Well the leaving him was bc I realized I really needed to because he was controlling with the "suicide card" every time something went wrong. But even though everyone says this is an emotionally abusive relationship I realized I still want to be with him..
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I'm sorry to hear about all this.
As someone once said to me when I was considering whether I should break up with my ex or not, "Love will not be this hard". Yes, there are times of struggle and times you have to really work at it. But it will not be THIS hard or THIS painful.
I hope you stick around, but I understand if you don't.
Be kind to yourself, you deserve that.Comment
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Oh I'm so sorry to hear this. But you can still join us here and share your opinions.. :'(Comment
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it's really sad that the relationship that you nurtured must come to an end...
It really breaks my heart. I couldn't see myself in your shoe.
Be well and don't stop believing in love. God bless you. Hugs >
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it's really sad that the relationship that you nurtured must come to an end... It really breaks my heart. I couldn't see myself in your shoe.
Be well and don't stop believing in love. God bless you. Hugs ><
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This sounds like what happened to my last LDR. I'm really sorry to hear this. I wish you all the best.
"Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest human beings infinite distances continue,
a wonderful living side by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between them
which makes it possible for each to see the other whole against the sky."
- Rainer Maria Rilke
"An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet,
regardless of time, place, or circumstance.
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Well, true. The emotional blackmail is horrible - it's immature and speaks volumes about his mindset. Will you two attempt to see each other this summer still?Originally posted by vpavelock View Post
When we love, it isn't because the person's perfect, it's because we learn to see an imperfect person perfectly.
True love does not worry about the distance between, for the heart and soul travels through one's words
When two people are meant for each other, no time is too long, no distance is too far, and no one can ever tear them apart.
1 universe, 9 planets, 7 continents, 194 countries, 50 states and 10 provinces...and I had the privilege to meet you.Comment
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Hi there...
I'm really sorry to hear what has happened. You both must've put so much to try to make it work. I couldn't imagine what it would feel like if I were you.
We all understand that it's not easy for you to deal with this, but despite how badly you want him, I think it's time for you both to reflect on the relationship, just like what BabyGund said. LDR is not for everyone, in fact my 1st LDR didn't work bcoz my then SO couldn't handle of being apart from me and it was only for less than a year. Furthermore, my 1st LDR showed me how unhealthy and abusive the relationship was that I had to put an end to it for the sake of my healthy wellbeing. Yes we loved each other but at least to me love is not everything. Compatibility is as important as love, and my ex and I were just not compatible enough to endure the distance.
I believe in soulmate. If he's the one for you then eventually you both will end up being together no matter what happens. Of course, efforts and sacrifice are needed to make things work. Keep in mind that everyone deserves a healthy relationship. Love yourself. Give yourself some time to think about it all, surround yourself with loving people and cherish your life.
I wish you all the best. You are always welcomed to stay here. If not, we understand.
*Hugs!*
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Originally we said we would and were doing well as friends and then he exploded on me randomly because he basically wants me to wait 3 years for him and I want to see if I can get over him as best I can and find love elsewhere. Currenltly he pretty much hates me and I'm done contacting him because he really doesn't know what he wants, and instead of giving it some thought he keeps exploding on me!~"Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them"~Comment
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My heart goes out to you. That is a lot to deal with especially from someone you love. I wish you all the best. Take care of yourself.....and stay with us....Love is patient and kind. It does not envy or boast; is not proud, rude or self-seeking. Love is not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs. It does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
~*~Love never fails~*~ 1 Corinthians 13Comment
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if you guys broke up why would he think you would wait for him for 3 years? :/ thats not fair on you, if hes the one great but if he's not then he has to except that and move on! but please dont leave staaaaay!Originally posted by vpavelock View Post *huggles*
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I'm sorry to hear that, i really am, anyways you should def stay here and join me the only other single person who posts regularly 
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Thanks everyone, I may stay here afterall, but be a bit less active of course.
The current update is that after he exploded on me last night told me he doesn't know what I want and said "don't talk to me" I went to sleep woke up, and saw my face already felt clearer because I decided yesterday to stop stressing over him. I decided to delete him from facebook and delete his number from my phone so I don't feel tempted to contact him, and if he's ever ready to talk to me than he can contact me.
As emotional as it has been, loosing the love and my life and all I definitely can say I got a sign yesterday. There is ONE person from my high school that goes to the same college as me. On the bus ride back to school we sat near each other and talked for the 3 1/2 hours straight and we decided that when the weather gets a little warmer, we'd go for a run together.
During the ride he had told about how he hasn't had a facebook in a while, but then that night he had made a new facebook and requested me, told me he enjoyed talking and asked me about what I was doing this week. He told me he realized he didn't have my number and asked for it. I think he might have made a facebook to get my number, since we don't pass each other on campus that often.
It's funny because he lives the hall right next to mine, and he lives in the same town back home. I'm definitely getting ahead of myself, but it definitely made me have hope that I could possibly love again, and perhaps in a more convenient circumstance.~"Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them"~Comment
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When one door closes, another opens...
When we love, it isn't because the person's perfect, it's because we learn to see an imperfect person perfectly.
True love does not worry about the distance between, for the heart and soul travels through one's words
When two people are meant for each other, no time is too long, no distance is too far, and no one can ever tear them apart.
1 universe, 9 planets, 7 continents, 194 countries, 50 states and 10 provinces...and I had the privilege to meet you.Comment
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well I just broke up with my SO also...actually he broke up with me this time...its so hard. we had a break up for a week and then he contacted me again, then it was like 2 weeks later and we had another fight and he broke up with me via text message...after 2 years, a text message? I am still in the angry stage...i have done the sadness stage and every stage i think there is...lol.
Hang in there, things about for a reason. A door has to close for another one to open up. You are more then welcome to stay. I am staying because of the friendships that i have made here. Even if I can't give good advice...maybe you should do the same, meaning stay here.Comment
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