Not sure what to do.

[BoogleBee]

Is there a way you could make a compromise? For example, meeting up with your friends a bit later for the breakfast, or leaving a bit early so you could do both?

I did actually mention that I could get up extra early so we could have a few hours together and then I would go to the breakfast but she didn't like that idea.
Either way I am not going now anyway.

[Caitlin2009]

Well I'm not going to the races pancake breakfast now (it was a special breakfast only on this day as it is the day of the horse races) as I am not in the mood. I just told my friend I wasn't in the mood to be around people.
Nani however has already gone to bed.
Also just to clarify I didn't leave Germany earlier than inteneded, I actually stayed longer than I was originally meant to.
I don't think she will forgive me though Zephii. She will always remember it.

Thank you everyone for your opinions.

i know you did hell i commented on that before because i knew you guys were only meant for a 3 and half week visit and it went on longer, i think all this is the pre visit blues you guys are upset so your taking it out on the person closest it to you which sadly is each other, hope you can find a balance, you guys will work it out no worries! *huggles*

[Heather]

Hugs Nat and Rebecca!

[BoogleBee]

Thank you for all the luck and support to everyone who commented on this thread. I did not go to the breakfast as I mentioned a little earlier, but it was too late to fix anything to do with our webcam date as we were both too upset.

I managed to catch Nani before she went to bed, and we typed for a while, and then talked on skype. I realised that the breakfast was not actually very important. There were going to be a fair lot of people there and it wouldn't really make a difference if I was there or not. And when I told my friends I wouldn't come it was actually fine. I reacted defensively and like Zephii said I was worried about being a person who neglects their friends when in a relationship, and I am always scared of doing that, but also need to make sure not to neglect my relationship for my friends. Like Silviar said..I think..we need to work out a balance of some sort.

So we talked, and we are okay now. I don't know if she has forgiven me as such but we are moving past this incident. Only now she is incredibly upset, not over this but over the distance. We live over 11,500 miles away from each other, and with limited broadband and everything else it is just really hard (as everyone here will no doubt obviously know and experience). Even skype talking and the idea of another webcam date doesn't seem to lift her spirits, so when she did go to bed I told her I am here for her when she needs me, and when she does feel up to talking to let me know. I love her so much, and hate to hear her so upset, especially when what she needs and wants are just my hugs and kisses.

Hopefully it will get better with a bit of time..

Thanks again all!

[Caitlin2009]

Thank you for all the luck and support to everyone who commented on this thread. I did not go to the breakfast as I mentioned a little earlier, but it was too late to fix anything to do with our webcam date as we were both too upset.

I managed to catch Nani before she went to bed, and we typed for a while, and then talked on skype. I realised that the breakfast was not actually very important. There were going to be a fair lot of people there and it wouldn't really make a difference if I was there or not. And when I told my friends I wouldn't come it was actually fine. I reacted defensively and like Zephii said I was worried about being a person who neglects their friends when in a relationship, and I am always scared of doing that, but also need to make sure not to neglect my relationship for my friends. Like Silviar said..I think..we need to work out a balance of some sort.

So we talked, and we are okay now. I don't know if she has forgiven me as such but we are moving past this incident. Only now she is incredibly upset, not over this but over the distance. We live over 11,500 miles away from each other, and with limited broadband and everything else it is just really hard (as everyone here will no doubt obviously know and experience). Even skype talking and the idea of another webcam date doesn't seem to lift her spirits, so when she did go to bed I told her I am here for her when she needs me, and when she does feel up to talking to let me know. I love her so much, and hate to hear her so upset, especially when what she needs and wants are just my hugs and kisses.

Hopefully it will get better with a bit of time..

Thanks again all!

awwww *big hugs to you both* if im not mistakin she left last week right? if thats the case and considering how long the visit was the pre visit depression is gonna last a little bit longer this time

[BoogleBee]

awwww *big hugs to you both* if im not mistakin she left last week right? if thats the case and considering how long the visit was the pre visit depression is gonna last a little bit longer this time

Yeah I left last week on the 19th. It will take a fair bit of time for us to get back to a happy spot I think.

[Caitlin2009]

Yeah I left last week on the 19th. It will take a fair bit of time for us to get back to a happy spot I think.

yeaah but you'll get there i know all last week was the first week everything went back to normal and we didnt burst out crying, i mean i still feel empty and i wont feel complete until i see her again but its the first week non of us have been depressed.

[TknandLvnIt]

Mmmm i know the situation has been resolved and it sucks that you didn't go to your breakfast...Everyone is saying put your SO first and I agree but in some situations I honestly feel as though there has to be compromise...Meet half way not completely giving on either end...because then that leads to someone feeling resentment or the I always have to give up things and u don't...Maybe both canceling plans would help and then rescheduling...I also think google calendars are great!!! You can share your schedules and plans and it will adjust to both of your time zones and that way its easier to plan and know that nothing else is planned for that day. Even if there were a lot of people and you felt bad about wanting to go because it upset your SO it was important to YOU and there is nothing wrong with that.