Th sudden changing/closing of windows?

[lucybelle]

Internet windows I mean. My SO does it all the time when I walk up to him while he's on his computer. I have no reason to not trust him, it just makes me curious as to what he's looking at. Honestly I wouldn't even care if it were porn just the fact that he's making it seem suspicious bothers me. I know I used to switch windows when I was on this site, but then I thought "that's silly". I don't care that he knows I belong to this forum.

Do you think it's just embarrassment? Or something to be concerned about?

[Mara]

It could be something completely harmless, like a gift for you, or just something he finds embarrassing, like porn, or it could even be something like this forum that he just wants to keep private. If it's bothering you, you could just ask him about it. But I don't think it's anything to be worried about, you've said yourself you have no reason not to trust him.

[Riyko]

Honestly I would talk to him about that, if it worries you just say hey i noticed every time you are on the computer and i walk near or past you, you always close out the windows or switch the windows, it makes me feel ____. Say something along the lines of I understand you want and need your privacy, but i'm a bit uncomfortable with that.

For all you know he could be planning something for the two of you or is going to get something for you, but doesn't want you to see.

[London-FortCollins]

Agreed, if you have no reason not to trust him, dont let this small thing become a reason, when its very likely to be something completely innocent, or even as others suggested a nice surprise or gift for you.

But I also agree, mention it to him, let him know it makes you feel a bit uncomfortable. Better to talk about it and then forget about it then have a relatively minor thing become a big issue and source of worry.

[LadyMarchHare]

I do it all the time when my mom comes in the doorway. It's not that I'm doing anything bad, it's just I do it because I don't want her to somehow read whatever I'm reading or ask questions. If there's any bit of text on the screen (I have a 22" widescreen monitor, so it's not like I'm on an itty bitty laptop) I minimize the browser window or switch it to an internet tab I know doesn't have text. I'm horribly paranoid though.

If it bothers you, talk to him about it. You don't have to know what he's looking at because chances are it's not something bad, but he needs to know that you feel like you can't be trusted with what he does online.

[paulawriteslove]

I don't think you should make a big deal about this, especially if you trust him it could just be a natural reflex when someone walks into the room.

[folclor]

Probably just something he's embarrassed. I'm the same way ^^; my boyfriend has the habit of looking at other peoples' screens and that's fine, but I can be extremely private and when he looks over at my screen (because my parents used to freak out about EVERYTHING) I will minimize or change windows or something ^^; so is likely nothign to worry about.

[Trethsparr]

Agreed, if you have no reason not to trust him, dont let this small thing become a reason, when its very likely to be something completely innocent, or even as others suggested a nice surprise or gift for you.

But I also agree, mention it to him, let him know it makes you feel a bit uncomfortable. Better to talk about it and then forget about it then have a relatively minor thing become a big issue and source of worry.

This is exactly what I thought, too, upon reading your post. Don't worry unless he gives you a reason to, but it's okay to be upfront with your concerns in a non-condemning way. His privacy is important, yes, but it's still critical for you to feel comfortable in your own home and to feel secure as well.

[milaya]

In my relationship I'm the one who does that XD I always close the window if my SO suddenly looks at my computer. And it's not because it's embarrassing stuff like porn or such. It's often this forum, FB or something like that. I just don't like people looking at what I'm doing, that's it. Of course my SO has had his suspicious moments because of this, but think by now he has stopped caring (he can't understand the pages anyway XD).

So I wouldn't be too concerned. It might, like some have said, be things he finds a bit embarrassing like porn or something like that. Or it might just be a habit like it is for me. You could of course ask if it bothers you.