Hi everyone.
Some of you may be familiar with my issues in the past, my plans to move in with David falling through more than once, my difficult aunt not wanting me to stay with her, that whole lot.
Basically, he figured out a different option of my move, and that would be moving in with his grandmother. Great right? Well there are some issues, and she has reservations obviously. For starters, she lives in south Washington, and he lives in northern Oregon, and while she dosnt live that far away, its still roughly 70 miles round trip, if he decides to go visit me. So I still feel like I don't live that close to him, and coming to see me will be a hassle as opposed to a convenience, and even though he's convinced that just because I'm closer to him than I am now, once the gas bill piles up, I doubt I'll even see him as much as I do now which worries me alot.
She also has her own issues, she lives alone and hasnt lived with another person for several years, so she dosnt know how well we'll get along, and she dosnt know me as well as his other family, because she dosnt live as close. She has no cable or internet and the kitchen is rarely used, the area she lives in isnt very lively, and overall the way he described everything made me feel like I was going to move somewhere I was going to eventually hate. He seemed like this was the perfect solution and seemed to have no thoughts about what I would think about it, and when I sounded like I didn't like the idea he immediately got offended and acted as tho I was being ungrateful at his attempt at finding a place for me to say, which isn't even the case in the first place.
I've really had a tug of war in my heart about this, because while I want to be closer to him and be able to see him in person, moving in with this particular relative is going to do nothing except ease his impatience as far as the move, (we still wont have a place together for at least a year), and to satisfy his own need of "having me within arms reach", with no regard to my feelings on the matter, in the sense that I don't feel he cares how happy I am where I live, that I should be grateful to be there in the first place. I was just a bit taken aback, and after describing her very low living arrangements he said "You always say you're low maintenance. Prove it."
I don't wanna be selfish and not take up an offer because its not my "ideal place to live" while I wait for us to be together, but at the same time I feel like I shouldnt lower my standards of living just to please the fact that he's to impatient to wait for us to save up and move out on our own.
Some of you may be familiar with my issues in the past, my plans to move in with David falling through more than once, my difficult aunt not wanting me to stay with her, that whole lot.
Basically, he figured out a different option of my move, and that would be moving in with his grandmother. Great right? Well there are some issues, and she has reservations obviously. For starters, she lives in south Washington, and he lives in northern Oregon, and while she dosnt live that far away, its still roughly 70 miles round trip, if he decides to go visit me. So I still feel like I don't live that close to him, and coming to see me will be a hassle as opposed to a convenience, and even though he's convinced that just because I'm closer to him than I am now, once the gas bill piles up, I doubt I'll even see him as much as I do now which worries me alot.
She also has her own issues, she lives alone and hasnt lived with another person for several years, so she dosnt know how well we'll get along, and she dosnt know me as well as his other family, because she dosnt live as close. She has no cable or internet and the kitchen is rarely used, the area she lives in isnt very lively, and overall the way he described everything made me feel like I was going to move somewhere I was going to eventually hate. He seemed like this was the perfect solution and seemed to have no thoughts about what I would think about it, and when I sounded like I didn't like the idea he immediately got offended and acted as tho I was being ungrateful at his attempt at finding a place for me to say, which isn't even the case in the first place.
I've really had a tug of war in my heart about this, because while I want to be closer to him and be able to see him in person, moving in with this particular relative is going to do nothing except ease his impatience as far as the move, (we still wont have a place together for at least a year), and to satisfy his own need of "having me within arms reach", with no regard to my feelings on the matter, in the sense that I don't feel he cares how happy I am where I live, that I should be grateful to be there in the first place. I was just a bit taken aback, and after describing her very low living arrangements he said "You always say you're low maintenance. Prove it."
I don't wanna be selfish and not take up an offer because its not my "ideal place to live" while I wait for us to be together, but at the same time I feel like I shouldnt lower my standards of living just to please the fact that he's to impatient to wait for us to save up and move out on our own.
Good luck hun!
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