The 'I need you now' moments

[NaNi]

I definitely get those moments. A lot. Especially when I'm going to bed. I feel so lonely in my big bed.

I miss holding her from behind, feeling her kiss my neck and back or just talking to her before falling asleep.

I usually just get sad, cry and let it all out.

[alx5150]

Yes, and as you know I tend to drown it all out with music or let it build up and cry it all out. I have the moments, especially lately <3

[lovemyboobug]

Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?

Big time. When other things in the world get to me, all I can think is that there's only one person who can make me feel better, and he's across an ocean. Its so hard to communicate that "I need you" too, because, the truth is you don't physically need them to survive, per se, but emotionally it feels like it's impossible to go on without them. It sometimes feels like I'm two people crammed into one-- my brain is logical and rational, telling me to stay calm and 'get on with things' and my heart is hurting and weepy, needing constant reminders of our love when I feel down.

Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?

I'm definitely the more emotionally expressive of the two. At times, we both admit that I'm overemotional but that only makes it harder when I get in a 'needy' mood. My SO doesn't really tell me if he's going through a 'needy' bit, but he also does a good job at masking his unhappy emotions, so I'm not sure if he goes through the same processes as me. He's a cancer zodiac sign, so I know those emotions are in that shell somewhere... lol

What do you do when it happens to you?

I make everything generally unpleasant for both of us, unfortunately. I think that sometimes its very hard to deal with me, when I call him up out of the blue crying and moping about things. My SO is very down-to-earth with the situation and often says "There's nothing we can do about it right now". I know this sort of makes him sound a little mean, but he doesn't allow himself to be swept into an emotional storm the way I too often do. Although he is very loving when I'm upset and tries to calm and soothe me, sometimes he gets frustrated in the fact that I'm reacting to a situation that is for the most part (and time being) permanent.

How do you console your partner?

There have only been a small number of times when I've had to console him, and what I like to do is play a game or something together while we skype. While he's a little distracted, I reminisce about our many times together and all the happy memories we've shared.

<3

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?
Yes, I do have these moments. They hurt a lot and I really just feel like I NEED to hug him or kiss him. I'm pretty independent, too.

Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?
We both have gone through them, but I think I generally go through them more than he does. Or, he just doesn't tell me about them that often lol.

What do you do when it happens to you?
I will usually text him, or try and see if he's around to talk on the phone. I will also take the stick of deodorant I have that smells like him, rub it on a pillow and just hug the pillow tightly, listening to songs that remind me of him/us and looking at/kissing his picture.

How do you console your partner?
He'll usually text me and I'll try to reassure we'll see each other soon and send him *hugs*. I really do try to make it better for him by telling him how much I miss him, too and that I love him.

[steph_bballgirl]

the times i go through these moments is when i have a bad day or just really need to be held. when it happens i always just want to lay in bed and talk to him. we both have these days, and we both support eachother through them. im just greatful and happy to have someone as amazing as him<3

[Bølle]

My SO is really stressed out at the moment. Not only does she work, but she also has to get ready for her trip down to Australia, so we can travel together. She's even arranging for us to go to a medieval festival once we get back home, and all the planning is taking its toll. On top of that we have house chores, siblings, nights out.. and as if that wasn't enough, she's is very much in doubt about what and WHERE she should study when we get back home.

She is managing really well, but it goes without saying that I hate... HATE the fact that I can't be there to comfort and help her, if she needs it.

I blame Skype for not having invented teleportation yet! >:l

[angel85]

Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?

I have lots of those moments and try so hard to keep a smile on my face . But when I know that i need his hug and words of support . I end up closing myself in my own space far from family .



Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?

I do go through them and try to handle those moments the best i can . I know that he goes through them as well .

What do you do when it happens to you?

I turn to letters i recieve from my soulmate . I start to remember all those good times together we had . To cheer me up in away .

How do you console your partner?

Telling him jokes and remember together all the great moments . Being always there for him no matter where iam . I think thats the best part . Its great feeling to know that he can talk to me about anything . We have a great communication .

[Pisces]

I have more 'I need you now moments' than I've ever told to my SO. I've long been the kind of girl who doesn't look for help with her problems, even when she needs it. But, even if I'm trying to be strong, and fight off the moments of weakness, he can always tell. There's no way I could, or would, lie to him, so even if I feel like an idiot for letting my head get to me, he's always there to help out when I need it. He'll just talk to me, or sometimes he'll call me up on Skype and turn on his video so he can be an utter and complete dork in order to get me smiling again. I've had these days more often than not since getting into my LDR, and 9 out of 10 he's been able to turn around for me.

My SO doesn't get them that often, if really at all. We're a lot alike in most ways, but this is one of those that we differ. He's very good with taking things in stride, and just accepting them as they are. Sure, he would rather be in the same room with me than talking through Skype, but he also knows that one day we will be in the same room, so he doesn't dwell on it. When he is in a down mood, I usually just try to be me, and get him laughing again. It doesn't always work out, but I always manage to at least cheer him up a bit. I'm stubborn, and don't easily give up, so eventually I get a smile and a laugh out of him

[sheraccoon]

Most of the time I'm by myself when in college, and to be honest due to the strange nature of my weird family I was brought up to be pretty independent. At the same time, I'm the only person from my country in my college, so I had to find ways to fit in really fast. I'm also the kind of person who hardly takes about herself to other people, so I have this really really crappy habit of bottling up problems and keeping them to myself. :/ But I've been cracking under the pressure and stress of certain expectations that I can't possibly live up to, and crap's been going on etc all over the place and everything's just building up. Never wished to be back in the USA as much I do right now. And I really miss the support that my SO offers me... He never seems to think I'm overreacting, and he understands the way my family works (really glad for that), and him learning to live 2 completely contrasting cultures really makes me happy. And all he has to do is just sit there and listen, because I can't keep things bottled in forever.

