perfect match VS distance

[five0grind]

case closed

[KiwiLove]

Im sorry for you that you have to go through this :-(
Distance is really not easy and isnt a help when it comes to misunderstandings and argues.
Due to the distance you cant just go and visit her to talk things out so it will be fine and that really s*cks.
I would do what you think is best and follow your heart.
Sometimes you have not the same feelings anymore due to the distance, because you havent seen the person you love for a very long time and you start to think if there still are feelings around and if they are strong enough.

I would go for the V-day surprise maybe it will open her eye and make her realise how much she actually loves you.

[KiwiLove]

Im sorry for you that you have to go through this :-(
Distance is really not easy and isnt a help when it comes to misunderstandings and argues.
Due to the distance you cant just go and visit her to talk things out so it will be fine and that really s*cks.
I would do what you think is best and follow your heart.
Sometimes you have not the same feelings anymore due to the distance, because you havent seen the person you love for a very long time and you start to think if there still are feelings around and if they are strong enough.

I would go for the V-day surprise maybe it will open her eye and make her realise how much she actually loves you.

[LadyMarchHare]

A lot of long distance relationships end up with some sort of problem due to distance and sometimes it leads to the relationship ending. Fights happen, missing each other happens. I think right now that trip may be the best thing for her as she can 'get away' and clear her head and it may end up being for the positive. Right now you're both sore, bad luck has been turned your way, so I'm not surprised she didn't promise anything when you talked. If she was hurting for you so badly I don't think she totally lost affection for you and I know you still feel for her. So let her have the trip and if she doesn't initiate contact afterward, maybe ask if you two could talk and try to resolve things and take it a day at a time to rebuild.

[LostInLove]

I agree with LMH, right now you're both hurting and her having a little bit of time to clear her head might help things. Definitely talk to her when she gets back though, and if she's open to it tell her you'll visit her for V-day. As great as surprises are, in an LDR it's much better to know when someone's coming to visit because then you have something to look forward to.

[princessmeg1328]

I agree with LMH too. I would let her go on the trip and let her have fun. Feelings do change after a certain amount of time in any relationship once you leave the honeymoon phase. Just try talking to her when she gets back from her trip and ask if it would ok for you to go visit her. I know that as much as I care about my SO, I would NOT like it if he surprised me with a visit (but I just like to know so that I can plan). Things have a funny way of working out if they're supposed to.

[Silviar]

18 days is a long time, hun. Respect is a two-way street. I would email her and ask how she is, and explain you just want to know if you're still on or if you're broken up. You do have the right to know if it's time to move on or if there's a fighting chance.

[five0grind]

18 days is a long time, hun. Respect is a two-way street. I would email her and ask how she is, and explain you just want to know if you're still on or if you're broken up. You do have the right to know if it's time to move on or if there's a fighting chance.

we had broken up in a middle of a fight, so i dont take it for granted, since distance was the problem,something that soon will be over, because i have plans to move there..

[vpavelock]

A lot of people will tell you that if a relationship can't sustain through distance than it was never really that strong. I couldn't agree with that less. Some people NEED that physical attention and comfort. Distance is harder on some people than other, especially if you're on a love high and then have to go back to having minimal interaction. If you can make the trip, and maybe make a realistic plan for closing the distance, that will be enough to give her the hope she needs to get through the distance.

[vpavelock]

Oh, I'm sorry I misunderstood. I can completely understand her side to this. In a past relationship I kept pushing my boyfriend away and really was horrible to him, when he came for a visit I wouldn't be ecstatic like he wanted me to be, because it was too hard to get all excited and then he'd be gone in a day. This could be some form or fear on her part, you know her past, perhaps this has something to do with it?

[five0grind]

case closed, thank you