So, as you may have already read, I'm not having an easy time my LDR. It's just started and I feel plagued with doubts and uncertainties. I sent my partners a few sweet messages, and no response... He responded later when I asked if he got my messages saying "I got them babe, just been a busy morning. How are you?" The next day, I attempted to send a follow up text and again, no response! At this point, I started reacting. You know when you feel like you just HAVE to talk to that person because something is bothering you? Anyways, long story short, I sent a bunch of reactive texts and called him too many times. Now I feel like a fool. Like all my power has been taken away and I'm open for humiliation. It's an awful feeling.... I will have a talk with him about what I expect, etc. We've only been together for 2 months and there are lots of unanswered questions. Are we exclusive? How much communication is enough and what method? I feel apprehensive to demand too much at this stage because it's quite early, but I feel like the distance adds a whole new dimension of seriousness to our relationship. I feel like I've acted like a "single white female" and I just hope I haven't scared him off... I hate this feeling... When something is bothering me, I like to just deal with it right away. There's a good chance that he didn't have any credit left on his phone and he still doesn't have Internet set up. Either way, it's not a good feeling wondering if he's gotten my texts or not and wondering what he's thinking. He's in bed now (Egypt is 10 hours ahead) and now I'm left to suffer until I hear from him - God knows when! I am almost thinking of just telling him that we should call it off. I know that long distances relationships are hard, but this feels impossible right now. I know I'm probably over reacting, but I feel like the past 2 weeks have been an emotional roller coaster. Maybe I need to take a step back and rethink this. Right now I'm feeling like I'm putting in more effort than he is, and he's not taking this relationship as seriously as I am. I am at a loss for words...
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Right now I think you just need to find a way to calm down. For yourself and so you don't scare him off.
LDR's are not easy and they are fairly serious, but I strongly believe they are no where near as hard as some people make them out to be. Obi and I were always long distance, so I can't really relate to that just started feeling but I'm sure that once he gets settled in and you have a chance to get used to it, it wont seem so bad.
You have to realise that sometimes he will be busy and unable to respond and that sometimes in a relationship it is necessary for one person to put more in than the other for a little while, but generally it balances out in the long run. Give it a little time before you panic.
I wish you all the best, and carrots!Happily married to the little Canadian boy I never thought I'd meet in person
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I hope you can sort your issues out!Comment
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