Should i pay for his flight?

[Marikusa]

I recently graduated and found a great job. Now i have enough money to travel when i have some vacation time. The only problem is that my visits have to coincide with his time off from school. We were planning that we'd see each other in July. I was supposed to go there, but my vacation time doesn't kick in till August! I wont be able to go to Argentina to see him in August because he'll be preparing for his exams.

I was thinking that maybe i should just pay for his flight so that he could come see me in July instead. He is a full-time student, and doesn't work. So he wouldn't be able to afford a flight. I mentioned it to my cousin, and she told me that it was a stupid idea, and that he should pay for the flight himself. She says i shouldn't be buying any guy a flight... but the way i see it.. It's the same money i would've spent to go see him.. soo.. I also don't feel like waiting another 10 months to see him. If i see him in July, i can see him again in December.. when i used my vacation time.

[Micah]

I would pay for the flight if I could afford to do so. I wouldn't worry about what others say. Do what you would like to do.

[Mara]

I guess it depends on how long the two of you have been together and what you feel comfortable with. Personally, I wouldn't spend a good bit of money on anyone who I haven't been dating for a long period of time, but I know people who even though they have been with their partner a long time still wouldn't put out a substantial amount of money on them.

Overall, just do what you feel comfortable doing, don't worry about everyone else.

[snow_girl]

As long as he knows you aren't going to pay for him all the time I think it would be okay.

[Marikusa]

We've only been dating 8 months.
I'm kind of iffy about it because.. If stuff doesnt work out... I'll be like DAMN I WASTED SO MUCH MONEY, but if i don't i wont be able to see him until December. Not sure if i can do that.

[Zephii]

If you can't wait til December is the relationship really worth the time stress or money?
But with that said, it's just money. You can make more of it, and you can't take it with you when you die. If you're both comfortable with you paying for the flight that's what matters.

[LadyMarchHare]

Money you can make back. If he's alright with you paying for something like that and you're alright with it, then I say go ahead. I know I spent several hundred dollars on a Christmas gift for a friend I later broke away from and I don't regret spending that money on her because, again, it's just money. You have a way to earn it back over time and so long as a good time is had it's not a waste.

[Jrapp]

I agree with the statements that money is money. I've been dating Brianna for nearly 6 months and I've already spent hundreds of dollars on gifts/my ticket to go visit. Money is money, but she brings me happiness. So I'd do it for sure(:

[garnet]

I'm with the others! If you have the means and want to do it, then don't let what anyone says get in your way. Amazing time with your SO > knowing you didn't spend that money. Imo.

[paulawriteslove]

If you feel comfortable enough to pay for his way and he's okay with it, then why not?

[London-FortCollins]

As long as your both comfortable with it - why not? Especially because as you say you would have spent it anyway going to see him.

I've spent goodness knows how much flying to see my SO and staying out here. He's due to come to me in June, hes been saving as hard as he can but he only earns slightly more than he needs to break even each month.

So I would happily pay for his flight in June too. I totally stand by the statement of "its only money. You cant take it with you, and its better spent making memories than sitting in your bank account!"

[adielovesshelbs]

money is money. i wouldnt do it all the time though. would you reget it if you didnt see him?

[BabyGund]

As long as you are not ALWAYS paying for his ticket...why not?

[Brandie]

I would totally pay for his flight. That's just me.

[milaya]

As long as you're okay with paying it, I don't see a problem. You yourself decide.
And yes, money are just money. Also if you two get to have a great time together and make lot of nice memories, then I think it's money well spent.

My SO and I are a bit in the same situation, just genders are opposite. I'm a student and he has a full time job. So he is the one paying for visits. Either if he comes to Denmark or I go to Japan. (and our tickets costs between 1000 - 1800 USD).
I even asked him if he wouldn't feel like those money were wasted if we stopped dating and he said: no, since I spent the money on something that made me happy and it's just money.