1. Do you talk to them each day? If so when?
Yep. Early on I'd wake up at 5am (lunch time in Canada) to msn or occasionally voice/skype. Then I'd write in my letterbook while we were both at school/work.
Then I worked from home for the last year of distance and wasn't allowed to get up at 5am so often msn would run most of the day and we'd check in with each other in between our classes. Then when I'd knock off work at midnight his time we'd connect skype and talk until he fell asleep, we'd sleep together and then at 2am my time when he got up for school he'd wake me with sweet words and I'd turn off my pc to save power.
It was a good system. It was inconvenient, but it made it seem like he was really there with me.
Now we see each other every day, but we talk -really talk - a great deal less. I have to remember to make time for us to check in with each other and do some "deep sharing". I see him for five minutes in the morning when he rushes out the door for work, or on the weekend drives me to work, and we try to dedicate our evenings to doing things together, reading, cooking, WoW, whatever. Occasionally we'll get a whole day off together too. I tresure those days. I never get sick of him, and I think LDR taught me the time management skills I still use to keep this relationship running.
3. How? Phone? Text? Email? Skype?
Never phone. I think we had five or so phonecalls and I treasure those memories. Txt was rare, but we managed it in the last two years before closing the distance. It was 50c a text for me though, so it was only used when I wouldnt have internet for a few days, or emergencies.
Once we discovered skype, email pretty much vanished, but msn was our main communication.
4. How often throughout the day do you talk?
We were LD so long it's hard to average that, but in the last two years of LD (the most important ones in my mind) we didn't talk so much as maintain a companionable contact. The msn windows would be open, or skype would be running, but that was to maintain the fantasy of being together and thus ease the distance strain. We weren't talking that much during the day. We often got quality time in the afternoon/evening though, usually at least 2 hours, on weekends he'd stay up with me until the sunrose in Canada and I was ready to sleep and those days we'd get 7 or more hours.
Compared to many people we talked A LOT. But we're both clingy needy people, so it was good for us.
Yep. Early on I'd wake up at 5am (lunch time in Canada) to msn or occasionally voice/skype. Then I'd write in my letterbook while we were both at school/work.
Then I worked from home for the last year of distance and wasn't allowed to get up at 5am so often msn would run most of the day and we'd check in with each other in between our classes. Then when I'd knock off work at midnight his time we'd connect skype and talk until he fell asleep, we'd sleep together and then at 2am my time when he got up for school he'd wake me with sweet words and I'd turn off my pc to save power.
It was a good system. It was inconvenient, but it made it seem like he was really there with me.
Now we see each other every day, but we talk -really talk - a great deal less. I have to remember to make time for us to check in with each other and do some "deep sharing". I see him for five minutes in the morning when he rushes out the door for work, or on the weekend drives me to work, and we try to dedicate our evenings to doing things together, reading, cooking, WoW, whatever. Occasionally we'll get a whole day off together too. I tresure those days. I never get sick of him, and I think LDR taught me the time management skills I still use to keep this relationship running.
3. How? Phone? Text? Email? Skype?
Never phone. I think we had five or so phonecalls and I treasure those memories. Txt was rare, but we managed it in the last two years before closing the distance. It was 50c a text for me though, so it was only used when I wouldnt have internet for a few days, or emergencies.
Once we discovered skype, email pretty much vanished, but msn was our main communication.
4. How often throughout the day do you talk?
We were LD so long it's hard to average that, but in the last two years of LD (the most important ones in my mind) we didn't talk so much as maintain a companionable contact. The msn windows would be open, or skype would be running, but that was to maintain the fantasy of being together and thus ease the distance strain. We weren't talking that much during the day. We often got quality time in the afternoon/evening though, usually at least 2 hours, on weekends he'd stay up with me until the sunrose in Canada and I was ready to sleep and those days we'd get 7 or more hours.
Compared to many people we talked A LOT. But we're both clingy needy people, so it was good for us.
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