Alright, so I guess I need some opinions on something
In November, when I was in the States with my SO, we were laying in bed talking visa issues and our options on moving in together somewhere in the world, when he asked me what my answer would be if he asked me to marry him. I asked him if he was serious, and he said he was. And I said that my answer would be yes, but I thought that we shouldn't get married because of the distance, but for the right reasons, and that I wanted it done right. He said that it would be for the right reasons, but afterwards he apologized for being so unromantic, and he said that I was absolutely right. He was so sorry, and he said he felt like he ruined it. Anyway, we left it at that.
Since that time I've thought more and more about it, and I guess I feel that this could be a good option for us. Our relationship isn't exactly typical either. We love each other, and isn't it kind of childish of me to want a 'real' proposal and a ring? (I know he's broke, so that probably won't be for a while anyway). I've been thinking that there's actually nothing wrong with just going to the justice of the peace and get married there, and then have a real wedding later. All I want is to be with him, so maybe it isn't such a bad idea at all.
But now I don't know how to bring it up to him again? Because he hasn't said anything about it since, and I don't want to force this on him again.
What do you all think, should I wait for a 'real' proposal, or should I bring this idea up to him again?
In November, when I was in the States with my SO, we were laying in bed talking visa issues and our options on moving in together somewhere in the world, when he asked me what my answer would be if he asked me to marry him. I asked him if he was serious, and he said he was. And I said that my answer would be yes, but I thought that we shouldn't get married because of the distance, but for the right reasons, and that I wanted it done right. He said that it would be for the right reasons, but afterwards he apologized for being so unromantic, and he said that I was absolutely right. He was so sorry, and he said he felt like he ruined it. Anyway, we left it at that.
Since that time I've thought more and more about it, and I guess I feel that this could be a good option for us. Our relationship isn't exactly typical either. We love each other, and isn't it kind of childish of me to want a 'real' proposal and a ring? (I know he's broke, so that probably won't be for a while anyway). I've been thinking that there's actually nothing wrong with just going to the justice of the peace and get married there, and then have a real wedding later. All I want is to be with him, so maybe it isn't such a bad idea at all.
But now I don't know how to bring it up to him again? Because he hasn't said anything about it since, and I don't want to force this on him again.
What do you all think, should I wait for a 'real' proposal, or should I bring this idea up to him again?
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