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[allen11.11]

My SO went out Saturday with some friends to get drunk and said that she would call me when her and her friend (a girl) got back to the hotel after bar close. she texted me like 40 minutes later saying that I am safe about to fall asleep i am sorry I love u. Then I decided yo call her and her phone was off then a hour and a half later my SO called me and I hear her friend laughing and a guys voice in the back round she got mad and hang up so i try to call back her phone is off again. then at 10 am she calls me and says it was the tv and that she wouldn't do that to me but I don't know what to think.

[allen11.11]

anything will help

[Miramaid]

Why did she get mad? Did you say something mean or hurtful to her? Or did you get all suspicious like "Are you sure you are not there with some dude balh lah?"
Do not worry. If a woman loves someone, she usually gives all of herself. Me and my SO have the same problems even though I do not go out or anything, but if I call later than I told him I would or if I make any little change (like eat breakfast when I usually do not, or wake up later than I usually wake up) - he gets freaked out. What to do about it? Calm down and trust her. May be talking about some ground rules would be a good idea, but the rules should be the same for BOTH of you. Like being back home no later than 2 am for example and call when get home or something like that. I am just giving examples. And do apologize to her if you were mean.

[allen11.11]

i did apologize for that i just that it was sketchy that she texed me and said about to fall alseep but then calls me a hour and half later after the text

[Miramaid]

I would call too if I felt like you may be sad/mad/offended/SUSPICIOUS about where I was and to calm you down and to show that I CARE. I too would call back if I was still awake. I am not saying that she is an angel, but PLEASE PLEASE TRUST HER! Or else there is no relationship. Me and my SO are VERY close to breaking up over things like that, but even SMALLER since I do not even go out (partially coz I know he would freak out about it). But it wears love out you know...me and him are now on very wierd terms and I love him to death and I NEVER did anything to him, did not cheat, did not lie, tried my best to be the best and I think i was and he thinks so too, but those suspicions he has and trust issues are ruining our relationship big time. Do not ruin your relationship with her. If she is the one, you probably already know it, so just trust her and discuss how both of you can make each other feel more secure next time you or she go out.

[Rugger]

You called her first. Maybe she woke up and saw that you called, and then called you back.

[allen11.11]

no because she wouldn't have sounded awake and we have lived together for the first 2 year and i know how she sounds but i straight out asked if she cheated and she says no and sound she didnt drink much then i found something that she posted some where else saying she was so drunk and why to hung over and she didn't tell me that and know i am scared because i try so hard to be a great so for her and i dont know why she has to lie to me

[allen11.11]

I got a hotel in St. Petersburg and went out, drank way too much and feel like crap today. A HUGE burrito from my favorite restaurant made me feel worse than the hangover. I also must have drank numerous drinks last night. thats what she posted

[hillke]

I know that when I drink a lot and sort of pass out/am exhausted/fall asleep really drunk my body kicks me awake as soon as I sober up. I feel like it's my body making sure I'm still alive after blacking out. It wakes me up pretty quickly and sharply.

I think if she lied to you about how drunk she was, she only lied because she knew you were going to do this. you're freaking out over nothing. I wouldn't admit how drunk I was to you either, if I thought you were going to get really suspicious. It sounds like she told you she wasn't that drunk after you'd already accused her of cheating on you.

you need to calm down and trust your girl.

[Miramaid]

All the people when they are drunk really think that they are not. That is how all the car accidents happen: coz ppl think they are "fine" and can drive

[hillke]

All the people when they are drunk really think that they are not. That is how all the car accidents happen: coz ppl think they are "fine" and can drive

so trueeee. not that i drive drunk, ever. but i always wake up the next morning realizing that i was muuuch drunker than i thought i was.

[allen11.11]

but dont you think its sketchy at all her friend (a girl) got back to the hotel after bar close. she texted me like 40 minutes later saying that I am safe about to fall asleep i am sorry I love u. Then I decided yo call her and her phone was off then a hour and a half later my SO called me and I hear her friend laughing and a guys voice in the back round

[Miramaid]

no it is not wierd. SHe was not alone, she was with friends and they were definitely talking after they got back, getting ready to sleep, take showers etc.etc.

Let me ask you, why dont you trust her? Has she cheated on you before? Or have you cheated on her (or if not on her, in your previous relationships)

[dinorider88]

To me (without knowing much about your situation) It seems like you're looking for a problem where there may not be one

[allen11.11]

i know but we are very open with each other and i don't care if she gets drunk at all in fact i wish she would but do it safely thats all and don't see the point of her lying at all