So recently I have come to a realization that I have become clingy... UGH and it honestly makes me feel so disgusted with myself because i never used to be like that... I think it's because I've catered too much to my SO after we had a rough patch and almost broke up and lost some of my own independance.
Cause BEFORE I would have NEVER allowed myself to get to this point.
1.) I always call him because my family's home phone line is fortunate enough to include free long distance to anywhere in the United States and Canada.
-So he's gotten so used to never calling me, EVER so I suggest he maybe buy a phone card or something but he always has an excuse I just let it slide.
2.)I almost always text him, initiate the text or carry the conersations he replies with one word answers most of the time.
-I have begged and begged and we have had many COUNTLESS serious talks about how it bothers me that he does that and it comes across as rude, his excuse? "I dont even answer some people and I do it to everyone so try not to feel bad."
So in an effort to regain some of my own independance and get out from under the 'whip' I thought i'd ask for some friends advice and they said to let him initiate all the texting, calling etc. And if he really wants to hear your voice he'll buy a phone card...My question is will this work?
ofcourse if he does text me i'm not rude or anything like that, i just let him carry the conversation... is this bad?
Cause BEFORE I would have NEVER allowed myself to get to this point.
1.) I always call him because my family's home phone line is fortunate enough to include free long distance to anywhere in the United States and Canada.
-So he's gotten so used to never calling me, EVER so I suggest he maybe buy a phone card or something but he always has an excuse I just let it slide.
2.)I almost always text him, initiate the text or carry the conersations he replies with one word answers most of the time.
-I have begged and begged and we have had many COUNTLESS serious talks about how it bothers me that he does that and it comes across as rude, his excuse? "I dont even answer some people and I do it to everyone so try not to feel bad."
So in an effort to regain some of my own independance and get out from under the 'whip' I thought i'd ask for some friends advice and they said to let him initiate all the texting, calling etc. And if he really wants to hear your voice he'll buy a phone card...My question is will this work?
ofcourse if he does text me i'm not rude or anything like that, i just let him carry the conversation... is this bad?
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