Family Affairs
Thanks so much for all the advice given to me on my last post. My SO is very kind and family oriented. So much to the point of supporting three of his family members. In my opinion he is being taken advantage of by these people. It is another reason added to the situation of me moving back to my state. It is interferring with our moving in with each other. I have asked him what he intends to do about the situation and he says he doesn't know yet he needs more time to work it out. He says they need him, because he is their only family here in this country, and they are not doing good. They have been rude to me when I call. They hang up and don't let me speak to him. This past week two of his cousins broke into his computer while he was at work out of town and changed his settings on the dating site we met on and blocked me from communication with him. I wanted to know if anyone has dealt with these kinds of problems from their SO's family? If so how did you handle it? All advice welcomed. Thanks.
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My SO is similar in the fact that he is family-oriented and sacrifices a lot for them. I see this as a good quality, although it's annoyed me a few times (mostly due to selfish reasons). It is important to take care of family but if you don't care for yourself first then it isn't helpful.
The part that bothers me most about your post is the fact that these family members are so rude to you and broke into his computer. Does he know that they've been so rude to you? I believe in helping family out but if someone is acting like that, they don't deserve the help and I don't see why he would continue supporting them financially if they can't support his personal life.
Sorry..I guess that's not really advice. You just need to decide what is acceptable for you and what you can deal with and then talk to your SO.
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