How long does it take to get use to being in a LDR??

[Rugger]

I've accepted it really. It took a couples months to come to the realization that we weren't going back to school, that we weren't going to be able to see each other like we had before. It's still hard

[DarkSolitary]

It took me about.... 6 months to get kinda in the swing of things. Almost two years later, and I'm still not really used to it. I think you just learn to tolerate and accept that this is how things are gonna be until you can close the distance.

[Karringtyn]

I am use to it. I have accepted that this is how it is...and for now it has to be. It took me a couple of months....

[blueeyes79]

Does anyone have rough days/nights?? I was fine yesterday, until last night.. I had a rough night, I guess you can say I fell apart and I was crying half the night... I couldnt also sleep..

[leaveluck2heaven]

Does anyone have rough days/nights?? I was fine yesterday, until last night.. I had a rough night, I guess you can say I fell apart and I was crying half the night... I couldnt also sleep..

You're definitely not alone. The reason we're long distance is that I moved away, so I'm not just missing him, I'm missing ALL my friends and family. The feeling comes and goes, some nights are definitely just harder. But hang in there and remember that your SO loves you all the same, no matter where you are.

[mllebamako]

I accepted the distance pretty easily. We were living together for several months when we found out that I had gotten an opportunity that would take me away from him for 9 months. So we had quite some time to emotionally prepare for the distance.

[steph_bballgirl]

Aww I've never thought of doing that<3
that would be really cute (:
and of course nothing can replace being held by the one you love.
but sometimes we have to find things that will work just for the moment, knowing someday you wont have to deal with the distance<3

[heatherotic]

I'm pretty used to it. We were together for four months before we met, so it was kind of normal to be away from him. But leaving still hurts like hell and I'm always a wreck. For me, that's the worst part.

I'm pretty sure I can safely say that everyone here has good days and bad days, but you just have to find something that pulls you out of that hole. Mine's chocolate. I like having something unrelated to him that makes me feel better because if I'm already missing him pretty badly, anything that reminds me of him typically makes it worse.

[Caitlin2009]

Does anyone have rough days/nights?? I was fine yesterday, until last night.. I had a rough night, I guess you can say I fell apart and I was crying half the night... I couldnt also sleep..

yeaaah ive had those days doesnt help when your PMSing, i mean i miss her all the time but some days more so and i just up bawling alot

[Far_Away_So_Close]

I don't think you can really get used to it. There were times when I felt like I might be used to it, but it was always a very concious thought, which basically just emphasises how much I've missed him (does this sentence makes sense to you?).

[LadyEcstsasy]

I don't think I'll ever get used to being away from my SO. We've been ld since we started dating. I never miss him less when we have to part ways, and I still have some really bad low days. I think more than 'getting used to it', I've tried to work harder on just dealing with it, accepting that things are the way they are right now but won't always be this way, rising to the challenges and struggles of being long distance. It can be done

[loveknowsnodistance27]

You never really get used to it, you just learn to deal with it. It just becomes a way of life and you end up accepting this is how it is if you're going to be with that person you love so much. (And by you, I mean anyone lol)

[princessmeg1328]

There's not really a set amount of time to finally accept being in a LDR. Some people get used to it quicker than others. You just take the good days with the bad. You cry when you need to, and you just let your SO know that you love them and can't wait to be with them. It always helps to have a routine to fall back on, especially during the hard days.

[BabyGund]

I agree that you never really get used to it, as much as you accept it. And sometimes your mind even rebels against accepting it.

I mean after 3 nights snuggled with The Boy, it's hard to come home and sleep alone. But I accept it.

My mind usually rebels when it comes to social events, ones where a date is usually expected. Like I have an event to attend tomorrow night and I have to go alone. And an 80s band The Boy and I were just talking about this past weekend is going to be playing where he lives and of course, I encouraged him to go, but so sad I won't be there.

[blankita719]

We have a long and complicated story but when I first met him and we were first together, I don't think I ever really accepted being long distance. Now, I understand it is what it is, but that doesn't make it any easier. I knew what I was getting into since we'd been down this road before, and I did meet him while I was on vacation in his home state...

And yes, I have nights that I cry. But mostly I have mornings where I wake up sad that he isn't there with me....Nights I have a hard time sleeping so I run myself down until I just fall alseep and don't have time to think about it.