is it normal to still feel the pain of when your significant other lefT?

[Nessa]

is is normal??
to feel the pain i felt when my bf left but 10x worse.....
tuesday marks the day he left 2 years ago
and it hurts 10x worse now....i feel the pain as if it jus happened....and idk what to do..
im losing all faith and i wish i didnt feel this way...i havent seen him in so long its finally creepin up on me....im 19 n i hate when ppl say its jus young love..well ya im young..im 19...n i wouldnt wish this pain on anybody....but i love this boy..more then life itself....but whi is it so hard?!?!? :"(

[Brandie]

well you obviously really loved this guy, and not being with someone you love is going to create a lot of pain and sadness. I'm sorry you're feeling this way I'm 19 too, so I totally understand where you're coming from with knowing what love is, you are never too young to know what love is, it just depends on the maturity level. But I hope over time you will see there is more for you out there, and that you will move on to a brighter future! Message me if you want to talk more!

[LadyEcstsasy]

It's not strange at all. I still completely shut down and start crying over my ex from last year. He dumped me four days after my birthday and it's coming up on the one year anniversary since he left in a few months, in just a few weeks it'll be the anniv of the first time he dumped me. I'd say it hurts so much more now because I know I have someone who finally treats me right, who actually loves me back, and I know it hurts him to see me tear myself up over a jackass (pardon my french) who abused me. But for whatever reason, it's still hard to let go. Whenever the people around me say his name or mention last year, there's still a big part of me that just sort of...dies a little. And I know that though I hate his guts and wish he'd get hit by a train, I still love him and if I had the chance to be with him, it'd be very hard to say no (for any reason other than spite of course). I've been trying to cope and I've made some progress but it takes time. And every person needs a different amount of time to cope with these things. Sometimes I think if I could just talk to him or hear his voice, just see him, just understand why, maybe I wouldn't get so torn up when I think about him, but I know it'll never happen. I'm dead to him, like I never existed, just a bad nightmare

Obviously you really loved this guy and maybe part of why it hurts you is that you don't understand why it happened. A big part of learning to move on, is also learning to let go, to accept that you are a wonderful person and there wasn't a darn thing you could do. I don't know what your coping methods are, some people opt to hate the person, others pretend it never happened. Sorry I rambled on so long =/ I hope that you find some way of dealing with this pain, of lessening it. I'm happy to offer a sympathetic ear if you think it'll help your road to recovery.

[Jrapp]

I've known pain similar to this before. It can be rough, but like LadyEcstsasy you've got to learn to let go. It took me quite a while indeed. If you ever need someone feel free to message me or anyone else on here, I'm sure they'd be glad to help

[Rugger]

It took me a year and a hlaf to get over my ex. It's hard but you need to learn to let go. Occupy yourself with other things. Pick up a hobby. I poured all my energy into rugby and it really helped me get over his stupid ass. And now I'm in love and couldn't be happier

[DutchLove]

I just wanted to say that I am sorry for your pain...I know it hurts . I was with an abusive man for a lot of years...broke free a few years ago and never planned on finding love again .It happened though and with a man in Holland but we found our soul mate in one another . Keep your mind and heart open and love will find its way in again .You will heal...give yourself time to grieve what was in the past and move forward .Do something good for yourself every day.((gentle hugs))

[nic&matt]

Someone who is such a big part of your life will make you hurt. Their leave always takes a toll and I think it's a good reminder that they do matter in your life. In some moments of doubt or wondering, you know you would never feel pain if you didn't truly love them. It hurts every single time, especially when I get used to the idea that he's in town, with me, even for 2 days.
No one is to young for love but it's all on maturity. If you're aching inside but put on a brave face and keep moving, you're more mature than half of the adults out there. Never give up and you'll soon get back into the groove. Stay strong!