As you know, I was feeling frustrated that he had been pressuring to schedule a visit and get the tickets and once I told him, he seemed to have forgotten about doing anything about it. Well, last night, he purchased a ticket for me! Yay!
The night before, I had sent him an email with a better price I had found on another website and that seemed to have kick-started him again. Last night, we spent hours searching through prices online and also customer reviews on some of these websites. It turned out that the site I had found with such a good price had some bad rep. for adding astronomical service charges at the last minute and having some weird policies about ticket pick-up and such. That forced us to book through another site that we trusted more, but the prices were more and when we went to a certain screen to start processing things, the prices jumped even more (but this seemed to be common to most of the big sites).
For those of you who pay for really expensive flights to Europe and Asia and such, I guess it doesn't seem like a big jump...but we're really feeling the price jump this time. The first time I saw him was in the summer (which would seem like a popular time for vacations) and the Canadian dollar was low (and we booked it through a Canadian site), so the ticket was something like $460 including taxes--it seems like such a good deal now! This time, the Canadian dollar is high (which would maybe make for a little bit of an increase), I'm going in April (which, is after the usual spring break time and really...who would go to Kansas for spring break, later or not?) and the ticket is close to $700 including taxes (this is economy class, no extra travel protection included, separate baggage fees).
I had to say to him that it was a lot more and was he sure that it was a good idea right now/ maybe we should wait longer for a visit or at least look for tickets when he had had a chance to sleep on the information (and...I think...he already knows that I couldn't afford anything like that right now). He put it on his credit card and just wanted to make a decision and have something to look forward to! I'm excited, but I feel worried that this is something he can't actually afford (he did seem more indecisive than usual at first and I sensed some strain in his voice as he was searching around, pre-decision).
Since my parents and I weren't getting along yesterday, I wanted to wait until a better time to tell them I was going. However, my Mom chose to pick a fight with me again and one of the sets of topics was that I am "never happy, don't put myself out there, and don't dream to do things that make me happy." Of course, I then bring up that seeing him makes me happy and is putting myself out there/ being bold, and that I am taking steps for a dream of seeing him with this visit. She looks dumb-struck and goes on about how I don't have enough money for food and dates, what if I have a terrible travel experience like last time, etc., etc. I try and counter some of those things and then she says "I don't want to hear about any of your boyfriend stuff." Is she insane? Seriously.
She did bring to mind, though, that I really don't have much of a cushion for dates or even travel emergencies, etc. I have to figure out how much money, total, I used last time and get some Canadian (the little bit I can afford) converted while it is still high to make up for the gap (I did stash some of the American that I didn't spend from last time). Ahhh, but now that the ticket cost so much more, I wonder if he will be expecting more contribution to dates--we certainly need to have a talk about planning maybe some less expensive things to do and places to eat. Not now, though...I think we should bask in our glow of the ticket for awhile.
...and last, but not least...still worrying about the weight/ fitness issue. I'm doing a lot of dance classes and such, but I just don't see any weight coming off. I really want to lose weight the healthy way and that's also the slow way...so I don't know if the 20 lbs I want to lose will come off, let alone even like 5lbs...:S Is it possible to lose 20lbs in 43 days in a healthy way?
The night before, I had sent him an email with a better price I had found on another website and that seemed to have kick-started him again. Last night, we spent hours searching through prices online and also customer reviews on some of these websites. It turned out that the site I had found with such a good price had some bad rep. for adding astronomical service charges at the last minute and having some weird policies about ticket pick-up and such. That forced us to book through another site that we trusted more, but the prices were more and when we went to a certain screen to start processing things, the prices jumped even more (but this seemed to be common to most of the big sites).
For those of you who pay for really expensive flights to Europe and Asia and such, I guess it doesn't seem like a big jump...but we're really feeling the price jump this time. The first time I saw him was in the summer (which would seem like a popular time for vacations) and the Canadian dollar was low (and we booked it through a Canadian site), so the ticket was something like $460 including taxes--it seems like such a good deal now! This time, the Canadian dollar is high (which would maybe make for a little bit of an increase), I'm going in April (which, is after the usual spring break time and really...who would go to Kansas for spring break, later or not?) and the ticket is close to $700 including taxes (this is economy class, no extra travel protection included, separate baggage fees).
I had to say to him that it was a lot more and was he sure that it was a good idea right now/ maybe we should wait longer for a visit or at least look for tickets when he had had a chance to sleep on the information (and...I think...he already knows that I couldn't afford anything like that right now). He put it on his credit card and just wanted to make a decision and have something to look forward to! I'm excited, but I feel worried that this is something he can't actually afford (he did seem more indecisive than usual at first and I sensed some strain in his voice as he was searching around, pre-decision).
Since my parents and I weren't getting along yesterday, I wanted to wait until a better time to tell them I was going. However, my Mom chose to pick a fight with me again and one of the sets of topics was that I am "never happy, don't put myself out there, and don't dream to do things that make me happy." Of course, I then bring up that seeing him makes me happy and is putting myself out there/ being bold, and that I am taking steps for a dream of seeing him with this visit. She looks dumb-struck and goes on about how I don't have enough money for food and dates, what if I have a terrible travel experience like last time, etc., etc. I try and counter some of those things and then she says "I don't want to hear about any of your boyfriend stuff." Is she insane? Seriously.
She did bring to mind, though, that I really don't have much of a cushion for dates or even travel emergencies, etc. I have to figure out how much money, total, I used last time and get some Canadian (the little bit I can afford) converted while it is still high to make up for the gap (I did stash some of the American that I didn't spend from last time). Ahhh, but now that the ticket cost so much more, I wonder if he will be expecting more contribution to dates--we certainly need to have a talk about planning maybe some less expensive things to do and places to eat. Not now, though...I think we should bask in our glow of the ticket for awhile.
...and last, but not least...still worrying about the weight/ fitness issue. I'm doing a lot of dance classes and such, but I just don't see any weight coming off. I really want to lose weight the healthy way and that's also the slow way...so I don't know if the 20 lbs I want to lose will come off, let alone even like 5lbs...:S Is it possible to lose 20lbs in 43 days in a healthy way?
My SO and I went through a period last year where we didn't have much money so we did a lot of inexpensive or free activities like going to the park or renting movies instead of going to the theater and we went to any events that were going on downtown for very little money or sometimes even free. We also opted to cook for each other instead of going out to dinner because it's much cheaper than going to a restaurant.
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