The 'I need you now' moments

[princessmia]

I'm actually surprised that there isn't a thread on this.

Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?

Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?

What do you do when it happens to you?

How do you console your partner?

Whether it be sadness or happiness...loneliness. If you just want them there to kiss them, hug them, just have some support, etc.

The moment just seems to overtake you...you're weakened by it..you just want them beside you, and you're powerless because at that moment you can't make that happen. What you need most in the world.

I've gone through this a lot, it just randomly hits me..it's happened to both my SO and I. I'm sure it happens to almost everyone here too. I thought I'd post this and have a discussion on it =P



Comments?

[leaveluck2heaven]

Yes... I left all my friends and family behind so sometimes I get moments of real deep homesickness... A crushing feeling of "the closest person who really cares about me is over 3000 miles away"... It's hard. We video chat and he lets me cry about it, and then when I'm done crying he tells me funny stories to cheer me up. It's not as good as if he could really be with me but it at least reminds me that I do still have people who care, even if they're far away.

[Brandie]

Yea well I'm going through this feeling right now, my bf is sick, and I know he needs me now, and I need to be there for him, and it sucks, tears are rolling down hoping he will get better, but it sucks when you can't physically be there for your SO when they really do need you there

[Leigh]

I have those feelings also. There are times when I need him the most. It hurts because we are not physically able to be together. I think about it often just before I go to sleep. Just thinking about how much I needed him that day.

[sabby64]

Well, if I ever got to the point where I NEEDED my SO, I would go home. I have the money, I know the times and schedules of how to get home, and to be honest school is not my first priority so if it got that bad I would just go home and see him. He can't come down on short notice because of his job, but that's okay. I want him to keep the job.

I also have my counselors emergency number if I need help, and hey, I can always call my mom.

He on the other hand doesn't get moments like that XD He loves being alone, every once in awhile I'll get an 'I miss you' but he's fine on his own.

[lovemnmz]

yea all the time i get the i need you now feeling, especially when im stressing out with family problems and college, i just get all sad and depressed. But when i tell him he tells me that he feels the same way and that i should cheer up because soon we will see each other, and so he tells me something funny that happened to him, or he asks me if i've done something fun lately. Sometimes a simple I love you, and I miss you with a I wish you were here with me so we could party! it will make me smile and will cheer me up. Yet sometimes i'll just summon up the courage and try to call him...but then i think that maybe his mom will pick up and i get nervous and dont call him lol

[Insanity]

I'm definitely feeling that way at the moment, I'm really struggling with my emotions and my mind. I got back home yesterday from my month with him and it's so hard not getting to talk to him much. I'm used to getting to talk to him when I want to, to get to cuddle with him and just be around him. Now I'm on my own and it's so hard, I don't know when we'll get to talk next, his internet is playing up yet it was fine all month. I battle with paranoia too which is tough, when I get to talk to him the paranoid thoughts go away but when I'm not they take over and cause me so much distress.

[paulawriteslove]

I get these moments sometimes, but I try my best not to let it bring me down. Whenever I feel down, I always try to call him because just hearing his voice makes everything better

[leonsfangirl]

YUP!!
Had a HUGE one of those last month when my SO got so sick he had to go into the hospital and have IV treatment 3 times a day for nearly a week, hit us both hard. I desperately wanted to be there and take care of him and he wanted me there to take care of him.
There wasn't really much i could do for him being so far away, i just tried to keep his spirits up and made sure i was around as much as humanly possible.
I also sent a few little things to cheer him up... but the post was slow and he didnt get it for nearly 2 weeks... but i DID arrive on valentines day so not all bad.

[rivi87]

I'm just gonna answer the questions


Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?
By all appearances I am a strong, self confident and independent female but having him honestly helps makes me that way. I know that whatever anyone else thinks of me, he unconditionally loves me . That being said on the said where I feel like I've failed or havent reached expectations I just imagine how great it would be to come home and him be there to hold me and tell me its ok....but sadly dont have that luxury .


Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?
We both do. Theres days where he'll tell me how bad he wants me there right now and I the same.

What do you do when it happens to you?
I will text, call or Skype with him. Skype works best because I can see his handsome face

How do you console eachother?
I console him by just talking to him and reassuring im in it for the long haul. For Valentine's Day this year, he gave me a Claddagh ring to remind me tha even when we can't talk he is thinking of me and loves me completely.

[nic&matt]

It's always a load on shoulders for both of us. I don't own up to it as much as I should of, I never want him to feel guilty or think I'm super needy. And skype can only do so much when all you need is a hug. It's one of the thing that peeves me the most is when I tell my friends with CD relationships who just say "call him, it's the same thing"....it's very aggrevating.
To cope we just keep counting down. We'll say 11 days...11 days...11 days over and over and over! Haha! It's always just getting through the long night. The sun always comes up on cue....you just have to wait

[jamimimach]

Aha! So this is called "i need you now moments". Now I have a name for what I feel once in a month.
Usually, when this happens I CRY the whole time. I just feel terribly sad without a specific reason at all. All I know is I want him. I want him close, hugging me, kissing me, or even just feeling him near. But he can't. I feel bad for him cause all he can say is "Sorry baby, I'm not there." And he thinks it's his fault and he cries too. After whining and wetting my pillow, I just tell him I love him and it's neither of our fault. We just think of the things we'll do if he is here, and planning out when we'll meet, then it's gonna be allright.

[princessmia]

Aha! So this is called "i need you now moments".

That's what I call it, lol.

[LostInLove]

Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?
Absolutely. Especially when life isn't going well because a hug is what I really need but I can't ask him for one.

Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?
I go through them on a semi-regular basis. I'm sure my SO goes through them as well, but I don't know to what extent.

What do you do when it happens to you?
I cry it out usually. Just let it build up a bit and then get it out of my system. I'll usually tell my SO too, and then he'll say something sweet to cheer me up.

How do you console your partner?
I give him a verbal hug. I describe to him exactly how I would hug him. How tight I would hold him, how long it would last, stuff like that. And then say it's only x days until we see each other again. It seems to work.

[KimmyFay]

Yep I get them. I recently had that feeling after going through a lot of things here, and losing my grandpa, then having my cousin in an accident, and only 1 of the 3 times did I acutly have him here with me. When I start to feel like this I send him a text and depending on what is going on he usually tells me to take a deep breath, and will tell me everything will be ok, and he knows that I hate being so close yet so far away, and tells me he loves me. I will look at things that make me think of him, the first card he sent me, the angel wing pen he sent me, the ring or neckalce I wear that has his birthstone in it, and I will start to feel better and smile again.