like if you have read my previous threads before.
you would have known me and my SO have been extremely rocky to the point we might even end things already.
Basically I think its cause he has extreme man's pride and that he feels the him I'm seeing right now is when he is at his most down moment of his life.
And besides, he's having alot of pressure as he has alot of financial issues now that he's gonna go back to his hometown for lunar new year's visitation. And his older brother is getting married soon. Which means he would have to spend alot of money and time on them.
So i reckon he feels the pressure and strain about all this.
He mentioned to me that i don't have to call him everyday cause the fact that he is unable to call me now as I know how his financial situation is really bad now so I can't force him to put the priorities on me. Which i also understand. and i cause of his mans ego, i think he doesn't feel good that i'm calling all the time and he can't seem to do anything.
After that long serious talk he had with me. I haven't got to talk to him proper for a week.
Finally just now i got to call him and talk things out.
He was swaying between a break up and a put on hold/hiatus kinda thing.
Its like he thinks we should break up cause he thinks he'll be a burden to me!
and i would just feel its just cause he's really not in a good state now so he's feeling very uncertain of his future.
I said is it because you don't love me anymore? cause if it is it'll be easier for me to let go. then he said even if we were to end things its not cause he don't love me anymore, its because we're from way too different world and we're too far apart it seems too impossible to really be together eventually.
(I guess cause he's really pressured by his current stuff and the fact he don't even have a passport and money to find me anytime soon)
That he assured me that everything that happened before was real and that him being with me wasn't just for show off or anything. He promised he didn't play with my feelings in any way.
I told him, a break up isn't necessary. So now we're gonna be on hold like a pause for a few months for him to get his life back on track before we even discuss further about this relationship. I don't want him to break up with me just because he's not at his best cause i don't think thats really stupid. I still love him and he means the world to me.
We said we would not talk till March which my exams would end and i intend to visit him initially which i don't know if i should still visit him? though its a "it's complicated" relationship now, he says if someone wants to date me and all get to know them. and i'll never know if i'll find someone better. He said if we do eventually get someone new, we'll move on. If not we'll just leave it to fate? He beliefs if we're destined to be together we would be eventually.
I don't know, this is the best we could do for this kind of situation yeah?
you would have known me and my SO have been extremely rocky to the point we might even end things already.
Basically I think its cause he has extreme man's pride and that he feels the him I'm seeing right now is when he is at his most down moment of his life.
And besides, he's having alot of pressure as he has alot of financial issues now that he's gonna go back to his hometown for lunar new year's visitation. And his older brother is getting married soon. Which means he would have to spend alot of money and time on them.
So i reckon he feels the pressure and strain about all this.
He mentioned to me that i don't have to call him everyday cause the fact that he is unable to call me now as I know how his financial situation is really bad now so I can't force him to put the priorities on me. Which i also understand. and i cause of his mans ego, i think he doesn't feel good that i'm calling all the time and he can't seem to do anything.
After that long serious talk he had with me. I haven't got to talk to him proper for a week.
Finally just now i got to call him and talk things out.
He was swaying between a break up and a put on hold/hiatus kinda thing.
Its like he thinks we should break up cause he thinks he'll be a burden to me!
and i would just feel its just cause he's really not in a good state now so he's feeling very uncertain of his future.
I said is it because you don't love me anymore? cause if it is it'll be easier for me to let go. then he said even if we were to end things its not cause he don't love me anymore, its because we're from way too different world and we're too far apart it seems too impossible to really be together eventually.
(I guess cause he's really pressured by his current stuff and the fact he don't even have a passport and money to find me anytime soon)
That he assured me that everything that happened before was real and that him being with me wasn't just for show off or anything. He promised he didn't play with my feelings in any way.
I told him, a break up isn't necessary. So now we're gonna be on hold like a pause for a few months for him to get his life back on track before we even discuss further about this relationship. I don't want him to break up with me just because he's not at his best cause i don't think thats really stupid. I still love him and he means the world to me.
We said we would not talk till March which my exams would end and i intend to visit him initially which i don't know if i should still visit him? though its a "it's complicated" relationship now, he says if someone wants to date me and all get to know them. and i'll never know if i'll find someone better. He said if we do eventually get someone new, we'll move on. If not we'll just leave it to fate? He beliefs if we're destined to be together we would be eventually.
I don't know, this is the best we could do for this kind of situation yeah?
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