I don't know what else to do.

[Marikusa]

My boyfriend and i have been dating for 6 months. He has always been really sweet, romantic, and attentive. We used to talk all the time over skype, and even sleep with skype on. He is now on school vacation which had started in December. During that time we had started arguing quite alot. Most of it was problems because of facebook, and other reasons. So, i thought that a break from eachother would help us get back to the way we were. I even cancelled my facebook account. He had made me get it in the first place after i told him it would just bring us problems.

He went to his parent's house where he had no internet. He was going to stay there for about a month. I texted him daily during the time that he was gone to let him know i was thinking about him, but i know he wouldn't really reply as much because it costs him alot more than it costs me to send text messages internationally. I bought a skype subscription so that i could call him to his parent's house, but then i started noticing that it was different. He was alot more cold. He said he couldn't really talk much because his parents were around. He hadn't told his parents about us because he's afraid they wont understand. He has also never introduced a girl to his parents. It's kind of a big deal for him and i respect that. So i thought ok. I'll just wait until he gets back and everything will be fine..

Only, now hes back and we have absolutely nothing to talk about. I feel its not the same. He's not as romantic as he was before, and hes not sweet anymore. I tried to tell him about it, but he says that he doesn't think that things have changed and that he still loves me, but i just don't feel it anymore. I feel that he ignores me. He used to call me and talk to me all the time, but now when we talk its like hes distracted and not really paying attention to me. I'm getting tired of bringing this up because i don't want to keep nagging him. We used to do questions from a that e-book, "1000 questions for couples", but now hes hooked on some facebook game and he cant even pay attention with that. I feel like im still trying to be the same as we were before, but its not helping at all. Its really tearing me up, and i just don't know what else to do.

[Marina]

That's sad... .... I think that the best you can do is to open with him, talk about what you feel, and ask him what he want.... Sometimes, the answer that we get is not what we expected (a baby i love you, forgive me for being like that, i didn't noticed...) but it is better to stop suffering... i hope he's just distracted or something easy to solve... but if not, remember that not all the relationships works out, even more if they are LDR.... but be happy, after all, he is not the last one, and it was sweet while it lasted..... learn of this experience and let go the bad feelings.... good luck hope everything will be ok...

[Marikusa]

I have talked to him about it a lot of times, and told him how i felt. He just keeps saying that he doesn't think that things have changed. He also says that he has alot of things on his mind because his vacation wasn't all that great. He failed some classes and his parents were on his case alot about that... Maybe its me?

[Kika]

I suggest giving him some space, try not to contact him first, but don't pretend to be busy - be busy! Maybe he feels that you are smothering him. He might not contact you the first day, but don't panic

When you run out of topics, go out and have fun and then share these stories with your boyfriend.

I sometimes feel with my boyfriend that we send each other too many romantic text messages, so I send him a picture of myself instead - just to have the balance between romantic life and 'sex' life. If you are not into taking sexy pictures of you, then simply dress up to remind him what he's missing

Hope this helps

[bliss]

it happened to me that at one point, he just needed space, stop bringing this up to him, he'll get really uncomfortable with it.
men are like rubber band, u'll need to stretch it a lil bit before it goes back to it's original position/shape. give him space, when he feels he's strayed far enough, he'll come around soon. it's important not to worsen the situation by trying to fix this with telling him that u're feeling neglected cuz in defensive position he'll have this idea that he's done his best. be patient. let him go into his "cave". he'll come out when it's time.

[Marikusa]

Well ive been trying to give him his space and not talk to him unless he talks to me, but even then he takes hours to respond. I hope he does go back to how he used to be because how its going right now really sucks.