She has the moral down : Stress & health issues... need some tips

[Cucaratcha]

Hi there !

My girlfriend is feeling sad and stressed those days for some reasons.
First university. She has really a lot to study and it's hard. She goes there early in the morning and come back home late at the end of the afternoon as she spends about 2h in the trafic as it's rush hour... Some days she leaves home at 5.30am and get back at around 7pm, all together... so you can just imagine...

To not help that, she has some health problem. She has anemia and the colon irritated. So she has to manage what she eats for a moment... The thing is, if she eats what she needs to stop the anemia, then she'll feel bad from the colon. You suffer from anemia when you have a dicrease in number of red blood cells, and in her case it's just a lack of some vitamins... But what's annoying the most is that she feels really tired, and with her infernal schedule it's not really helping.

I've just called her and felt so bad. She was really suffering and I didn't really know what could I do, probably not much. I just spoke quietly, trying to give her support and showing her that although I couldnt understand how bad she could feel as I'm not in her situation, it's obviously awful what she's leaving.

Have you guys been in a similar situation ? Have you been yourself in the situation of my SO ? How did you behave in order to make your SO feeling a little bit better ?
I need all your tips, I don't like to see her like that, I love her so much

[KiwiLove]

I can understand you want to do as much as you can for her in this hard time shes going through.
And it hurts you to see her suffer so much. I would just make sure you send her cute and supporting messages let her know you are here for her and that she can call you whenever she wants and needs to talk to you.
Maybe you could make her a craft gift? Something like a journey of you where you could take pictures wherever you go to. TO school, to work, when you get home etc...like a little booklet with silly and cute comments next to the pictures.

Hope you know what I mean..just to make her feel special and loved.

I wish you good luck and hope you to stay strong!

[KiwiLove]

I can understand you want to do as much as you can for her in this hard time shes going through.
And it hurts you to see her suffer so much. I would just make sure you send her cute and supporting messages let her know you are here for her and that she can call you whenever she wants and needs to talk to you.
Maybe you could make her a craft gift? Something like a journey of you where you could take pictures wherever you go to. TO school, to work, when you get home etc...like a little booklet with silly and cute comments next to the pictures.

Hope you know what I mean..just to make her feel special and loved.

I wish you good luck and hope you two stay strong!

[nicole]

eurgh Actually, I've been in your SO's situation. After my SO left after christmas, I had several breakdowns because of exams, and spending all my extra free tim in the lab- it's exhausting being in university. I'm also anemic, and if I forget to take my Iron tablets, or even just skip breakfast, I faint, and it takes days to recover from my fainting episodes. My SO was worried sick through all of this you can imagine. He just sat with me and talked quietly until I went to sleep. And made sure I stayed in bed to get my strength up.

If it's anemia, how about suggesting a diet challenge? Like you could say, I'm not going to eat *this* unhealthy thing anymore, and you can eat more of *this* to get your Iron intake up. Honestly, if she's working so hard, the anemia is only making her more tired- it feels like you're working with a weight on your back all the time. When I take my tablets regularly, I have more energy. But otherwise, what you are doing is great, letting her know you are there, and are supporting her, that really helps a lot