LDR looks

[punkpain]

this thread is rather amusing.

Kyle is one of those guys who wears a t-shirt and slacks and doesnt care that it looks horrible. I am alot more fashionable and prefer nice tops with fitted jeans or pants/skirts. He has no piercings or tattoos. I have more tattoos than I can keep track of and over 20 piercings. He would rather not shave more than once or twice a month. I prefer a clean shaven look... though I myself am not much for shaving my legs very often... arm pits and other areas are at least weekly.

I am pretty sure you can see where this is going. Kyle and I are very much opposites. Where I wear purfume he doesnt like the idea of calonge. Its kinda funny how opposite we are yet how much alike we are in every other way. But at least he is willing to take my advice on hair cuts, try to shave more often when we are around each other and not wear those awful slacks so much. I much prefer him in jeans. And I have been growing my hair out and have been dying it red since he informed me he likes longer hair. I used to have really long hair and dyed it red all the time. But with my last child i got frusterated and cut it all off and bleached it out.. then started dying it funky colors like purple and pink. So I really dont mind growing my hair out again and keeping it red.

But as others of you have said... being yourself and compromising on some things is pretty much key in any relationship. I wouldnt want Kyle to go and get a tattoo just because I have tattoos. I wouldnt mind if he did but if he ever asked me not to get a specific thing or not have something showing someplace i would take it into account.

[Mio]

In our case we have pretty much the same taste about most of the things. So for us it doesn't bring too much turmoil. But I believe that there must be a balance or a 50/50 chance. For me it's fair to be yourself, but at the same time if there is something your partner like or dislike then I should follow a little their liking. I like it when he style as I like, so then why wouldn't I style as he like to see me? And I wouldn't be to happy at the begining if he did something to his looks that I really don't like. But you have to be yourself always, if not you won't be comfortable and you won't make a good projection of your image.

Shaving, lol, as Molly posted some time ago, I don't usually shave unless he is around, but now that we are ending our distance next week I will have to start again. And about shaving down there, I have no problem to be natural or being shaved, and so does he, but we compromised to both shave. No problem as it's better for my running (long distance runner).

[Tanja]

It'll be interesting to see Tanja's reply to this... lol

She's got long hair and I LOVE it, I really do lol. She says I've got a hair fetish which is putting it a bit strong to be fair :|

But every girl I've had a crush on has always had nice hair lol! I just guess a girl's hair has always been kinda important to me, they have to have nice hair, it's one of the first things you notice. I especially like curly hair and a friend of Tanja's treated her to have curls put in and omg she looked out of this world I swear

Anyway, she says she'd like to cut it short one day, which I really wouldn't want, cause she says it's a pain having long hair and I can understand why but I really do love it, she does take my feelings into account with this though. I think it's kinda in the balance for now

I'd hate it if she didn't, cause it's something I really like about the way she looks, and she knows that. I know some people will say "you should love your partner regardless of what they look like" but I'm with you on this, luna, it is important to take your partner's feelings into account for this sort of thing.

Though I've said when I marry her I want her to have long, blonde hair, that's my only condition - so she's either in for a long wait before we get married or she'll at least wait a few years before having it cut

And hopefully she'll have gone off the idea by then

I love you gorgeous

Babe you definitely sound like you have a hair fetish

Like Andy said, I sometimes wanna cut my hair SO BAD lol cause it's always been long, for my whole life which is over 25 years and tbh it's getting on my f'ing nerves!!! And I hate it that I can't cut it cause Andy keeps saying how much he'd hate it, so if I did cut it I'd feel guilty and he would probably constantly remind me how great it was when it was long, though he knows how much I would love him to grow long hair but he refuses to do it cause he hates it! That's a bit unfair I think... I can't win

But I know he loves it so that's put me off for doing it so far...

Another thing he likes is my hair being blonde but I've managed to convince him that it'll still be as lovely when it's dark cause that's what I wanna do next. I've had black hair before (when I was an angry teenager and only wore black, including my lipstick lol!) but that was horrible lol so I wouldn't go that far but I definitely want it to be brown cause I think it suits me.

I absolutely love when Andy has a beard, it's so sexy and just suits him perfectly and luckily whenever he's here with me he lets it grow so I can stroke it
It's also ginger which makes it even more sexy!

About the shaving/waxing the legs, I don't really do it cause I'm not bothered lol and all the hair I have in my legs is really light and there's so little of it you can bearly see it. But I've shaved them a few times if I've gone out in the summer wearing a short skirt. I also like to keep the downstairs clean, just cause it's more comfortable rather than having a bush sticking out of your bikini, lol!

