some have it so good...

[ber6810]

I can only speak for me...but if you took that away from my reply, then I guess you didn't read what I wrote.

When someone posts something I will reply if it's something I can give back or something that strikes something within me.

I felt what I had to share was that I DO understand, but while I do understand...hurting and being jealous served me NO purpose and made me MORE miserable. So I have learned to focus on what I have, and really try to realize that each of us have issues and concerns...that was all I was saying.

Not at all Luceee i know what your saying. Idk why i feel the way i do its difficult and i hate it. I wish i wasn't so envious. Its life i guess
I do appreciate everyones feedback tho

[mllebamako]

Not at all Luceee i know what your saying. Idk why i feel the way i do its difficult and i hate it. I wish i wasn't so envious. Its life i guess
I do appreciate everyones feedback tho

Of course we all feel those little twinges of jealousy... I think that's natural. When I see a couple kissing, I get sad for a second thinking about the times when me and my SO were side-by-side.
If you can start reminding yourself of all the positive things in your relationship/life right when you are feeling like that than that helps. Remind yourself too of those times when a friend has been complaining about her SO and you've thought to yourself, "Man, I'm glad my SO isn't like that" or "I'm glad we don't have that problem". Maybe your relationship is "better" in some aspects and "worse" than others.

I wasn't trying to put anyone down I just know that jealousy and comparisons get me nowhere. It only ends up hurting me more.

[Karringtyn]

Not at all Luceee i know what your saying. Idk why i feel the way i do its difficult and i hate it. I wish i wasn't so envious. Its life i guess
I do appreciate everyones feedback tho

I know it's difficult...I struggled SOO bad with this for months....trust me I DO understand. I guess I have just come to the conclusion I am going to just focus on what I have and KNOW that I am blessed. All my sad emotions were a waste of my energy...

[garnet]

I'll just answer the question being asked in the OP. When I was ld, I would get annoyed with couples who saw each other once, twice a week, and called themselves ld, and went on about how rough they had it, didn't know how they would ever survive the distance. I know it isn't pc for me to say that, we are supposed to be supportive of everyone no matter how short the distance, but it bugged me, and thats the truth.

[TknandLvnIt]

I know it's difficult...I struggled SOO bad with this for months....trust me I DO understand. I guess I have just come to the conclusion I am going to just focus on what I have and KNOW that I am blessed. All my sad emotions were a waste of my energy...

I completely agree :-). I love my SO and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world...there is no point in being jealous because it only makes me upset...I get a twinge of jealousy every now and then when my SO hangs out with female friends...because I wish I could be there...but if I got upset every time I saw a couple together I'd be angry all the time...The only relationship I'm in control of is my own and I'm happy and regardless of what benefits or problems others have I'm only concerned with my own. I chose this and I'd rather call him and tell him I miss him when I see a couple together than not have him at all

[MissShortie]

thankkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk you for this.

i feel like people think i am nagging or being spitefull.. and maybe a little. but i thought this is what this was for? hmmm :/

I get what everyone is saying but I'm right there with you. I have a friend on facebook that they can be in the opposite room and be on facebook saying "I miss you" (that doesn't happen often but still) they go to the same college with each other and so when he goes home to visit or she goes home it's all on facebook "I can't wait to see you, Friday is so far away" stuff like that, and I really want to say "you don't know what's far away until you have to REALLY wait for it..." I understand they love each other but you KNOW they are putting that online for others to see, why can't a text work for them saying stuff like that? because they want everyone to see. I feel I'm rambling haha

Bottom line, I know there isn't a problem with them doing that, but it bugs me

[ber6810]

I really want to say "you don't know what's far away until you have to REALLY wait for it..."
Bottom line, I know there isn't a problem with them doing that, but it bugs me

it bugs me to alot.. i feel like hey if they can't deal with a few days.. how would they deal with months?? i am in no right to judge i understand but ehh its hard not too.. i guess tahts why LDR's are truly not for everyone.. and i KNOW this is my CHOICE. and i LOVE this rollercoaster of a LDR. because in the end it makes our story.. it makes us. it makes who and what we are and strengthens us

