Hello LDR forums! I have come to ask for a bit of advice.
Edit: this post was way longer than I meant, sorry! it's just background. my question is on the last line.
Our background: I have been a couple with my SO for 1 year, 2 months, 17 days, and in long distance for 2 months less. We met studying abroad, and hope to move in together by the start of next year. I work in Canada, she attends school in Spain, so I visit her once each semester, and once when she returns home (to MA) between each. Every semester apart has gotten harder, and not just a little. We love each other tons, no trust issues or anything wrong at all, it's just painful being apart and we miss each other. Simple as that.
My situation: I work full time, and I'm building a portfolio for when I graduate (my work is co-op; I have a year of school left starting in Fall). Portfolio focus is on the completion of a computer/xbox game, and I'm using an upcoming contest (Microsoft Dream Build Play) as motivation to get it done sooner than later. It's a lot of work, and needs a lot of commitment to get it done on time. I also curl 2 nights a week. This just to say that I wish days were twice as long.
My plea: I love my SO more than anything. I love her to death. She's everything I want. I love talking about our future family and all the little quirky things we plan for it, and I love knowing and having the feeling that nobody else in the world can even compare to her. I love seeing her goofy and hilarious self, I love hearing her talk about things in her life, and I love that we can share anything. I love her so immeasurably much, but I don't feel like I've been able to show her lately. I want her to know for 100% certain, but I can't skype for more than 2 or 3 hours a day because of these other commitments/responsibilities, and I feel like she feels I'm neglecting her for them (she hasn't accused me, though it seems to make her sad).
Some nights I play this silly game called League of Legends with my roommates (also my best friends), one game taking 30-50 minutes. I've more or less put this game aside, but telling her I did was a huge mistake. Made her feel guilty. She thought I was putting this game before her, and the thought of that broke my heart, and I just wanted her to know that she comes way, WAY before any game, ever. Not to mention that she comes way before my portfolio too, but I don't feel like I'm at a point where I have to drop it. But don't get me wrong, she hasn't even hinted at wanting me to do that.
All this longwinded background to ask, how can I show her how much I love her, given my schedule? I do make letters and things, just not as much as I'd like, because time spent making them can be spent on skype with her. Sidenote, I have a FANTASTIC valentine's day present, if I do say so myself: turning a white bra into a pokeball bra using fabric markers. hehehe ummm, and a handful of candies and chocolates too, of course. I wish I could do things like this every day. I recently started making a silly video before bed every night so she can wake up to it (which she has been doing for me for months; she's fantastic). Maybe I can do something similar with a letter? I could write one during lunch break every day and send it. I work right near a post office.
Ha, I think I just answered my own question. >.< But, I would still love to do more, and to hear any words of advice anyone might have.
How do I show her how incredibly much she means to me, in spite of having to cut our daily skype dates short?
Thanks so much for reading!
Edit: this post was way longer than I meant, sorry! it's just background. my question is on the last line.
Our background: I have been a couple with my SO for 1 year, 2 months, 17 days, and in long distance for 2 months less. We met studying abroad, and hope to move in together by the start of next year. I work in Canada, she attends school in Spain, so I visit her once each semester, and once when she returns home (to MA) between each. Every semester apart has gotten harder, and not just a little. We love each other tons, no trust issues or anything wrong at all, it's just painful being apart and we miss each other. Simple as that.
My situation: I work full time, and I'm building a portfolio for when I graduate (my work is co-op; I have a year of school left starting in Fall). Portfolio focus is on the completion of a computer/xbox game, and I'm using an upcoming contest (Microsoft Dream Build Play) as motivation to get it done sooner than later. It's a lot of work, and needs a lot of commitment to get it done on time. I also curl 2 nights a week. This just to say that I wish days were twice as long.
My plea: I love my SO more than anything. I love her to death. She's everything I want. I love talking about our future family and all the little quirky things we plan for it, and I love knowing and having the feeling that nobody else in the world can even compare to her. I love seeing her goofy and hilarious self, I love hearing her talk about things in her life, and I love that we can share anything. I love her so immeasurably much, but I don't feel like I've been able to show her lately. I want her to know for 100% certain, but I can't skype for more than 2 or 3 hours a day because of these other commitments/responsibilities, and I feel like she feels I'm neglecting her for them (she hasn't accused me, though it seems to make her sad).
Some nights I play this silly game called League of Legends with my roommates (also my best friends), one game taking 30-50 minutes. I've more or less put this game aside, but telling her I did was a huge mistake. Made her feel guilty. She thought I was putting this game before her, and the thought of that broke my heart, and I just wanted her to know that she comes way, WAY before any game, ever. Not to mention that she comes way before my portfolio too, but I don't feel like I'm at a point where I have to drop it. But don't get me wrong, she hasn't even hinted at wanting me to do that.
All this longwinded background to ask, how can I show her how much I love her, given my schedule? I do make letters and things, just not as much as I'd like, because time spent making them can be spent on skype with her. Sidenote, I have a FANTASTIC valentine's day present, if I do say so myself: turning a white bra into a pokeball bra using fabric markers. hehehe ummm, and a handful of candies and chocolates too, of course. I wish I could do things like this every day. I recently started making a silly video before bed every night so she can wake up to it (which she has been doing for me for months; she's fantastic). Maybe I can do something similar with a letter? I could write one during lunch break every day and send it. I work right near a post office.
Ha, I think I just answered my own question. >.< But, I would still love to do more, and to hear any words of advice anyone might have.
How do I show her how incredibly much she means to me, in spite of having to cut our daily skype dates short?
Thanks so much for reading!
Welcome to LFAD. ^^ My SO and I have completely opposite schedules thanks to work, so I feel you on the crunched time. Just remember that quality is more important than quantity. You can give her some really quality things, like flowers, or postcards, or random blog posts, and that'll keep her love tank full. 
(random thought)
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