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    List The GOOD things about an LDR vs. a "conventional relationship"

    In my effort to remain positive I'm just wondering what everyone thinks are the positives. For me they are as follows:

    1. ALWAYS excited to see each other! I was married for 8 years and I know what its like to be bored and not even really like the person sitting next to you. So that is an awesome thing!

    2. When we are together we don't take each other for granted.

    3. We have to have 100% openness about what we are doing and how we are feeling. Many relationships just don't have that...at least in my past.

    4. We are forced to understand each other and have patience. Not so sure I always like that but at the end of the day it probably does make me a better person.

    5. Not to be TMI but the sex has always been and still is A-MAZING! Not sure if thats just us or the distance but I'll throw it in as a positive!

    What are your thoughts?
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    You learn that alot of trust, communication, and love go a long way. With a LDR your more likely to find your soulmate because your soulmate is not always in the same town or even country as you! You learn how to be independant and not be so Co-dependant if your in a LDR i think that helps when you finally close the distance

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      #3
      Wow...thats very true! (About the independent/co-dependent thing)

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        #4
        Well, in a conventional relationship, it's more about the physical things. People don't really take the time to get to know each other on the inside. But with an LDR, you have nothing but words. You can get to know each other's personalities, emotions, things they like/dislike, things like that!

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          #5
          Originally posted by BernzLaDy4Life View Post
          Well, in a conventional relationship, it's more about the physical things. People don't really take the time to get to know each other on the inside. But with an LDR, you have nothing but words. You can get to know each other's personalities, emotions, things they like/dislike, things like that!
          Couldn't have said it better myself. One of the things my SO and I have always cherished, is that we got to know each other's personalities and characteristics without any of the physical things getting in the way I got to know him and vice versa before we ever exchanged pics

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            #6
            1. The trust that is formed is incredibly strong.
            2. Communication is the only connection to your SO, so you make every effort to talk to them.
            3. I don't have to worry about what I look like/shave my legs!
            4. You don't take your SO for granted.
            5. The time spent together is so special, and you always find yourself missing them when you're apart.
            6. The little things become very special.
            7. You learn to be patient and understanding.
            8. You learn to balance time with your SO and still have your own life as well.

            "Do I love you? My God, if your love were a grain of sand, mine would be a universe of beaches."

            Like a drum, my heart never stops beating for you.

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              #7
              1. Communication. We get to find out all the quirky little things about each other and it brings us closer.

              2. Having our own lives. Sure, I miss not being physically (not necessarily sexually) with him. But I feel we are both able to pursue our goals without being distracted or worried about the other person feeling slighted. We are able to encourage each other in our pursuits.


              When we love, it isn't because the person's perfect, it's because we learn to see an imperfect person perfectly.

              True love does not worry about the distance between, for the heart and soul travels through one's words

              When two people are meant for each other, no time is too long, no distance is too far, and no one can ever tear them apart.

              1 universe, 9 planets, 7 continents, 194 countries, 50 states and 10 provinces...and I had the privilege to meet you.

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                #8
                I see that some of these were said before me, but here are a few that I would include on my list, though there are definitely others!

                1. Teaches you patience
                2. You learn good communication skills and the quality of communication in general seems more often to be better
                3. Learn to appreciate each other when you are in person
                4. Teaches you that "good things come to those who wait" (related to the point about patience!)
                5. Having separate, independent lives--allows you to spend time with friends, doing hobbies, or just doing your own thing in general
                6. Building trust
                7. I also believe that the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is very true!

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                  #9
                  1. Everything everybody else said - Trust, communication, independence, patience, etc.
                  2. I retain control of the remote :P
                  3. There's no confusion between lust and love, in CD you can ignore your incompatibilities with sex, and mistake it for love very easily. In LD you have to be more honest with yourself.
                  Our separation of each other is an optical illusion of consciousness. ~Albert Einstein

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                    #10
                    1) It gave us more time to think if we really wanted to be with each other. At least that was a problem for him :P. He spend almost 2 1/2 years with his ex. After he finally broke up with her the last time (and ended up with me XP) he had plenty of time to think his last relationship through, and he realized that he was in a relationship with someone who wasn't even close to being his type, and almost ended up fucking up a friendship because he was horny. Then again when you're 16 it's hard to not think with those organs :P. Still, sometimes you gotta second guess those decisions.

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                      #11
                      I agree with what everyone else said. T and I have gotten to know each other better and have become more open with each other because of our LDR

                      Another thing I wanted to add:

                      You don't get tired of spending time together. In a DR, sometimes the person is with you SOO much, you get tired of seeing them. Not with an LDR!
                      "We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love " ~ Theodore Seuss Geisel.

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                        #12
                        Not having to shave your legs. That will always be at the top of the list for me. lol
                        Happily married to the little Canadian boy I never thought I'd meet in person

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                          #13
                          - you don't have to hang out everyday and don't neglect your friends
                          - your relationship won't ever be boring
                          - you get to travel a lot
                          - it will make you stronger

                          some of my ideas why a LDR is great

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                            #14
                            Originally posted by Zephii View Post
                            Not having to shave your legs. That will always be at the top of the list for me. lol
                            ^I couldn't have said it better myself.

                            I agree with what everyone else posted. Definitely the main thing for me is the deep, emotional connection we have formed. I always tell my SO it is a blessing in disguise that we are LD. When we finally are CD I believe we will appreciate that time we spent apart. To be able to last this long without the physical contact that so many in "normal" relationships rely on, is so telling of the strength of our relationship.

                            Just wait til we close the distance. Watch out!
                            Live.Laugh.Love.ALWAYS.

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                              #15
                              -Not having to shave every day! Wooo
                              -It teaches you how to be patient and teaches you trust

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