[NerdyH]

My guy and I haven't had any troubles with this really, except once when he noticed I was wearing shorts in a picture of me on Facebook. He got jealous and said that they were too tiny - even though they weren't at all! What's so wrong with wearing shorts when it's boiling hot outside?! (This was last summer, haha)
Honestly though, I think he had a bad day and realised he was overreacting since he apologised later on, so it's all good, hah.

[Zephii]

I hate shaving. I hate being hairy too, but whilst I can safely wax my own legs there are some places it isn't safe to attempt waxing alone! And Obi can't/wont learn to do it for me. If he doesn't like Tazmania being on the map he's never made an issue of it, so I assume he doesn't really care. He too hates shaving. When we're apart, I don't shave or wax anything and he doesn't shave his face unless he has something important to do. I can see it through the webcam, but I let it go.
Generally though our problem doesn't come from perminent physical changes. I even shaved my head bald once and he told me he thought I looked beautiful Though he doesn't encourage me to do it again lol. Our problems start with hygene. He has no problem (actually generally prefers) to look nice for me - but doesn't like to shower first!! Which doesn't bother me too much when we're apart either - I figure it wards off other potential suitors - but it's still gross.

[JoMarie]

I think that looks and attraction are second nature in a LDR. I love kevin for who he is, but I like it when he cuts his hair and shaves. He likes it when I shave (down there) and likes my hair long. I have my tongue pierced and he couldn't care less if its in or out. I also plan to get a tattoo here soon, and he doesn't mind. I don't mind what he does either.

[Alisz]

I definately think looks matter. But then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. :P My boyfriend and I have this little saying with each other. Whenever I'm having a "fat day" or he's feeling insecure about something, we'll tell each other that we find each other attractive and that in the end it's the only opinion that matters. ^^

And I'll be honest, I didn't fall completely for him until after I saw a picture of him. I thought his brain was sexy, but I had reservations because I had no idea what he looked like. It may seem shallow, but I do feel you need to have some sort of physical attraction to your partner. I asked him to send me a picture and I was psyching myself to lower my standards because I really liked him as a person. When I saw him I was floored. I think my jaw literially dropped to the ground. XD He was/is sexy on the inside and outside. ^^ And fortunate for me he has an Asian fetish (amongst others that I'm in possession of) and we get along great in terms of physical attraction. But it's not the most important thing. We know that looks can fade and value more the fact we can spend so much time together enjoying each other's company and making each other happy. ^^

[uk_girl]

My ex preferred I took time to shave etc down *there* and I prefer it like that anyway so that was never an issue. He always did the same for him too, as he preferred it also! So that was never an issue!

I absolutely LOVED it when he had stubble at the very least...I'm not a beard fan but I loved it when he had it at a reasonable length. He is lazy and often couldn't be arsed to shave so that was great too!

He loved my long hair and I'd never ever have it short as I don't think it'd suit.

We were pretty much perfect together in that respect.

I banned him from shaving his head though, as he looked like a thug when he did - possibly due to the big scar on his head from when he was almost murdered by his ex's 'bit on the side' with an iron bar.

[Kitty]

ok so this thread took a bit of an unexpected turn on the shaving part...though completely should have expected it since there are a lot of us girls. I agree with Gurl that it is awesome we can talk about these kind of things here and feel comfortable doing so. I also agree that shaving "down there" is a pain in the arse...though I do it because I personally have come to like it better...and of course it saves on having hair stick out. I happen to like guys that shave or wax(ouch!) because it makes playing so much more fun, imo. I love goatees and scruff..as long as it is kept neat. Shaving my legs in winter I dont do so much except for a lazy shave(just above the knees) once in a while, during summer always or when wearing shorts or a skirt. I always shave my underarms because I cant stand it if I dont. Edit: So far Brandon and I haven't had any problems about looks. We both like the other's looks. Besides we both know looks only last so long. Beauty, however, comes in many forms and is always in the eye of the beholder.

[lunamea]

I banned him from shaving his head though, as he looked like a thug when he did - possibly due to the big scar on his head from when he was almost murdered by his ex's 'bit on the side' with an iron bar.

OMG! Yeah, I can see your point - my husband looks kinda like a thug, too, with his shaved head, even without scar. I guess there are certain situations it comes in handy to look intimidating, but mostly, it's not nice when people look at you like at a criminal...

About the shaving... well, obviously some of the most controversial issues about looks have to do with hair in some form or other.