I don't exactly recall my SO showing that he's stressed out as often as I break down (which is not often at all) in front of him, but he did have some problems with work last month. It wasn't anything I could do since well, office politics are out of my league, but I tried my best to offer him a nice warm welcome back to open arms and an open heart at the end of the day, and to be as understanding with his work schedule and the fact that a lot of our initial plans for that month we wanted to spend together got completely thrown off course.

Now that we're apart it's basically been a lot of calling each other. Text messages and the such but I don't like using text messaging for situations in which I need to hear his voice telling me to calm down. Our relationship was formed through talking to each other, and that's how I like it to be. Talking to him really calms me down. Plus, he doesn't judge, which is seriously what I need most of the time because I'm put through a lot of judgmental comments everyday. So basically, it comes back to me being able to talk to him, and him talking to me.

[LeilaniJoi]

Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?
oh gods yes.. almost daily

Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?
yes we both do. We went through a phase where each of us thought the other needed space and rather than ask, was each trying to give space when we both just wanted to be closer. Now we can laugh about it, but it was rough and so much nicer to be back where we want to be.

What do you do when it happens to you?
Get depressed lol then i just text or message each other and and say quite simply "i need you" and we connect. It's easier to ward off when we have alot of communication and talk. If I go a day or two without really talking or talking in depth then i definitely have those moments and they suck.

How do you console your partner?
by letting him know how much I love and need him, want to be there and just talk for a time. We talk probably more than most due to being in the same time zone and same kind of schedules but this is one thing we are still learning to deal with. After that first meeting it just gets worse because then you -know- what you are missing and just long to be back there with them.

[Beeks3]

Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?
Definitely..

Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?
A lot of changes have been happening lately and I miss him being around to talk to. And yeah, he texted me the other day saying something along the lines of, "I think the reason I can't sleep is because you're not next to me. So I have to hold my pillow instead." Aw. He got my grinchy heart.
What do you do when it happens to you?
I usually text him to let him know I'm thinking of him. Or leave him a message or something on his Facebook. Sometimes I write letters to him, but it snows there CONSTANTLY, so letters get lost in the mail an are often delayed.
How do you console your partner?
We talk about what's going on and usually can make each other feel less mopey. It helps to change the subject and talk about ridiculous things, or on Skype, to make faces or do something insanely amusing.

[beaton]

I've been super stressed lately and he hasn't had time to talk much, so, I've definitely had a few nights of weakness where he hasn't texted me back and I cried myself to sleep because I just want to hear him say goodnight, and hug me, and instead I'm alone and at that precise moment it hits me so hard. Then I get upset AT him and have to hold back because I know it's just frustration.
I don't think he really goes through them. If he does, he's pretty good at not dwelling on it.

I'll text him something cute, or ask if we can talk on the phone soon.

[adrian]

All the time. Not that I don't live or go about my life. But, when something good happens wanna see and hug him, and when something bad, really wish he could hold me. right now have that moment. He is going thru some things right now and I can't be there for him. If I was there couldn't fix but a hug sure helps :-)

And of course those random moment, out to dinner or something. And thinking how great if he was here with me

[bluishskin]

This "I need you now" (INYN) moment happens to me a lot, and to him as well obviously...especially for the past few days as he's been working at an onshore oil rig where phone coverage is hard to get and we won't be able to chat until he gets back home next Weds. He has this 2-weeks work and 2-weeks off as his routine. I no longer live with my family and my parents have passed away so it's relatively easy for me to become lonely. But...I always thank God for having him no matter how far the distance separating us. He's willing to listen to me when I call him just to sob, simply bcoz I miss him very badly or bcoz of any other reason at all. He usually then tells funny things that make me giggle and finally stop crying. I'm having INYN moment right now and I cant call him or chat with him which is frustrating. Texting is sometimes a problem bcoz sometimes my text doesn't reach him and neither does the other way around. Luckily I have some of his videos that he recorded with his mates when he was in Australia and a lot of them are funny. When he's having INYN he just calls me simply to say how much he misses and loves me...and I tell him the same thing and we start talking about something else such as what we should do on his next visit, which restaurant we should go to, etc.

[kiara_silver]

Do you ever have moments where you get weak and you simply just need your SO?
Yeah i do, ive had these moments so many times during our relationship, my poor baby puts up with so much haha

Do you go through them? Does your SO go through them?
i go through them more often then my SO does. but he has a few times too

What do you do when it happens to you?
i talk to him, i let it all out and vent, and he reassures me or consoles me on whatever the problem is or if im feeling real needy he lets me be needy and makes me feel better

How do you console your partner?
i always try to be there for him, if ever he wants to let it all out. i try to always be understanding, when he shares things that are hard for me to hear, or things i dont agree on, and always keep his secrets