Religious Differences....

[uniquefem]

This is absolutely interesting post...

I am a moslem, and my SO he is atheis.

To be honest we havent really sit down and talk about this due to we just start the relationship... and also its a short time to know him. I dont want to talk about this over internet or phone.. i want to do face to face conversation... so we know where this is going..huuff tense.

There are so many wrong thought about islam it self in western. Especially after 9/11. Too bad its all about negative stuff that not really true. In Indonesia religious differences are common. I live in one bedroom/sharing room with christian girl with cross hanging up on our bed... doesn't matter for me she read her bible.. i did my prayer 5 times a day while shes inside the bedroom.. we respect each other here.

Once we talk about it and he made joke about how moslem like to blow things up. I look at him.... and joking are you talking about BJ on our first date?? he shocked and seemed forgot that i am a moslem. He said sorry tho. He is afraid to go to Indonesia knowing we had the largest number of moslem there. There are so much wrong information about islam that fear him.

The thing that lighten up.. he work with a moslem guy while he live in USA. He often went to the guy house and met the family. For five years they did project in Standford... so.. he knows a tiny bit about moslem family life.

If my visa approved.. ohh we will have so much to talk about... and this is one of it. If we want to have future... i can't help it to ask him to convert.. in indonesia marriage between different believes is impossible. So.. yeah... its one of those talks that wont be easy to brought up.

I love him so very much, so does him... i will go back to this thread when we already talk about this.. hahaha this is BIG.

[OliveOyl]

I totally agree its a super important convo to have if religious is taken very seriously, like I understand you do.

[kireinamida]

It is important for me to have someone who has the same faith as mine. Plus, I don't want to have problems in that future regarding that matter. I'm really glad my SO and I the same.

[Riyko]

i was baptized Protestant, but i'm athiest, when i get into another relationship it will be extremely important to me that he respects my beliefs, if he wants to go to church every sunday that's fine, but I won't go with him, if we have kids they will get to choose if they want to go to church or not but i will wait until they are older to start going to church if they want to.

[MichixLuvsxU]

I am agnostic/spiritual and my SO is Agnostic but I believe he's more of an Athiest.
Our views on different subjects clash, for example, death. :/
I believe there is some kind of higher being, he doesn't.
But we get along great because what we believe in doesn't really matter much to either of us.

[nicole]

i was baptized Protestant, but i'm athiest, when i get into another relationship it will be extremely important to me that he respects my beliefs, if he wants to go to church every sunday that's fine, but I won't go with him, if we have kids they will get to choose if they want to go to church or not but i will wait until they are older to start going to church if they want to.

Ah I've had that conversation with my SO, he said kids learn good morals in church like he did. I didn't go to church when I was little, and I turned out fine, so I think that argument is invalid. I told him I want to raise our kids without religion, then if when they are older, and they express an interest in any religion, be it Christianity or Buddhism or whatever, I would provide them with any information I can provide such as books or internet pages. In the end, I think religion is very personal, and it's up to them to decide if they want to practice a religion when they are old enough to understand and make their own choice.

[uniquefem]

I totally agree its a super important convo to have if religious is taken very seriously, like I understand you do.

not only by me but also by the society here... this is a deep heavy talk... thats why i dont want to do it over internet this is all future thing.... will lead to that hahaha.. im not that really into religion i just try to be the good girl who dont want to hurt others..

Love shouldn't be this complicated thats what i think..

[BabyGund]

A wise man once said to me: "There's a difference between knowing the path and walking it."

Another wise man said "Never discuss sex, politics or religion in polite company."

That's The Boy and I. We don't discuss it, except for how it relates to a current news story of some sort.

He was raised Catholic. I was raised Presbyterian.

I know I do not walk the walk as I should. The Boy has no walk as far as I know. I am not saying he has no religious anything, but we just don't talk about it really.

I'm sure he would not begrudge me a trip to Sunday Services but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't attend with me. No worries.

[Tabitha]

There has never been any difference with us, as we're both agnostics that were raised in christian homes.

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I am a Catholic, and my boyfriend was raised Catholic....but he now considers himself to be an athiest. His mom would force him to go to mass in high school, and he has said he does not agree with the idea of organized religion and thinks the Catholic church is hypocritical. I still see some semblance that he does believe in God, though. I've seen him pray with my family on holidays and his own family, too. I HEARD him saying the prayers. Also, he is very quick to use God's name in vain a lot. I do not go to mass every week, but I do believe in God. I am part of this Catholic club at my college, and I go on retreats with them once or twice a semester. When I go on the retreats, I barely get to talk to my boyfriend for the weekend, but he is completely supportive of me going on these retreats and getting the full experience. Anthony and I never really talk about religion, so I don't know how he's really feeling. We're both tolerant of one another's choices in regards to religion, but I do worry that if Anthony and I get married one day, he would not want to get married in the church. I've dreamed of a wedding in the Catholic church my entire life, and I want to raise my children Catholic. I believe that these differences will not impact our relationship negatively, unless we let it....it's all about being tolerant of one another's beliefs.

[MathnSkating]

I'm Jewish, but I'm in an interesting situation where most of my family is Catholic/Christian. I.e. my dad is Catholic. My mom is the only jew in my family. I'm still not sure about how to handle christian holidays. For me they are a family thing. I love Christmas. Songs, trees, So fun! I don't quite fit in with a lot of the jewish crowd because of how much influence christianity has on my life, but I'm jewish. I keep kosher, go to synagogue, I speak hebrew. I've only ever dated Christians and its been an issue each time. Its important to me to have a jewish wedding, I keep the sabbath, and I've basically been met with complete diregard for my holidays my entire dating career. Its infuriating.

HOWEVER! My SO is converting to Judaism from a Catholic family. So, um, this works out strangely well for me. We're on the same page with jewish beliefs (mostly. I'm a bit more relaxed than him so I may have to step it up a tad.) But its great because we're both under the "No christmas tree in our home. Noting wrong with going to the parents' place!" mentality. First time I've ever been able to get excited about a holiday, or talk about preparations, and have my SO... Care. Its really nice.

[Pisces]

While my SO and I share the same beliefs (not atheist, but no actual "religion" per se), a very close female friend of his has had a lot of trouble finding herself a significant other because of her religion. Its a very small community, which makes it hard enough, but she's also a bigger girl and most men she meets are turned off by that. I've met her, and she's a really great person (My SO has even admitted that, were it not for her needing/wanting a man of the same religion, they probably would have started dating a couple years ago when they met). There's a rather sad story he told me about a man she met online that was of the same religion, but when she sent him a picture of her, he quite literally stopped talking to her and vanished. Never heard from him again.

[Inf_Amy]

I'm a Christian, whereas, my SO is strongly atheist. I don't go to church regularly, but I never have done. My sister and I were brought up religiously but neither of my parents went to church - my mum is also Christian, my dad was atheist. I want the same for my children. I want to bring them up with a faith but I won't drag them to church unless they express an interest in going. I definitely want to get married in a church though. My SO knows it's important to be and is 100% okay with it. Our differing faiths (or his lack of one) has never been a problem for us. In fact, we've had some very interesting conversations because of it. Just yesterday, we were watching Wonders of the Universe together and he asked whether I believe in the Big Bang Theory and all that stuff; amazing conversation.

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