I love my bf but sometimes I just feel like "grrrr"

[Naori]

I mean my bf can be the most carrying guy but he gets upset at very small things... ie. not pressing the close door buttons on lifts.... or closing and opening the door slightly loud... using the blow dryer at night ....or me being slightly clumsy..

tell me clumsy is incurable? cause I dunno how to fix it....

i can do the door thing and the blow dryer..

but common.. ive never pressed the close door button back home.. its just not in my habit.. you think he's over reacting or is this an actual ticker for others?

And okay maybe there are other like ticks... but is there ticks that drive you guys nuts that your partner says or does?

[LadyMarchHare]

Just how upset is 'upset' in this case? Does he make a big deal out of it such as yelling and bringing up the subject at a later time, or does he just whine and huff? If it's the former I'd say he needs either anger management or just a way to get over those little pet peeves if he doesn't want you feeling like you have to walk on eggshells 24/7 around him. If it's the latter, try talking to him about how his reactions and what he says makes you feel and if he can let you know what bothers him you guys could work on it together whether it's him getting over it or you making adjustments here and there such as pushing the close door button. Things that aren't a huge deal. I'm not saying change who you are for the guy, but a relationship does require some degree of compromise so that we're not shredding each other's throats at every little thing.

[Miramaid]

there would be many to mention for me but I know what you mean.
I do not know if ur man like LMH said brings it up later and gets mad, but mine does. Not sure what to do about it. I am getting used to it.

[13000km]

Yeah I have one: when he says "i don't care". This for some reason drives me crazy. /: He used to say it all the time but didn't always mean he didn't care about whatever we were talking about, but that he doesn't have an opinion on it. I had difficulty telling the difference between the two and have started little fights with him because of it. He uses other words now to try and get around this now. And I...I try to reason with myself what he meant/ask him before getting illogically mad at him.

[Sloppy Joe]

Hmmm.... Sounds just like he's kind of a control freak. I don't know what to tell you. I never really hit the "close door" buttons either unless I'm in a hurry. However, I do get on my lady about certain things. But mostly it's just about keeping me informed and remembering certain things for me. I'm not perfect, so I need her as backup a lot. So if she forgets something that I asked her to remember for me, sometimes I overreact or freak out like a douche bag. But I'm usually good about apologizing when I know I overreacted. I try not to let my pride get in the way in situations like that.

Anyway, every guy is different. If you really love him, then maybe you'll need to find a halfway point to meet him on. Sometimes though you'll need to give in, but he's also got to realize at some point that he's also got to give in on occasion. It's unfair to be one way and not another. At least in my opinion.

[LostInLove]

Nobody is perfect. In EVERY relationship there are things about each person that annoy the other person. It's just whether you can live with them or not. If your boyfriend is getting seriously upset over these things, you need to have a talk with him and tell him to cool it. These things shouldn't be a big deal.

My SO is perpetually late, and also will tell me he'll call in "a few minutes" and then I won't hear from him for an hour and a half. I'm sure there's more that I just can't think of right now, but they're things I've learned to deal with because most of them are things that would be incredibly hard for him to change. I'm sure there's lots of things I do that annoy him as well.