If you can start reminding yourself of all the positive things in your relationship/life right when you are feeling like that than that helps. Remind yourself too of those times when a friend has been complaining about her SO and you've thought to yourself, "Man, I'm glad my SO isn't like that" or "I'm glad we don't have that problem". Maybe your relationship is "better" in some aspects and "worse" than others.

i know exactly what you're saying. and i say this all the time that i am very greatful for the genuine, soft hearted, kind person i happen to be in love with, rather than some of the relationships i see where arguing, and mistreatment happens regularly.

[Silviar]

You know, I think about this often. Although it's funny, I look at all the time and whatnot my friends have with their SO's, and I think how lucky *I* am. My SO and I might only get to talk for 10 minutes on gchat a day, but he leaves me romantic emails when I wake up in the morning (we can't catch each other anymore due to time difference and his job), and I can't help but feel humbled and happy.

[Silviar]

Oh but just so we're clear - people who whine about their relationships and things like "we're too lazy to drive" should be smacked. Boo fuckity whoo.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I agree with you guys, too. I think some people really don't know how lucky they are. On Facebook all the time, one of my friends and her boyfriend are ridiculous. He'll post something along the lines of "OMG I miss her sooooo much! I haven't seen her all day! Can't wait until after school so I can see her and hold her in my arms again." I shake my head. Then, she'll IM me telling me how much she misses him, meanwhile she knows I'm in an LDR and go months at a time without seeing my boyfriend. But, I do agree that when you're in an LDR, you don't take your SO for granted! Every minute you get to spend with them is cherished and every conversation, no matter the mode of communication, is special and important.

[ber6810]

Oh but just so we're clear - people who whine about their relationships and things like "we're too lazy to drive" should be smacked. Boo fuckity whoo.

thats what got to me! not that fact that they were so close. but the fact that the ONLY reason they weren;t " cuddling and in eachothers arms " was out of pure laziness.

[Stephanieeee]

It pisses me the hell off when girls get annoyed with hanging out with their boyfriends too much. I just want to backhand them.

[lucybelle]

Funny story-- yesterday I was talking to my SO and he said he was in an LDR before. But she "lived too far, and it didn't work out." This relationship was from his province, to another province (MAYbe 50 miles!). Our LDR now is from one country to another! haha What a lazy bum!!

But I honestly try not to compare myself to others. Even though they are CD, they might have more problems then I see on the surface. Instead, I'm just happy with the times I get to spend with my SO. (Though the times when I do find myself thinking about it... *cringe*...)

[blankita719]

Oh but just so we're clear - people who whine about their relationships and things like "we're too lazy to drive" should be smacked. Boo fuckity whoo.

Exactly!

I get down on occasion when I think about all the times I am missing with my SO, but then I realize that this LDR is far more amazing and healthy and beautiful than almost 8 years with my son's father. I don't know that I feel jealous about close distance couples, more like I feel sad that I am not getting the chance to spend the amount of time with him that I'd like. However, I know that my relationship will just be stronger as a result of the level of communication and trust we have with one another and that means more to me than getting to see him every day and make kissy faces (although not that I'd mind that!).

[nicole]

what annoys me the most is when someone posts on facebook complaining that their SO is at work.... omg you are separated for a few hours?! BOO FREAKING HOO!

saying that those same people seem to have lots of arguements and have bad patches almost constantly, whilst I am quite happy with my SO, we don't argue, it's only outside things that get us stressed.... so I make myself happy in the fact I am in a calm and loving relationship that doesn't require fire and brimstone to keep it interesting. CD relationships have their own problems too, many of them haven't been through our situations, so you can't blame them for feeling that way. It's just people are used to different things.