so this is it? its all over?

[theitchinc]

so if you have read my previous threads or blog post you would more or less understand what i've been going through since i started through this LDR.
This didn't go well and as we're on a break or on hiatus kinda thing and he's back at his hometown to celebrate chinese new year. And as for me I've been extremely busy with school, projects and exams. I haven't called him for a month already and its killing me!
I've dropped him a few IMs and long distance sms like once a week but i'm not sure if he received it since i totally didn't hear from him at all. except for one update on this social site he's using saying he lost his phone, so keep in touch with yada yada number.

The last time we talked i said as long as we're on hiatus i need to know when i can ever talk to you again, and he gave me the dumbest answer ever! "call me when i'm successful!"
Like comon' how would i ever know when?!!!

So as much as i want to call him i have so much fear in me that he would get pissed or anything and wanna break up with me if i would to talk to him anything about this relationship as i think this is a great pressure to him due to so many problems he's facing now.

you know what? i would rather we not be on a hiatus cause it makes me scared! maybe the clean break up would be a better idea so we would at least still be in touch as friends right?

I dont know what do you think? I still think of flying to see him or smth in a month later time though? but i'm not sureeeee cause its gonna cost so much and what if i can't find him! he doesnt have a fixed place where he stays at beijing cause he's just working there.

[lucybelle]

I think he's been pulling you along for too long. You need a clean break up. See other people. This situation you're in with him is stressing you out way too much. You're worried about him, but he obviously does not feel the same way. Don't waste your time with someone who doesn't care about you!

[Luisina]

I think he's been pulling you along for too long. You need a clean break up. See other people. This situation you're in with him is stressing you out way too much. You're worried about him, but he obviously does not feel the same way. Don't waste your time with someone who doesn't care about you!

Couldn't agree more.
And honestly, from this and previous threads, he sounds quite selfish thinking that he can keep you along for a ride where you have to do the worrying, the steering, the navigating AND provide the travel entertainment - at the same time..
And seriously? who asks to get contacted when they're "successful"? if he's not in it for the long haul, he's not in it at all.. he may be busy, but you deserve much better than this guy. His pride is too much. Honestly.
I'm really sorry but a clean break would probably be best to put your mind at ease... and for once, maybe stir him up a little!
Find someone that appreciates you, hon.... just my 5 cents

[theitchinc]

so a clean break and do you think if we can still be friends or just disappear from each other's life totally?

[FadedSunrise]

Well it depends on what he thinks of the situation. There's a lot that is missing about his POV. =/ I know personally the SO and I promised to if not together, stay good friends. When we were "not together" we still talked nearly as much, just without any romantic inclinations. It really depends on how well you all can accept the idea. Who knows, maybe it will help the friendship to be broken up, maybe it won't.

[Karringtyn]

"call me when I am successful??" wow.

I agree clean break. A hiatus is one thing..but saying something like that...it's not a break in the relationship..it sounds like he is going off on his own.

Hon you sound like such a sweet person...I really wish the best for you!!!!!!

[Silviar]

If you break up (and I think you should, this is why I don't think breaks are good, they usually used to string one person along), I would move on already - don't be friends, just make it a clean break, for your own sake.

I'm concerned because he sounds like he's being very selfish about it - and you have to be flexible in an LDR. I just don't see it coming from him in your posts hun.