Learning to appreciate that you miss your SO

[Alexandria Lora]

Flow with the stream and not against it...

So how does one do this when missing your SO is some times so hard? From all the crying, to the fighting, eating a dozen donuts.. or wanting it all to end. How does one "flow with the stream and not against it" when missing your SO?

I wanted to talk about being able to embrace that one does miss their SO. I found myself staring at our pictures from my last visit and then suddenly they began, the tears. I thought, "oh , no..not another day of woe. Why can't I just miss him and it be alright?" Eureka! There's an idea! What a feeling to be able to say its "ALRIGHT" to miss him. I am so glad I am able to miss him, because soon I will talk to him again, or read an email from him...or even better, see him again. For me, when i am missing my SO the most, when it is emotionally rough and seems unbearable; when i make it through to the other side...I realize that I am more in love. That these moments of missing can allow for more love and strengthening of bonds between you both. Every passing moment brings you closer in so many ways, not just to the next contact, but to each other. This is what I will hold strong to.. learning to appreciate and embrace missing my SO. Being in an LDR is making me a stronger person!!

What about you? Please share and thank you!

Alexandria

[princessmia]

Your post made me smile
You are so right, in so many ways. There should be more positivity!
And it is completely ALL RIGHT to miss your SO..you love them, you want to be with them! The mind naturally misses things we want around us
It's just like that quote on the main website... 'The thought of being with you tomorrow gives me the strength to go on today.'
Just like you, I am a stronger person because I am in an LDR. Not everyone knows it, and not everyone can do what we do every day. I am proud of myself, and everyone else should be proud of themselves too!

[Brandie]

Of course I always miss my SO, but I look through past texts he sent me, sweet messages on facebook, pictures we took, and I just smile and know that this guy really loves me. It doesn't bring tears just happiness knowing that I'll be back in my SO's arms before I know it! Some days of course are harder than others if he is really busy and we can't talk much that day, but I just pick myself up and say this guy loves you, I know that! And bottom line I can't be sad all the time knowing that I have the best bf who loves me and who would do anything for me! So I like to stick with happiness and know the time in between seeing him will be up before I know it

[Caitlin2009]

i always miss her no matter what, as Brandie said some days are harder then others and those days you just wanna bawl constantly, when you have days like that then just do it, your gonna miss them, its gonna hurt alot some days but on those days they can talk you through it and then things are fine. You just gotta remember the distance is only temporary and it wont last long before your in each others arms and under one roof at some point

[Brandie]

i always miss her no matter what, as Brandie said some days are harder then others and those days you just wanna bawl constantly, when you have days like that then just do it, your gonna miss them, its gonna hurt alot some days but on those days they can talk you through it and then things are fine. You just gotta remember the distance is only temporary and it wont last long before your in each others arms and under one roof at some point

I love how you ended that last sentence, totally right on!!

[Miramaid]

I wish I felt that way. Because it is not definite what the future will bring and when if ever we will close the distance, to me it is a pure torture and I can not seem to appreciate the fact that I have to miss him every single day. And often times I do not feel like missing him is bringing us closer together.

[prinzeza87]

yup, some days are extremely harder, but once again, being in distance makes us stronger in so many ways, we do learn to appreciate even the smallest things.
only the ones that we are in a LDR knows the beauty, pain n sacrifices we go through in the name of love.
some times i cry myself till i get tired for missing him, but then next day i would be smiling n remembering each moment i spent w him.
i love to read quotes, specially the long distance ones, brings me lil more of proud, strength n happiness to know that me n my SO are another couple like thousands in the world going through the distance knowing the soon or later we will end living finally together while we look back n said we made it!
PS i love him!!! =D

[amandamayaaa]

this is a great post, and i've actually been thinking this exact thing lately myself.

my SO was just here for valentines day which was amazing, but now i won't see him again until may.. which will be the longest we've gone without seeing each other, and it was really getting me down.

