was going to change this time.

There's a noticeable change. He's making more and more references to a recognizable "us" and I don't feel like I'm the only one that tries to be cute and sappy anymore, not by any means. He is definitely making more of an effort to pay more attention to me, he's the one that's a lot of time initiating cute and cuddly times, and he is really shaping up with telling me when he's going to be available to talk and everything. He's also actually confronting his ex whose still in love with him too, which I'm honestly surprised about- he always thought the best decision was to just leave it. We discussed it and he told me he felt like she had already decided they were going to be together some day. So he told her that he didn't want to be the only thing that made her happy, and she acts like he is. It was, well, really cool.

It's funny how my happy posts are shorter than my sad ones. >.> But yeah. He's really starting to put his money where his mouth is.

[ioanna]

thats great : D
im really happy things are starting to look really good for you : D

[Kitty]

That's because we need more help through the hard times....or that's a theory anyway So glad things are looking much much MUCH better for you!

[uk_girl]

Sounds great!

My relationship broke up because he didn't compromise with his behaviour etc, so it makes me really happy to see that not all men are like that and there is hope!

Really happy for ya - keep us updated chick x

[Rach321]

I love hearing good news!

[Jackie]

Woop woop, that's awesome! You deserve to be with someone who is dedicated to you and you only!

[Mio]

Great, I hope your relationship keep getting stronger!

[ettie]

Great! He cares enough to make you happy that is what I call love.
I´m glad you are happy!

[Taija]

Hurray for good news! I hope he's gonna keep the effort up.

[PurpleDreamer]

That's really great, I hope he keeps up with the effort!

[Tanja]

That's good news! I hope things will stay great and he'll keep up with the good work. As do you

[Veiled_Dreamer]

Oh wowww.

I was talking to his ex the yesterday. She and I are on good terms, though she didn't know about us because she still loves him and he still wants to be her friend. So eventually she brought him up and asked if I was over him like I had claimed to be many months ago. I said sort of, I was trying to be realistic, i.e. I wasn't obsessed. Then she told me what he told her about me: he thought there were a lot of things keeping us apart, we could never be together, he didn't think there was the slightest real chance. At first I very thoroughly believed it and I laughed out loud at myself for believing he could have cared about me at all. When I realized that she could very well be lying, all possibility of that was shattered as she began to reference specific things he had told her about my opinion of her. I was shocked and horrified- not at her because she had no way of knowing I didn't already know all of this, but at him, for lying to me about everything. I left him some concise but severely disappointed offlines and said I didn't know if I could speak to him again. When I woke up this morning, I saw some offlines from him- first a hey before he had seen my messages, and then a request that we talk this out.

I left him some elaborate offlines this morning; I felt ridiculous for believing anything he had told me and ridiculous for playing such a twisted game of phone tag. I basically spilled my feelings: broken promises to tell each other when we were upset, lies, everyone misled. And then I saw she had left me offlines too since I had had to log off that night: she loved him and she felt certain they would be together in the end, when he is no where near as certain. I considered myself totally single at that point, after I finished my offlines, as I had told him that if he didn't want to talk about it and could see how it was best for us not to be in each others' lives, then he didn't need to speak to me about it any further.

I honestly expected nothing from him when I got home, but what I didn't expect was a lot of offlines from him. He said that he had never lied to me, but yes, he had lied to her about us to keep her from getting hurt. Which I instantly didn't like, but he said it amazed him how what started as a small cover-up fib became perceived as a web of deceit. He said he was sorry, and I had only ever made him happy, and he loved me. Ironically he was online when I got home, and I was able to webcam, so we did. It was really awkward at first, but when we got to talking, it basically developed into an ultimatum. I couldn't go on with her thinking that I had gotten upset over him misleading me, and not over the fact that he had lied to her about something I think was very important, since we certainly do have a romantic inclination, if not a "real" relationship. And he didn't think he could tell her without losing her friendship. I couldn't be in his life for a while, after all of this, if we ended things. I left for dinner resigned to the fact that he didn't want to hurt anyone, including her.

When I got back, he was silent on webcam. Then he told me, "I'm telling her now. I don't want to, but I'm going to." And he told her about us.

This is the first BIG sacrifice he has made for us. Usually it's just me, but he put something that means a lot to him on the line, and even if she didn't freak like he thought she would, now she knows. Now she knows, I don't have to feel guilty for her thinking that he will never be with anyone else. I'm amazed, I never thought this meant enough for him to do something like that. I never thought I meant enough to him, in all bluntness. So yeah, though I have lost some significant trust in him, but this is some progress. This is some big progress.