Does he Love me?

[bluefinch604]

I know this may sound like a silly question, but I always wonder how quickly men fall in love... We met on his holiday and spent 5 weeks together, hanging out almost every day. We took two weekend trips together and had a blast. We had a small snafu and he cried because he thought I was breaking up with him. He's told me that he likes me a lot and always calls me gorgeous and beautiful... He's gone to Egypt now and texts me a few times a day and we talk on the phone every other day or so. When we said goodbye at the airport, we both cried. I know men aren't always the best at communicating their feelings... When it comes to "negatives" he seems to be a bit scared of commitment. He's mentioned that he wants to "take things slow" and "see how it goes." When we're together I catch him looking at me. He calls me beautiful a lot. He mentioned that he was sad about "what he was leaving behind" a few weeks before he left. Do you think that love can develop so quickly? I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance. I think I'm in love with him, but I'm scared of expressing my feelings so early. I haven't "been in love" for a really long time. I guess I'm out of practice. What do you guys think?

[bluefinch604]

Oh, and before he left, he said that he wants to move to where I am (Vancouver) in November when his travels are over. I know this isn't set in stone, but at least it's a sign that he sees me in his future....

[woop woop]

I don't know if he loves you, but I do know that to commit to being in a long distance relationship you need to have strong feelings for that person. I would go so far as to say that the fact that you guys have made that commitment to try despite the distance shows how he feels about you. I think sometimes that being in a LDR means that we need more verbal affirmation of love, because that's all we can get. And I think love takes the amount of time it takes to develop - sometimes that's days, sometimes it's years. I can understand why you are going over your time together and looking for reassurance, it's totally normal to think about the person you're falling for and wonder about their feelings, even if you live in the same town. I can imagine that he wants to "take it slow and see how things go", because you're from different countries. Maybe he's worried about all the changes a big serious relationship could herald...or maybe he just wants to take it slow and see how things go, because why rush a good thing?

EDIT Oh, you posted the above before I finished typing! Well, you're right, he definately thinking about your future together. Lucky you!

[dynomitegurl]

It could be love!

Hi blue, I can't say whether its love or not but I know for me it didn't take long for me to know I was in love with my boyfriend. It can be scary to tell someone that your in love them especially if it is in a short time...I did. But when I did tell him, I made sure to say that this is just how I feel and by me telling you this, it isn't in any way saying that you have to say it too just because I do because when he said it I wanted it to be because that is how he felt not because he felt he should when I said it. Being in love is a very difficult thing to explain, but the best I can put it is the way I felt. I couldn't stop thinking about him, I loved spending every moment with him, I couldn't see being with anyone else....re-reading this, it is probably what every person in a relationship thinks but like I said it is such a hard emotion to put into words. I think when you feel it, you will know. And by the way, it is really good that he isn't afraid to show you how much he hurts to leave you and show you that instead of holding it back. It sounds like he cares, and just remember...if things are truly meant to be with you and him, they will.Overall, I guess what I'm trying to say is that it's not crazy or unlikely to think you could be in love in a short time. Falling in love doesn't follow a time line of when it *should* happen...it just happens. Good luck to you both!

[Zephii]

Yay for Vancouver!
No one can really say if he is in love except him, but it deffinantly seems like there's something special there... why not enjoy it for a while before putting a lable on it? ^^

[Mio]

Yeah, love is something that he would let you know when he feels it!