Job and School vs. Closing the Distance...

[Dziubka]

OliveOyl, I know. And with this professor almost begging me to stay ("You'll never have to do literature studies again, it'll be strictly linguistics. You can spend the 3rd semester in xxx, with an added scholarship and then you could go to abc, if nothing else then with Erasmus. I'm hoping to start another project in 2013, you could have a job in it then. etc etc") it really is a damn hard decision to make.

I reckon career wise, staying would be smarter. But I know that I'll have a hard time finding a job anyway, so I don't know if it's worth being LDR with my boyfriend for so much longer. If he moved, it'd be only ~500km (as opposed to the 1000km now) and not international anymore, so the travelling would be cheaper and we could see each other at least every other weekend. But I love him and even seeing him every weekend would be too little for me

[Zephii]

I think it's about priorities. Are you at the stage in your relationship where your SO is your biggest priority and you his? Or is your carrer a bigger priority to you? Think... Imagine different senerios, pay attention to how each one makes you feel. And write the Pros and Cons list. That's a very good idea (Silviar is full of good ideas) and isn't so hard to do. Just think up all the things that are good and bad about both options.

Know that if you sacrifice carrer for SO (like I did) that can lead to a lot of resentment, but if you don't it can lead to a lot of hurt feelings.

oh, and research. Research til you're blue in the face!

[Kevz]

I may have to face a similar situation down the road when I finish getting my bachelor's. I could either delay starting my career for a year after graduation in order to wait for my gf to finish her program and move near her while I wait for her to finish or jump into my career and push back closing the distance another year. I try not to think too far down the road, but if I had to make the decision it would easy be the first. It has only been two months since I have been separated by my SO and if things are still good when I graduate I couldn't bare adding on another year. I'd rather temporarily be poor but happy than rich and miserable but that's just me.

[Dziubka]

Just to keep you updated (and to order my thoughts):
I haven't decided on anything so far and I probably won't for another half year. I need more time to think all this through,

I've asked my boyfriend whether he'd come to Germany anyway, even if we wouldn't live in the same city and he said that he'd come to my city <3
Since that's a realistic option: Yes, he'd study in the city we wanted to move to together.
It'd be nearer and we could possibly see each other every to every 2nd weekend, so that's a bit better than now.

@Zephi
If it were my career or him, it would be an easy decision. But I'm not giving him up, if I stay here. I'd just put off closing the distance for a 2yrs longer than we had planned. I'm totally sure we won't break up over this. So it's not like I'd be losing him, we'd simply be LDR longer. And I don't know if I want that...
I'd definitely pass on on a career opportunity, if I didn't stay here.