but then i started thinking about advice i've given to one of my friends a while back

he was in a long distance relationship and he was saying how hard it was, and since i was single at the time i told him "you should really appreciate that you have someone to miss, i would love to atleast have someone to miss right now, and someone to miss me as well" and it really made him realize how lucky he was, even though he didn't see it at the time

so now that i'm in a long distance relationship myself, it's made me really stop and take the advice i have once given. i'm so lucky i actually have someone that cares, and loves me, and someone that i care and love. many people are single and wish they could just have someone, i do, and i wouldn't give him up for anything. so it's made me smile a lot just by thinking, man am i lucky.. i may not get to see him as much as i want, but i'm so lucky i actually have someone

[vpavelock]

Honestly I feel like most of the people on here have accepted the distance, but I on the other hand seriously can't seem to. Both of us really, are obsessed with ending the distance a.s.a.p. instead of dealing with this. Idk what that says. Most people would say we're not strong enough for distance, but I really just think we are both greater people when we're together.

[amandamayaaa]

Honestly I feel like most of the people on here have accepted the distance, but I on the other hand seriously can't seem to. Both of us really, are obsessed with ending the distance a.s.a.p. instead of dealing with this. Idk what that says. Most people would say we're not strong enough for distance, but I really just think we are both greater people when we're together.

i agree with you as well
i just posted saying i accept the distance, which i've been learning to to do
but that doesn't meant that everyday i don't miss him with every bone in my body, wishing i could just touch him, and be with him

we also have a MUCH better relationship when we're together, we really don't fight, or anything.. we're just so happy to be together

and we're ending the distance towards the end of this summer, and thats all we talk about

buuut unfortunately right now.. we're still stuck with the distance, so we have to learn how to deal with it while we have it, and know that there is a huuuge light at the end of this long tunnel!

[Alexandria Lora]

i agree with you as well
i just posted saying i accept the distance, which i've been learning to to do
but that doesn't meant that everyday i don't miss him with every bone in my body, wishing i could just touch him, and be with him

we also have a MUCH better relationship when we're together, we really don't fight, or anything.. we're just so happy to be together

and we're ending the distance towards the end of this summer, and thats all we talk about

buuut unfortunately right now.. we're still stuck with the distance, so we have to learn how to deal with it while we have it, and know that there is a huuuge light at the end of this long tunnel!

I so agree with amanda..... we are all on this website (thank goodness for it and the support) because we are all dealing with a relationship that deals with distance. The distance can't be ignored or you will go insane. So, it is about accepting it in our own ways, each of us, to deal with it... My SO is in Scotland and we are closing the distance... that in itself is another long story, but the waiting, the time between that.. I miss him terribly, but I must cope and so must he..

Reading all of these post I have learned that in each one, I have felt the same once or twice... the roller coaster of emotions. Just so glad to meet everyone here and here from so many... this is a wonderful website..

[NaNi]

I always allowed myself to be sad when I'm missing my SO. Also because crying makes me feel much better afterwards. I might have a huge headache from it, but it does help to calm me down. To clear my thoughts.

[LadyEcstsasy]

Reading this definitely brightened my day and gave me a lot of food for thought. I was telling my SO the other day that I was glad we got the lfad bracelets. I told him that even though it's hard sometimes, we hit rough spots and argue, I get too emotional and take things too seriously, that when I look down and see my bracelet, it makes me think that I'm proud to be his girlfriend, that I'm proud to be in a relationship with him, even a long distance one. I'm proud that we've made it work so far and that we continue to do so. It feels like a real accomplishment, like we are making it somewhere. And I know that missing him just means that I love him with all my heart so things will be that much better when we see each other again.

[Alexandria Lora]

And I know that missing him just means that I love him with all my heart so things will be that much better when we see each other again.

Yes, and today is one of those days I REALLY have to remind myself...I will be much better in time when we see each other again...

[loveknowsnodistance27]

The way I accept the distance is by allowing myself to cry when I need to and by telling myself it's only temporary...one day we'll finally be close distance again and we'll be happy for life. We can still be apart and still be happy, which I've learned over time, but it's obviously the best when we're together. I know that I love him so much and that he loves me just as much. Missing him just makes us even closer and makes me feel lucky that I have someone so special I can miss. =]